Random Rants ΠΓ': Parental guidance required

[aimeeandbeatles]

Rant: I didn't fasten the lid onto my cup right and spilled on my clothes.

 

[Broken_Erika]

Rant: I didn't fasten the lid onto my cup right and spilled on my clothes.

I sometimes forget to properly close the lid on my coffee cup after making coffee so when i shake it*, bad things happen.
*i prefer to close the lid and shake the thermos-cup instead of stirring it.

 

[Commodore]

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who actually cares about security.

 

[MaryKB]

Wanna bet?

Consider, there might be times when MrKB gets home from work, but his mind is still on something that happened during his shift, or maybe there was an announcement about a mysterious mandatory meeting that he has to attend on his next shift and he's concerned what it might be about...at those times can't you feel the "his mind is elsewhere"? Not that that kind of thing is a "major insult" fault, but people feel it, and it doesn't feel good. If it happens continuously eventually the person comes across as "absent even when they are here, workaholic married to their job," and material for a divorce.

What would be missing there is that you want his full attention. That's normal. And very very few people can actually bring anything close to their full attention to bear, because most people are so cluttered up with yesterday, and tomorrow, and things that might be right now but even if they are they are half a world away.

So when you encounter someone who can, and will, generate their full attention and turn it all on you it leaves an impression that is very hard to forget...but don't expect that their attention will still be on you the next day when they are down the road, because they will be focusing that same way on wherever they are then. I'm that guy.

If there's something bothering him, I want to be able to help. I don't want him to push his concerns away, I want him to share what's going on with me so I can be here for him. It's my job to get those things off his mind, not his lol.

And also it's very often I'll be thinking about something I learned yesterday, something I need to do tomorrow, and what I'm focusing on right now all at the same time. I mean, a human mind is capable of processing many thoughts and feelings simultaneously, right?

And he'd d*** well better be thinking about me tomorrow when he's "down the road" lol!

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who actually cares about security.

I work in financial security, there are lots of people who take it very, very seriously. Did something happen? Did someone you know get hurt or scammed?

 

[Commodore]

I work in financial security, there are lots of people who take it very, very seriously. Did something happen? Did someone you know get hurt or scammed

I'm in physical security. I work for the city now and I'm trying to upgrade the woefully inadequate security at City Hall. Every improvement I try to make keeps getting shot down though for stupid reasons like "that will make people upset". It worries me because the current security procedures have gaping holes in them that would make it relatively easy for a mass shooter to get through undetected until they actually start shooting people.

 

[MaryKB]

I'm sorry they're being so dismissive of your suggestions, I certainly know what that feels like. I hope you're able to do what you can to make your work feel more secure.

 

[Commodore]

I'm sorry they're being so dismissive of your suggestions, I certainly know what that feels like. I hope you're able to do what you can to make your work feel more secure.

Thanks. It's especially frustrating since upgrading security and my training/experience in counter-terrorism is why they hired me in the first place.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

the current security procedures have gaping holes in them that would make it relatively easy for a mass shooter to get through undetected until they actually start shooting people.

What are the chances they'll blame you if that does happen?

 

[Synobun]

What are the chances they'll blame you if that does happen?

Pretty high, but Commodore seems the stickler type when it comes to procedure. The paper trail he can expose if they try would be monumental.

 

[Commodore]

What are the chances they'll blame you if that does happen?

They might try, but it likely wouldn't be successful since my suggestions, and the rejection of them, are documented. So if they try to blame me, I have plenty of evidence to show that I did everything in my power to prevent it.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

I sometimes forget to properly close the lid on my coffee cup after making coffee so when i shake it*, bad things happen.
*i prefer to close the lid and shake the thermos-cup instead of stirring it.

I did that once with a five gallon bucket of paint.

 

[JohannaK]

If there's something bothering him, I want to be able to help. I don't want him to push his concerns away, I want him to share what's going on with me so I can be here for him. It's my job to get those things off his mind, not his lol.

