Random Rants ΠΑ: That's a paddlin'

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Are you being disingenuous, or is that just your regular conservative schtick? I know you're one of the sexism deniers at this site, so your support of objectifying women is disappointing but not surprising.

You should know very well that some attitudes can be harmful to others. You know very well the hurt caused especially by viewing women as sexual meat.

But whatever, it's the woman's fault for feeling grossed out by sexism.
 
....new thread time?
 
Oh no, I'm not the one rocking the fundie vibe here.
 
That was fast.
 
And I just realized I'm not sure how far a thread dedicated to sexism could go before getting shut down. Its a pretty touchy subject.
 
If I were gay, the answer might well be yes.
My anecdata tells me this is definitely very possible, yeah. I do think there is a difference in persistence and willingness to back off, though not an extremely stark one, as far as I can tell. But could be wrong.
 
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My anecdata tells me this is definitely very possible, yeah. I do think there is a difference in persistence and willingness to back off, though not an extremely stark one, as far as I can tell. But could be wrong.
My corollary again, what if you knew your male friend was heterosexual? Would you still have an expectation of possible sex with him?

I feel like you and @Lexicus are sort of reinforcing this stereotype that men only think about one thing, lol. I mean, you really imagine that if you're homosexual and you're meeting up with a male friend of yours, you'd be anticipating sex? And as heterosexual men, you both feel this way about women?

Women have this fear/feeling that men only ever treat us nicely when expecting sexual favors, that men don't have any respect for us whatsoever as equals, but will only pretend to do so if they think it might possibly lead to sex. Maybe I'm a hopeless optimist, but I always thought this was a gross exaggeration, despite my personal experiences. I do sincerely hope it isn't really true, please give me something to restore my faith in the male species? :P
 
Ok, I'll take a shot.

Almost every single positive interaction you've had with a man has also been with a man that has active, and at times overpowering, sexual interest in a wide variety of persons. They just usually shut the hell up because it isn't acceptable to talk about it with a lot of people, and they'll judge you for it. Sexual interest is augmented by a person being a cool person. Cool people are attractive. Objects, by and large, are not. Though I suppose some people might have things for like shoes or something, that's a fetish, and unusual.
 
I bought train tickets and then discovered they are offering a double-points special that you have to register for before buying the tickets. They're non-refundable tickets too so I can't cancel and buy them again. I know it's dumb but I need mah points.
 
I don't feel it matters what you "don't post" ... you provide enough consistency in your sample size here to give a general impression.
You know very well that we can only form an opinion of someone by what side of them we're exposed to, and when your actions and words follow a pattern, then that's how I'm going to think of you.

What about not judging? That's also an option.
You posted I think that you spent the last Sunday with some wine on the couch. Fine.
You see? I didn't scream "alcoholism", or something like that. I can read that without assuming that you hobo out each weekend. I don't need to assume that you're getting wasted every second day.
But while we're at unfair judgement: Should you not be working or something? Are you wasting your employers money? Abusing his resources?

It's not my fault for viewing you as being predatory to women when pretty much every time you talk about a woman on here it's in a sexualized way.

No of course I haven't witnessed your relationship with that woman, but I did read what you wrote ... you said you were surprised that she wasn't as hostile to your flirting as she normally is, and you took this as a sign that she's now open to sleeping with you. Maybe you don't realize how you sound? The idea many men seem to have about how "You can get a woman by wearing down her defenses until she finally gives in" is sickening.

The last thing I wrote that I was disappointed about a suddently stopped conversation.
The thing I wrote before was that I see a chance to have sex with a friend. Which I suggested to her, and she said no.
You might want to explain to us your definition of "sexual predator", if this fits in.
Because no matter what I thought, you thought, we both expressed here, that is the thing which happened.

I will make a deal with you though, I won't hold such an opinion of you if you stop posting about your sexual expectations and disappointments?

lol no.
I'll not stop posting stuff because you have an uneasy imagination about what I post.

You say you're really a different person and you respect women, can you actually demonstrate this to us?

Or do you really not at all care how your behavior makes women feel?

Well, it seems that if I'd told you here that I just talked to a woman, you'd still call me a sexual predator. So I'm not sure how to do that, and I'm actually not willed to take any suggestions from you.
 
I bought train tickets and then discovered they are offering a double-points special that you have to register for before buying the tickets. They're non-refundable tickets too so I can't cancel and buy them again. I know it's dumb but I need mah points.

If you bought them less than 24 hours ago, pretty sure Amtrak does refunds even on nonrefundable tickets.
 
