Correct I do not own her . It's why I left them to themselves and left the bar and didn't interupted them. I wasn't even angry at the girl I was angry at my so called friend who "stole" (maybe that's a wrong word) - engaged her even if he knew I was interested in her. It was a dick move on his part I say.
edit It wasn't just chatting it really was making out in the sense they were kissing.
Yes, it helps to review a post before hitting 'submit' to make sure that what you've typed is not likely to cause misunderstandings and arguments (misunderstandings, especially; arguments are just a fact of life around here).
I admit I was wrong to write "my" girl, I absolutely don't claim ownership, maybe it's a phrase I heared or seen somewhere and used it automaticaly - like You guys say a cultural thing. To be honest I haven't been thinking much about the choice of words - true. I hope I haven't offended anyone. I'll be more careful in the future.
Just be grateful that Mary isn't part of this conversation.
Both of us are feminists, but she's much more emphatic about it than I am (different life experiences, plus she's a generation younger), and would have torn about a dozen strips off you by now.
Mind you, that's not permission to anyone here to use sexist language or attitudes toward me. I'm just reminding you (plural 'you') that I don't tend to blame
all men for the actions of
some men.
It's a minefield out there, everybody please be careful either way!
I just adopted a personal rule several decades ago that's served me well in life: Never intrude into another person's committed relationship (be it dating, engaged, living together, living apart but committed, or married). And keep in mind that a friendly conversation is usually just a friendly conversation and more should not be implied, suspected, or expected.
That said, I'm writing a story (the one I keep mentioning) in which arranged marriages are a fact of life. This is going to irritate some eventual readers (especially female readers), but in the society I'm setting up (and how it often was in real history), the young men don't get a say, either. When told they're going to marry so-and-so on such-and-such-a-day, the only correct response is "Yes, Father," and to show up on time for the ceremony.
But I've also decided that my main male protagonists are among the men of this society who respect that "no means NO" (am currently plotting out a conversation between one of the characters and a female character asking if he would accept "no" from his wife, who was contractually obligated not to refuse to do her "duty" - this is, after all, a story that takes place in the 11th century... it's hypothetical at this point in the story because he's not married yet, so I'm trying to decide how he's going to handle this issue). It's a juggling act between modern 21st century readers' sensibilities and what would be historically common societal attitudes among the nobility.
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