You want me to provide proof for my opinion?
I'm not asking for proofs, I'm asking for examples. I'm not challenging anybody's right to think him a jerk. All I'm saying is that I'm not aware of him displaying jerkish behaviour, so having something to examine might be helpful... to me, if nobody else.
As an atheist myself who has engaged in religious debates, I've noticed many xians take umbrage at comments made by atheists that I myself didn't deem offensive. I've come to the conclusion that many, if not most of the complaints by xians of atheists being rude, arrogant, or abrasive is not actually due to atheists being such, but rather for not being deferential and obsequious towards religion. I believe xians are used to a certain reverence and respect when their religion is discussed, and when people don't show respect, but don't show disrespect either, this less than praiseworthy tone is nonetheless called rude and jerkish.
However, that's my possibly biased opinion, so I asked for examples... to consider whether my opinion holds out and people are calling Dawkins a jerk because he won't

to xianity, or if he is, in fact, a jerk.
I just want to test my hypothesis.
There are many, many people who DO go about discussing/debating religion without being a jerk. If he wants to do so, he could follow their example.
And could you provide something more substantial? Some do's and don'ts?
I've expressed elsewhere that I'm anti-xian, and I make no bones about it. However, despite the animosity I may feel, I try my best to maintain a civil tone when discussing it online. I don't think insulting people or typing in caps helps to promote discussion or debate on an already emotional and controversial subject. And that is one of the two main reasons I discuss things with people.
While I certainly don't expect to ever persuade people online of anything, if there is even the slightest chance it could happen, using insults and invective will only hinder that IMO. You catch more flies with honey and all that. Also, I like to learn WHY people who have different views and opinions than me, think the way they do. People are unlikely to open up and share their deeper thoughts if they think I'm going to attack and belittle them. The internet is full of juvenile, immature people who simply get off on putting other people down. I want to avoid that, so people will open up enough to either share their thoughts, or allow an interesting discussion on a sensitive subject. I want to constantly better myself, and that means exposing myself to new ideas and opinions.
So, assuming that you are xian, perhaps you could share some common things that you think atheists should avoid or refrain from saying when discussing xianity, or just talking with xians.