Random Rants 61

[Ice_Tyrant]

I love and hate my job. It's easy and they let me listen to whatever on my mp3 player while sitting at a desk, so that's great. Though since it's not exactly... hard labor, my mind is free to let me sink into despair and shut me down mentally. I'm good now, though I hate it that I have to worry that this could just happen to me every day. The nature of cubicle work is isolating I suppose, not helpful for me mentally.

Much of my despair is over losing the job. It's a temp job I've held since March. I need to get ready for the worst outcome just to be safe so I'll be able to deal with it if it happens. I feel like a failure enough with many aspects of my life. Not sure how I could handle having to look for min wage high school kid work after wasting so much time on my silly degree.

 

[bhavv]

In the UK, people with degrees flip burgers at McDonalds.

I have no idea where all the desk jobs are, none of them exist for me.

 

[Tee Kay]

I place a lot of value in hugs, yes. Even messages from you guys offering a hug warms me inside a bit.

I'm a feely sort of person and I'm terrible with words and I don't often play games or whatever friends usually do so hugging is the main way for me to express affection/appreciation. More so if I like like someone.

The problem is it's not a "guy thing" to hug. And when someone who are usually okay with hugs one day isn't okay with it, even if he has a good reason... well, I feel down. It shouldn't affect me this much, but it does.

Add unrequited feelings for this boy and other confusing stuff and urgh *flails*

In the UK, people with degrees flip burgers at McDonalds.

I have no idea where all the desk jobs are, none of them exist for me.

Increasing automation + increasing deregulation + cheap overseas labour + economic crisis + academic inflation + lots of older people with experience + usual intergenerational prejudice + social conditioning from birth to believe in fairytale of chasing your dreams meaning that even if you land yourself a boring/scheisse job it feels like death

Welcome to the Lost Generation, buddy.

 

[bhavv]

Well I want to carry on working at M&S, but its only until 2nd Jan if I do.

I think I can move onto the new UK benefit - Universal Credit after if I do, but I'm not sure. I have an appointment on Monday at the jobcentre to find out, and will stop by at the store later today to tell them that I should be able to stay on.

 

[Synobun]

I place a lot of value in hugs, yes. Even messages from you guys offering a hug warms me inside a bit.

I'm a feely sort of person and I'm terrible with words and I don't often play games or whatever friends usually do so hugging is the main way for me to express affection/appreciation. More so if I like like someone.

The problem is it's not a "guy thing" to hug. And when someone who are usually okay with hugs one day isn't okay with it, even if he has a good reason... well, I feel down. It shouldn't affect me this much, but it does.

Add unrequited feelings for this boy and other confusing stuff and urgh *flails*

Hugs are awesome! Guys rarely want to hug so I don't do it often. I don't think I've hugged another guy in 6 years at this point. Shame.

I understand the unrequited feelings part! When the person I was in love with got a boyfriend and I was staying over, the first couple weeks had to spent with a minimum of five feet apart from one another since I was terrified of overstepping the boundaries. It took six months for that to be eased up on to a point of comfortable proximity. Knowing the line and respecting it is tough.

 

[Hygro]

I place a lot of value in hugs, yes. Even messages from you guys offering a hug warms me inside a bit.

I'm a feely sort of person and I'm terrible with words and I don't often play games or whatever friends usually do so hugging is the main way for me to express affection/appreciation. More so if I like like someone.

The problem is it's not a "guy thing" to hug. And when someone who are usually okay with hugs one day isn't okay with it, even if he has a good reason... well, I feel down. It shouldn't affect me this much, but it does.

Add unrequited feelings for this boy and other confusing stuff and urgh *flails*

What a world we live in when people guard touch. It sucks your people aren't connecting on your wavelength.

The world needs more communication by touch. Even I've grown colder to it.

 

[JohannaK]

Hugs are pretty awesome. I rarely give them, though, not knowing how the other person might react. Many people are somewhat averse to them.

 

[Hygro]

The aversion is something I don't understand. I find it hard to believe it's anything other than an error of our culture.

 

[azzaman333]

The aversion is something I don't understand. I find it hard to believe it's anything other than an error of our culture.

I just don't like people touching me. I can tolerate it when I expect it, but unexpected touching is horrible.

 

[Hygro]

That's not uncommon. What makes it horrible?

 

[azzaman333]

That's not uncommon. What makes it horrible?

Any time someone touches me from behind, like a pat on the back or a hand on the shoulder or something like that, I typically jump and tense up. I need to be able to mentally prepare myself for it by at least seeing it coming or defensive instincts kick in.

 

[Hygro]

That sounds frustrating and I know people who are like that. But what's happening that makes it so? Like if you could slow down time intensely and observe it, what's being triggered?

 

[Rashiminos]

Selfie.Spoon.Is.a.Thing.

 

[gay_Aleks]

Back in my day, kids didn't take selfies!

Because they weren't rich enough to afford non-existent technology.

Also because they were too busy being commies.

I was also too busy being unborn, as well.

 

[Arakhor]

Any time someone touches me from behind, like a pat on the back or a hand on the shoulder or something like that, I typically jump and tense up. I need to be able to mentally prepare myself for it by at least seeing it coming or defensive instincts kick in.

I'm really not a fan of being touched either, but that's probably the Asperger's talking for me. It's what makes me a super-awkward hugger.

 

[jackelgull]

I'm not comfortable with hugs either. I think I've only hugged my best friend once. I'm not entirely sure why hugging is so awkward though, since I have no problem hugging my mother, and often feel better after that. I think there is just some distance I want to keep between me and my friends?

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

Every morning's trip to the subway station reminds of how easily people dehumanize themselves. People who ostensibly should know basic principles such as courtesy and the bi-directional nature of traffic flows often act as a herd of mindless animals.

 

[ReindeerThistle]

I honestly have nothing to rant about.

 

[Lohrenswald]

I honestly have nothing to rant about.

The borgouise

btw on hugging: it's pretty awkward

 

[Takhisis]

People who wear toe rings.

Please explain this clearly irrational behaviour of yours.

Professors are notoriously flaky. Which is why you leave a lot of time if you ever need something from them. And why I am [boned]

I need to get on #fiftychat so you can explain what happened this time.

(…)I just wasted more time writing out these rants instead of sending in job applications or follow up with contacts I made at the ASCE meeting on Friday.

And yet you sometimes need to vent, so your time wasn't totally wasted.

I'm in Scotland, it's raining, and I managed to spend more than 100 pounds within a day. Meh.

Raves thread is over there --->

Hugs are pretty awesome. I rarely give them, though, not knowing how the other person might react. Many people are somewhat averse to them.

Incomprehensibly so. Hugs are great.

Selfie.Spoon.Is.a.Thing.

Dare I ask what a selfie spoon is?

btw on hugging: it's pretty awkward

How so? You evidently need practice.