Random Rants ΠΓ': Parental guidance required

[Zkribbler]

First we had a power blackout for over a day.
Then the sound system for my TV went on the fritz for almost two days.
Now, my satellite TV is not working.

 

[The_J]

How about rethinking the issue once you're sober?

I had 2 cocktails, and am feeling not very drunk.

I wanted to be in bed 3h ago, but now I'm sitting here at 2AM researching visa options, which do not apply to me :/.

 

[GenMarshall]

Yer drunk J, go home!

 

[hobbsyoyo]

I would advise against getting a fake marriage with an ex-girlfriend that already broke up with you and has already another boyfriend in a similar situation. That does not sound like a smart move to me, tbh.

 

[GenMarshall]

I would advise against getting a fake marriage with an ex-girlfriend that already broke up with you and has already another boyfriend in a similar situation. That does not sound like a smart move to me, tbh.

Sounds like the crap kids pull in high school.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I had 2 cocktails, and am feeling not very drunk.

You're still under the influence of alcohol. Making decisions then is probably not a good idea.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Sounds like the crap kids pull in high school.

My first thought was he was thinking with the wrong head! That whole situation reads like a time bomb.

 

[Ajidica]

My first thought was he was thinking with the wrong head! That whole situation reads like a time bomb.

My reaction:

 

[bernie14]

I'm staying in her home until the 12th, so to no-show would be to find a train home on New Year's.

The issue, I suppose, is that she sandwiched an agreed-upon plan between two other plans that I can't handle. And since I'm entirely reliant on her to get around, I can't just sod off and only show up to the plan I agreed to, especially with the New Year's rush. I won't have a phone and I can't take crowded public transit since I can't stand while in a moving vehicle, especially if I don't have room to brace myself. It was very clever of her to do it this way. Even when she surprises me with sudden plans, they are at least in the realm of something I can handle even if I'll dislike it. This time... not even close.

We were going to see Star Wars tomorrow night. I had asked that we get reservations at a smaller theater with no kids because my ability to handle crowds has continued to dwindle, and the last time I went to a big theatre with stairs/escalators my legs gave out and I couldn't get back up. The theater is downtown but it has parking, so even with the New Year's crowd it'd be as simple as going from the parking lot to the theater, and then back to her place.

This has been altered. Now I am to go to a seafood restaurant downtown Seattle on New Year's Eve with her and her boyfriend, without a reservation. So we need to find a different parking lot and then walk around until we find a restaurant with seating (hah). Seafood makes me sick, and I certainly can't handle downtown crowds on a holiday known for its street celebrations. Vancouver has less people than Seattle and I can't handle its crowds on New Year's, so there is exactly zero chance of me handling this. I'll also be the idiot on New Year's not eating anything or drinking anything while taking up valuable table space in a busy restaurant.

There's also the issue that I have a time limit on physical exertion and being out and about before I need to lay down in a dark room. The restaurant outing by itself will tick over the time limit, but we're going straight to the theater afterward to watch a 2.5-hour movie. Then, then, they want to go watch fireworks downtown. Again, crowds. And also several hours past my bedtime. And also requiring more walking around, when at that point I'll have already exceeded my limits by hours.

I'll be nonverbal and limping not even halfway through these plans, and I already know I'm going to be chided for "ruining the mood." Even if I physically could participate in either activity, I wouldn't want to. Yet I'll be made to feel guilty for not being grateful for being included.

If you can't, you can't.... it's quite narcissistic to put yourself down because you have not met others expectations

 

[The_J]

I would advise against getting a fake marriage with an ex-girlfriend that already broke up with you and has already another boyfriend in a similar situation. That does not sound like a smart move to me, tbh.

I broke up with her, and not because of serious differences.

Yes, probably not a smart move, which wouldn't bother me, but rather the possibility itself is the issue.

You're still under the influence of alcohol. Making decisions then is probably not a good idea.

It's 3 AM, luckily I will not decide anything right now.

EDIT: it bothers me tremendously that I could have saved her from much fear and sadness if we had done the partnership 3 months ago, then this wouldn't be a major headache right now.

 

[Birdjaguar]

"If wishes were horses, then beggars would ride."

 

[bernie14]

I broke up with her, and not because of serious differences.

Yes, probably not a smart move, which wouldn't bother me, but rather the possibility itself is the issue.



It's 3 AM, luckily I will not decide anything right now.

EDIT: it bothers me tremendously that I could have saved her from much fear and sadness if we had done the partnership 3 months ago, then this wouldn't be a major headache right now.

Wait...you broke up with her (and not because of serious differences) but now, you are having second thoughts solely because you could somehow resolve her situation?

 

[The_J]

Yes.
I didn't feel love, or thought we are long term compatible. But she is a really nice person.
And she just needs 1.5 years here for permanent residence. 2 years faking something... possible.
Visa is a big, serious thing, and going permanently back to the pseudo-dictatorship right outside Europe is serious bussiness.

 

[bernie14]

You sound like a really nice person too, trying to help her and all....