And also it's very often I'll be thinking about something I learned yesterday, something I need to do tomorrow, and what I'm focusing on right now all at the same time. I mean, a human mind is capable of processing many thoughts and feelings simultaneously, right?

And he'd d*** well better be thinking about me tomorrow when he's "down the road" lol!


I work in financial security, there are lots of people who take it very, very seriously. Did something happen? Did someone you know get hurt or scammed?

I think what's at play here is to a large degree different social expectations. i.e. women brought up to be caregivers and wives and men brought up to be more selfish and self-centered. Ofc it's hardly universal, moreso these days, and you are exceptionally dedicated, it seems to me.

I mean it's great, you know, I try to be a bit more like that with the people around me. Really nowhere near that, in part because of means and in part because, well, that's not me, but still that isnt terribly common.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

And also it's very often I'll be thinking about something I learned yesterday, something I need to do tomorrow, and what I'm focusing on right now all at the same time. I mean, a human mind is capable of processing many thoughts and feelings simultaneously, right?

Well, no, actually. In that aspect the brain is actually very much like the processor in a computer in that it simulates "multi-tasking" through a process of time slicing. Keeping the victi...err, beloved center of attention from recognizing that you are running multiple background tasks may seem effective, but on some deep level they are always aware of it. People usually can be counted on to not call you on it though, because they are doing the same thing to you. I'm just not one of those. I seldom call people on it, just not for that reason, but I know how to not do it myself.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Keeping the victi...err, beloved center of attention

Are you multitasking right now?

 

[Timsup2nothin]

Are you multitasking right now?

Not really, no. You have my undivided attention...but only briefly.

 

[Synobun]

I go to the hairdresser I go to because it's super close and I can get to it even on a bad day. But it's getting a little annoying. They are a generic cookie-cutter franchise, Magicuts, so it's nothing special. They have a few hairdressers there but you can't pick who you get. Walk-in only. Only one of them can follow instructions. I know the problem isn't me because there's one who can listen, and I don't run into issues at a more "upper class" establishment.

It's just a little annoying because they ask what I want, I tell them, they say okay, and then they very much give me NOT what I told them. They keep giving me the same generic male cut that is nowhere near what I ask for. It takes months to grow out and it looks terrible the whole time. Then there's a week where it looks okay, and then I need to get it cut again. And then the process restarts...

What's frustrating about it is that I have difficult hair when it comes to styling. It looks better if I can cut it to style two or three times in a row. Basically, a consistent cut is what I need. So every time this happens, I have to start from scratch.

I should just invest in an actual hairdresser somewhere. There's another place nearby but it's filled with designer people who are surgically attached to their vapes.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

This is a very silly thing to rant about, but...

MusicBee has a pretty nice miniplayer. Except for one thing:

(Not seen, but it also keeps disappearing under the taskbar when I do this.)

So I keep it stuck right above the system tray. Which leads to its own set of problems, especially with Vivaldi:

First-world problems, I know.

 

[The_J]

@Synsensa tried going bald if it gets ruined?
Or not the right shape of head?


The fitting wardrobe conversation sounds like a movie to me .
EDIT: birthday prsent considerations maybe 3 weeks before, because I never know what someone wants and will actively need,to pay attention to figure out something.
Unless it goes with travelling/another event.

EDIT2: wait, actually not completely true. The birtday of my ex I had earlier in mind, but mainly as reminders to plan something, with aome inprecise ideas.

 

[Takhisis]

Thanks. It's especially frustrating since upgrading security and my training/experience in counter-terrorism is why they hired me in the first place.

From my own experience in being hired to assess how people are doing things, I know that usually what they really want is to be told that they've been doing things right all along and only need tweaks.

 

[emzie]

This is a very silly thing to rant about, but...

MusicBee has a pretty nice miniplayer. Except for one thing:[/img]

First-world problems, I know.

First-world problem: when you have ads on spotify because you had to skip your subscription this month because you got ticketed for expired plates