Random Rants XLIV: I Can't Find The Answer

[Borachio]

Are you sure it works that way?

I am sure of nothing. Possibly.

But shy people do need to get over thinking themselves so damn important, in my, very shaky, opinion.

 

[GenMarshall]

Where was I reading just recently, that shy people really have very high self-esteem? Because they think it is such a tremendous blow to be rejected, they dare not risk it happening. Whereas someone with truly low self-esteem can see that it is of no consequence at all. Or something like that, anyway.

That sounds quite contradictory to me.

I personally believe it true. I want to love someday. Perhaps its that that chases my glooming heart away. The anxiety of wanting to love and not finding nor knowing who.

My heart has just been jaded from the failed relationships I had. I want a girlfriend/wife in the near future...

...however my own inhibitions are blocking me from that (unemployed virgin still living with parents.)

 

[azzaman333]

I am sure of nothing. Possibly.

But shy people do need to get over thinking themselves so damn important, in my, very shaky, opinion.

Yep, I'm up myself, that's definitely why I'm shy.

 

[JohannaK]

My heart has just been jaded from the failed relationships I had. I want a girlfriend/wife in the near future...

But you've had relationships. That's what I'm complaining about, having had none, nor prospects of having one. I want to know what love is like.

 

[Peck of Arabia]

Where was I reading just recently, that shy people really have very high self-esteem? Because they think it is such a tremendous blow to be rejected, they dare not risk it happening. Whereas someone with truly low self-esteem can see that it is of no consequence at all. Or something like that, anyway.

Hmm, there was this reasoning I found recently:

Being shy and alone, I of course rejected the suggestion out of hand

 

[JohannaK]

It's absolutely true. In my case at least. I'm such a selfish and jerky person, and I have delusions of grandeur. Definitely true.

Although my case insofar is just not having found anybody to love, more than being to shy. That will come once I find the person.

 

[Peck of Arabia]

I don't know, for me the cartoon kind of has a point- I can see the how out and out rejection would be pretty unpleasant socially and emotionally. I'm pretty risk averse in that respect and most times I decide not to risk it.

It also doesn't help that, for many social interactions, I kind of simulate them in my mind before hand, during which my brain usually provides me with the worst case scenario (often to an extremely unlikely, illogical, sometimes humourous, extent) How bad I imagine the potential scenario to go is usually proportionate to how much I want to get to know the person.

I wonder how on earth I manage to strike up a conversation, sometimes



On a more material and immediate level: My wireless adapter appears to be broken, so it's back to sitting next to the modem with an Ethernet cable for me.

 

[classical_hero]

I hate this humidity without any rain.

 

[Arakhor]

At least virginty can be "cured", CivGeneral, with ten bottles of brandy at a cheap bar. Getting married tends to be a lot more expensive.

 

[Borachio]

Ten bottles of brandy at a cheap bar?!

How does that work then?

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

At least virginty can be "cured", CivGeneral, with ten bottles of brandy at a cheap bar. Getting married tends to be a lot more expensive.

Not everyone is a horndog looking for an easy lay. Some people, myself included, are hopeless romantics.

Rant: You know where you're sitting around contemplating life and realize you are not a very nice person? Yeah. Happened to me over the weekend.

 

[Borachio]

Rant: You know where you're sitting around contemplating life and realize you are not a very nice person? Yeah. Happened to me over the weekend.

This never happens to people who aren't fundamentally nice people. Ever.

But it should.

 

[Arakhor]

Not everyone is a horndog looking for an easy lay. Some people, myself included, are hopeless romantics.

Well, of course, but once you're three sheets to the wind in said cheap bar, the easy lay option becomes really easy.

 

[Borachio]

After ten bottles of brandy, I'm not up to no good anywhere.

*hic*

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Rant: You know where you're sitting around contemplating life and realize you are not a very nice person? Yeah. Happened to me over the weekend.

I was going to say that yes, this has happened to me before many times. Then I read this most excellent post that made me feel better about myself:

This never happens to people who aren't fundamentally nice people. Ever.

But it should.

 

[Borachio]

Aww. Thanks, Mr Hobbs.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

No thank you!

Rant:

I just got a string of texts from a good friend of mine and things aren't good for him. He did poorly these last 3 semesters (he transferred to my University at the same time as myself) and he got a letter saying they were beginning procedures to kick him out of the department. Not only that but the letter they sent to him was dated December 23rd, but Postmarked from January 10th and the first email (supposedly the primary method of communication from the school) he recieved about the whole thing was Friday afternoon.

Classes start next Tuesday and they haven't made a final decision yet. He is in a position now where regardless of what they decide, he won't have enough time to take any action before the semester starts. Plus, they are trying to tell him that it's nigh-impossible to change departments (which can be done but with his GPA it will be hard) and are being snarky with him. Which means he could be kicked out of the school entirely.

I sent him a bunch of supportive texts, but in reality it's his fault and I have limited sympathy for him. He knew he needed to make changes, I even invited him to study groups and such yet he continued like he was and this is the consequence.

It all just sucks and he's my one good friend in the department. I'll make others, I just don't want him to be kicked out of the department or the university.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Well, of course, but once you're three sheets to the wind in said cheap bar, the easy lay option becomes really easy.

Unless you happen to be hideously ugly.

 

[Arakhor]

As someone once said, "I've never gone to bed with an ugly woman, But I've sure woke up with a few."

 

[The_J]

I think I may be falling for someone... again.

I always wonder how people manage to do that o_O.
I'm not sure if I've ever really fallen in love .

Where was I reading just recently, that shy people really have very high self-esteem? Because they think it is such a tremendous blow to be rejected, they dare not risk it happening. Whereas someone with truly low self-esteem can see that it is of no consequence at all. Or something like that, anyway.

I guess that might apply for some, but for most it should be the other way round.