 

[Manfred Belheim]

Is she any better than the boyfriend? All you said was he is depressed and drinks, but you're acting like he's an imminent threat to her life. Meanwhile you also said she just got utterly wasted on a night that meant to just be a quiet night?

Just sounds like a total mess and your judgement is probably worse than either of theirs if your first thought is "omg I must marry this girl!". Plus you said it would look bad if she switched and you're leaving in a month anyway. Time to just back off and leave her to sort her own life I think.

 

[Synobun]

Fleece blankets are just the worst.

 

[BenitoChavez]

I received a pair of Apple Airpods for Christmas this year. They are nice to use but the process for charging them is horribly complex. To charge the Airpods you place them in this charging case. The charging case charges the Airpods by using power from a rechargeable battery inside the case. So eventually the case itself loses power and need to be recharged. To charge the case you can use one of two methods 1) Place the case on a "Qi-certified charging mat". 2) Use the USB wire that came with the Airpods. For #1 I had no idea what that was but after a google search it appears to be a magnetic induction thingy which I obviously don't have. For #2 the USB wire isn't the "normal" USB wire that the rest of my devices use. No, the port on the end of the wire is a USB-C which is smaller and none of my charging connectors have a socket for it.

So to sum up, to charge the thing I put the thing in a case, plug the connector into the case, plug the connector into another connector which I need to go out and buy, plug that connector into yet another connector, and plug that final connector into an outlet. I don't know why the hell all these connectors are necessary to charge some freaking headphones but the cynic in me thinks that it's just a way for companies to sell you another overpriced hunk of wires.

 

[The_J]

You sound like a really nice person too, trying to help her and all....

She's still important to me .

Is she any better than the boyfriend? All you said was he is depressed and drinks, but you're acting like he's an imminent threat to her life. Meanwhile you also said she just got utterly wasted on a night that meant to just be a quiet night?

Yeah, she's better, and they had a couple of fights over the last days, that's why the alcohol. She said she normally doesn't drink, that's why it hit her so hard.
And for the imminent threat... he must have said in one of the heated discussions via text that he'll report her to the immigration services. Later during a therapy session he must have admitted that he didn't mean it, but only said it in the heat of the moment to hurt her.
The first part, that's as far as a threat can go here without being actually physically violent.

Just sounds like a total mess and your judgement is probably worse than either of theirs if your first thought is "omg I must marry this girl!". Plus you said it would look bad if she switched and you're leaving in a month anyway. Time to just back off and leave her to sort her own life I think.

It's not exactly the same thought. This was more properly thought through a few months ago, when the initial problem came up, so I have an idea what options there are.
I did some research yesterday night, there might have been something overlooked in the visa case, maybe that'll fix it.

So, right now I'm sober again, but my judgement hasn't really changed.
Would also be all easier if I didn't leave the country, but there's no backing out on that one, definitely.


EDIT: Also the o letter on this keyboard seems to be not functioning properly, I'm often getting double Os.
I wonder if @Synsensa 's keyboard (right?, was you?) is spreading it's disease out ^^.

 

[cardgame]

I received a pair of Apple Airpods for Christmas this year. They are nice to use but the process for charging them is horribly complex. To charge the Airpods you place them in this charging case. The charging case charges the Airpods by using power from a rechargeable battery inside the case. So eventually the case itself loses power and need to be recharged. To charge the case you can use one of two methods 1) Place the case on a "Qi-certified charging mat". 2) Use the USB wire that came with the Airpods. For #1 I had no idea what that was but after a google search it appears to be a magnetic induction thingy which I obviously don't have. For #2 the USB wire isn't the "normal" USB wire that the rest of my devices use. No, the port on the end of the wire is a USB-C which is smaller and none of my charging connectors have a socket for it.

Too much hullabaloo about nothing, USB-C is the future and honestly how it should have been from the very beginning of USB if you ask me. Pretty stupid of Apple to not include a USB-C compatible charger though, that's a puzzle and a half for sure. Still, my PC case that I bought in 2015 has a USB-C port, so they've been around for long enough... should be maybe $7.99 to get a compatible charger. Not very nice, but then my $320 monitor didn't come with its necessary Display Port cable either, only crappy HDMI that can't unlock its full potential.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Typically usb-c charging cables have a regular usb 3.0 interface on the other end. Is this a double ended-USB-C chord? That's odd. Must be an apple thing.

@The_J I don't think there are really any good outcomes but I honestly think the best you can do for both yourself and the girl is to move on. I think trying to get involved in her fake spouse situation will only make things messy and ugly. Moving away and not marrying her won't feel good and it may be kind of ugly but honestly it sounds like you are the one putting the most pressure on yourself to act.

Edit: My rant-
The cold has moved from my nose to my lungs and throat. Honestly I'd rather be coughing than dealing with a runny nose so it isn't all that bad. Plus now I can stop taking sudafed because that helps with runny nose but not coughing and it's kept me up for the last 2 nights.

So yeah, my rant is that I had another night of only 4 hours of sleep.

Spoiler :

(I do the stereotypical guy thing where I get sick and act like the world is ending and I'm dying)