How do you deal with cheating of a loved one?
- Thread starter Gelion
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Bingo. If the marriage vows have not yet been made, just move on.
Winner
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Well, that's a problem. When everybody knows, you look like an idiot. Best keep it in secret.
Cheating is for me one of the few reasons to terminate a relationship immediately. Just find yourself someone who doesn't cheat, there are many out there
Oh and btw, having moral doesn't necessarily imply religiousness, and certainly isn't a weakness either.silver 2039
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Cheating? No such thing. I encourage sexual prmoscity I wouldn't mind. /
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...so your opinion is worthless.
Bugfatty300
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I've broken up with girls just because I believed they liked another guy. I'm definetly the jealous type.
The funny thing is that I've never been "cheated" (that I know of) on in the taditional sense.
Edit: I always feel sorry for guys who go back to girls who cheat on them. Girls too. Seems they are too insecure to even contimplate having to find someone else.
The funny thing is that I've never been "cheated" (that I know of) on in the taditional sense.
Edit: I always feel sorry for guys who go back to girls who cheat on them. Girls too. Seems they are too insecure to even contimplate having to find someone else.
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Excactly, if I was though I don't think I would mind.
Prince_Imrahil
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Winner said:
But doesn't this say something you? Can't be bold enough to be who you are instead of letting the other person think you're something else (faithful) and justifying it by telling yourself you'd expect the same from them?
Other than that, if the partner most likely will never find out, can anyone tell me why one shouldn't cheat? Sure your violating an agreement but only to your benefit! This is asked in all academic seriousness.
Bamspeedy
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If you aren't good enough for her that she has to go elsewhere, then why would you want to be with her? Relationships are mostly about being an equal with each other, and apparently you don't have a problem being the neglected one. Have more respect for yourself than that!
Unless of course, it is agreed by both of you that either one of you can sleep with whomever, then I guess that isn't a problem. Not the situation I would want to be in, but hey, if that's the kind of relationship you want, then more power to you.
In my opinion cheating in the form of adultery, asides from the extreme cases in which the spouse is missing or the spouse is an abusive son of a *****, should still be an offense punishable by public stoning. If you can't keep your penis in your pants or another man's penis out of yours when you're supposedly with a person you love and trust, your lying, back-stabbing genes should be cleared out of the social gene pool.
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Mmmhmmm methinks those who thinks their selfish desires amount to the life of another person ought to be stoned 
Winner
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Don't fool yourself, we all pretend to be different people than we are. Any relationship starts that way: you act like you were nice, intelligent, self-confident, you show the good part of you. Then, after some time, your bad part starts to show up and your parner suddenly realizes you're not the man she knew, at least not exactly. Sometimes she puts up with that, sometimes she doesn't. That's life.
The worst think you can do after you cheated is to confess. Especially if you love her. If you can't live with your guilt, you're even weaker.
Because it is not right. Relationship in the Western society means you should be faithful. But we are weak, sometimes we fail, but there is no need to make it worse. If you want to continue in the relationship, the best thing you can do is to shut up and try to forget it.
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Winner said:
I almost thought you were a, keep it secret keep it safe keep it up, kinda guy. Thing is, a lot of people fool around behind their partners back and they never know, and since they don't and usually won't, the sleep-arounder sees nothing wrong here! And in the end all arguments for wrongess are self-interested, so is this wrong ONLY if the perpertrator gets caught? (no one cn call it wrong, he doesnt care, only objectivity is left and in the end theres no such thing as right or wrong!)
Gelion
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Plus women never tell anyone about how they cheat. Girls and silly women do that...
Good words Winner. Not sure I am yet strong enough to accept them, but I buy them.
Plus women never tell anyone about how they cheat. Girls and silly women do that...
Good words Winner. Not sure I am yet strong enough to accept them, but I buy them.
I got an idea, just not care. So what if they screw around your back? Sure its deception and I hate that, but once you find out, tell them you don't care who they have sex with. Or just get an open marriage
Either way, cheating is only a real problem because of the betrayal of trust thing. The sex itself means nothing
Either way, cheating is only a real problem because of the betrayal of trust thing. The sex itself means nothing
