I agree with your post and appreciate the observation. Just out of curiosity.. I have studied the Hofstede index both in university and privately and ended up at the conclusion that it is absolute garbage, akin to similiar theories like "clash of civilizations", which I am sure you are familiar with. Often times people like Hofstede enjoy generalizing complex issues simply to have "actual results", which in turn are often flawed, without nuance and heavily ideologically biased.
As for your observation regarding feminism.. I do feel like this is a very important step forward in mankind. I think the definition of "a real (tm) man" should be a person who stands up for himself and others, has a healthy moral compass and takes responsibility for his actions". Indeed, I want to see it completely removed from any "traditional" gender roles: "a man should be strong, assertive, a leader.. etc". I do agree with you that these ideals can be potentially harmful for young people growing up.
This post back only on the usefulness of Hofstede.
Hofstede started as construction engineer (NL, University Delft, 1953, Ir.). He did sociology, promoted on organisation (NL, University Groningen, 1967, Dr.). IBM decided that cultural sociological differences between countries were both bigger than their management could handle, and important for the results. Those managers with mainly technical background, often not talented in social skills and empathy. (we call them not nerds here, but "technical horks").
From personal experience: Raised as a technical hork, I worked for a long time in a London Stock Exchange based niche tech industrial global company in many countries and was lots of time in most of those countries.
Service, business to business. Cultural understanding mandatory of your own people and the customers.
The lack of cultural understanding from the anglospheric headquarters on local/regional business and human culture was appalling low. They had no clue where to trust or be cautious, where uniformity made sense and where not.
Travelling around, what I typical did was having dinner the evening before with some or most of the people, I had the next day the formal meeting. To quick immerse in their way of thinking, to touch or get the tone of the context. (and for example to readjust my ears to the next dialect of German language like deep-Bavarian, Schwarzwald, Steyermark

). To lower the treshold to discuss things that they would be insecure to raise in the formal meeting (is cultural !).
That and the book "Mind you Manners" of John Mole was everyting I had in my luggage at first.
When somebody pointed out Hofstede, I,
as uneducated as I was in sociology stuff, was really happy with it, with for me new concepts, because it helped me to better store/archive away, calibrate my experiences. No more. No bible. From there I started reading more. Perhaps it is only a really usefull book for people that have no professional clue on sociology and yet need some basics in international dealings as extension of only minding your manners.
Using it to understand anecdotical experience is ofc the reverse process of predicting theoretically from it, how interactions will go from a theoretical ordened question lists. Using Hofstede as source of eyeopeners to investigate upon, or challenge, yet another dimension.