I feel like you and @Lexicus are sort of reinforcing this stereotype that men only think about one thing, lol. I mean, you really imagine that if you're homosexual and you're meeting up with a male friend of yours, you'd be anticipating sex? And as heterosexual men, you both feel this way about women?

I mean, I have literally met up with a female friend who was a former lover of mine, expecting nothing but a friendly chat over drinks, only to end up in the backseat of her car....so I don't really know how to answer your question. The whole thing is context-dependent in a way that doesn't lend itself to abstract discussion of the issue on an anonymous internet forum.
 
I mean, I have literally met up with a female friend who was a former lover of mine, expecting nothing but a friendly chat over drinks, only to end up in the backseat of her car....so I don't really know how to answer your question. The whole thing is context-dependent in a way that doesn't lend itself to abstract discussion of the issue on an anonymous internet forum.
I can totally understand spontaneous passion can happen, I'm more confused about the expectation of such before hand.
 
lol no.
I'll not stop posting stuff because you have an uneasy imagination about what I post.

Next time you want to post something about a woman, imagine what the woman might think if she found the post (and somehow knew who it was about). At least a few of your posts she would probably feel a little weirded out about. So at least try to tone those down, maybe?
 
I can totally understand spontaneous passion can happen, I'm more confused about the expectation of such before hand.

You can make things passionate, or you can at least plan to try.

(I dare you to call me a sexual predator for planning a romantic evening)

Next time you want to post something about a woman, imagine what the woman might think if she found the post (and somehow knew who it was about). At least a few of your posts she would probably feel a little weirded out about. So at least try to tone those down, maybe?

That's why I try to keep my identity here really anonymous, so that nobody can track me back.
Would my friend have been uneasy, if she had read it here? Yes, rightfully. That's why I didn't tell her.
Are there many other things, which will make people uneasy when they'd read them here, independent of if it's sexual or not?
Yes, for sure. Just think about your mom.
So...this has nothing to do that the content is sexual :dunno:.
 
I mean, I have literally met up with a female friend who was a former lover of mine, expecting nothing but a friendly chat over drinks, only to end up in the backseat of her car....so I don't really know how to answer your question. The whole thing is context-dependent in a way that doesn't lend itself to abstract discussion of the issue on an anonymous internet forum.

Sounds like you answered it right there. You weren't expecting a sexual conquest before the meeting. It led to sex, but that's not the result you were counting on before stepping through the door.

Mary's point, to me, seems to be that she very rarely if ever has the thought process before meeting with a man that they might get down and dirty, and that it's being implied here by men that they do have that thought process, even where it isn't applicable or appropriate. That, even if it is inappropriate, men think it's fine to make those thoughts public and known to the intended subject of fantasy. That the expectation of sex during any private encounter with a woman is "reasonable" to prepare for, and that Mary finds this questionable and creepy.

Which I agree with, if my interpretation is correct. If you have a complicated history with a specific person, expectations can rear their head despite one's best intentions. But it gets a little, erm, interesting if this expectation is present with every interaction with a woman, be they friend, acquaintance, or a stranger that has yet to even be met. Along with the side sentiment in another thread about how it's seen as an objective failure to not have had sex yet in 2019, and how every rant or rave involving a woman ends with either "I didn't have sex with her. :(" or "I'm going to try and have sex with her! :)"
 
Sounds like you answered it right there. You weren't expecting a sexual conquest before the meeting. It led to sex, but that's not the result you were counting on before stepping through the door.

Mary's point, to me, seems to be that she very rarely if ever has the thought process before meeting with a man that they might get down and dirty, and that it's being implied here by men that they do have that thought process, even where it isn't applicable or appropriate. That, even if it is inappropriate, men think it's fine to make those thoughts public and known to the intended subject of fantasy. That the expectation of sex during any private encounter with a woman is "reasonable" to prepare for, and that Mary finds this questionable and creepy.

Which I agree with, if my interpretation is correct. If you have a complicated history with a specific person, expectations can rear their head despite one's best intentions. But it gets a little, erm, interesting if this expectation is present with every interaction with a woman, be they friend, acquaintance, or a stranger that has yet to even be met. Along with the side sentiment in another thread about how it's seen as an objective failure to not have had sex yet in 2019, and how every rant or rave involving a woman ends with either "I didn't have sex with her. :(" or "I'm going to try and have sex with her! :)"
Thank you, I feel you've accurately expressed my feeling, and I greatly appreciate you sharing your view.

Faith in Men +1
 
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