Random Rants Eighty-Four: Rants Gone Wild!!!!

[Farm Boy]

alcohol + sex drive + ovulation = babies
Timing is everything.

Yar. Though, I have some friends where he's getting into his 40s, is not super dooper physically active, and they have moved to cut booze and weed out of the house entirely for babymaking edge.

 

[Birdjaguar]

Yar. Though, I have some friends where he's getting into his 40s, is not super dooper physically active, and they have moved to cut booze and weed out of the house entirely for babymaking edge.

I would tend to agree. I only included in my formula because of Mary’s post as a motivator.

 

[Farm Boy]

Makes sense. Johanna voicing similar sentiment has me speculating on how much the inhibitions refusing to come down easily has to do with properly socialized societal demand to be able to pretend I wasn't distractingly aroused like at least 25% of the time while younger and to be able to shove that off into a corner.

 

[EgonSpengler]

I just realized yesterday was Groundhog Day and I didn't watch Groundhog Day. Darnit.

 

[JohannaK]

I'd totally want to be picked up. Now, going along to someone else's place would be something else entirely.

 

[Commodore]

My father is about to be a real lonely person. He's trying to help my criminal of an uncle commit another crime and my mother has said that's the last straw and she is going to report him to the FBI and divorce him because she isn't going to risk her job with the IRS and her retirement benefits for my criminal uncle. Both me and my brother are siding 100% with my mom on this and told my father if he continues to follow through with helping his brother, then we are turning our backs on him forever.

My mom is also the primary income by a longshot and Ohio is a no alimony state, so he's pretty much going to be screwed financially if my mom leaves. And as part of our "turning our backs on him" thing, both me and my brother have agreed not to help him even if he ends up bankrupt and homeless over this.

It may seem harsh, but if you knew what my uncle did and what he's trying to do now, I think a lot of you would understand why it's acceptable for us to threaten my father with effectively ruining his life for trying to help his brother.

 

[Farm Boy]

We still have no alimony states? Is Ohio a communal property state?

Sounds stressful, hope everything goes best it can. ><

 

[Commodore]

We still have no alimony states?

Indeed we do, thankfully. I can understand splitting the marital assets at the time of divorce and child support, but alimony is completely unfair and needs to go away forever.

 

[Farm Boy]

I'm not sure. When you could get a relatively decent paying job with average-ish benefits simply by merit of being willing to work, casting off a homemaker(not referencing your parents, more the stereotypical primary-breadwinner/primary-familycare spouse situation) with a half share of accrued assets made sense. These days, dunno. Education and work experience seems like something that has a pretty cash-on-the-barrel value that was, ostensibly, earned as a team. No? It's marriage. If there was fault, there's fault. Everything got funky when we decided that screwing around on the side can't/shant(for various reasons) be punished, marry-ier beware(not that it wasn't funky before, really).

 

[Timsup2nothin]

Indeed we do, thankfully. I can understand splitting the marital assets at the time of divorce and child support, but alimony is completely unfair and needs to go away forever.

I dunno about completely unfair, but it's certainly been made completely obsolete since we got rid of the gender bias in the workplace.

Oh.

Wait.

 

[Synobun]

Laptop is chugging something fierce.

Somehow I've gone from "so much work I'm completely booked out months in advance while working overtime" to "absolutely nothing with no interest from anywhere." I am concerned.

 

[Commodore]

I dunno about completely unfair, but it's certainly been made completely obsolete since we got rid of the gender bias in the workplace.

Oh.

Wait.

I just don't think it's fair at all for one spouse to be forced to support another after a divorce simply because they have a higher salary. Splitting the marital assets is what is supposed to provide both spouses with a financial foundation to get their lives back on track after the marriage is dissolved.

I think it's especially unfair when the spouse receiving the alimony is the one that caused the marriage to break up. Why should that person get financially rewarded for being a piece of crap? Like in the situation with my parents: How would it be fair in any way for my mother to continue to give money to my father when it is the undue stress my father is causing her that is forcing her to seek to end the marriage? If he can't support himself financially without my mother, that should be his problem to solve, not hers.

 

[MaryKB]

Alimony exists because like Tim said, women are underpaid and underemployed. And spousal abuse is still very much a thing: alimony allows an abused housewife an avenue of escape and still be able to manage. They're not on equal footing: she doesn't have the career or job prospects he has, because she's given that up to support his all these years. And even if she were educated the same (or better) than him, she still has to deal with sexism and lower expected earnings.

Without alimony, you allow husbands too much leverage over wives who've been pushed into being financially dependent. Until we've reached full economic gender equality (and there's still a LONG way to go), alimony is absolutely necessary.

 

[Commodore]

Alimony exists because like Tim said, women are underpaid and underemployed. And spousal abuse is still very much a thing: alimony allows an abused housewife an avenue of escape and still be able to manage. They're not on equal footing: she doesn't have the career or job prospects he has, because she's given that up to support his all these years. And even if she were educated the same (or better) than him, she still has to deal with sexism and lower expected earnings.

Without alimony, you allow husbands too much leverage over wives who've been pushed into being financially dependent. Until we've reached full economic gender equality (and there's still a LONG way to go), alimony is absolutely necessary.

That's why I like Ohio's system. They got rid of alimony and replaced it with spousal support that is only awarded under certain circumstances. Right now, my father would not be entitled to spousal support under the current criteria and that is a good thing. You shouldn't be allowed to sabotage a marriage and then get a payday from it.

 

[choxorn]

The broader issue, as always, is capitalism sucking in a wide variety of ways, but specifically here the suckage is that it considers household labor to be worthless and if someone (typically, but not always, a woman) takes significant time away from full-time employment to take care of dependents or just stay at home and do the housework while their spouse works at a job to get money and support the family, it permanently hurts their future earning potential because now they have a gap in their resume.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Rant: I accidentally wandered into a comments section on a website. I think some of my brain cells just died.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Rant: I accidentally wandered into a comments section on a website. I think some of my brain cells just died.

Space News?

 

[Farm Boy]

Never scroll down. It, at least, is a correctable syndrome.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

Well, we're having a ketone crisis, so no sleep for me. Sucks. My diabetic dog is off scale high.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Well, we're having a ketone crisis, so no sleep for me. Sucks. My diabetic dog is off scale high.

Best of luck, I hope she pulls through in short order.