Now that I'm older and no longer subject to a parent/grandparent-mandated bedtime, I don't go to bed unless I'm already tired. But being tired doesn't mean relaxed, and I need to be relaxed in order to fall asleep. Reading or some other book-related thing is what relaxes me.Not saying doing things in bed is not beautiful and relaxing, it's just not good for your sleep at all. You say that doing crosswords, for example helps you sleep. However, this is a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy: Maybe, if you used your bed only for sleeping, you wouldn't even need an aide for falling asleep. But because you do it and it gets you tired, you think it 'works'.
Books have been part of my bedtime ritual ever since I was at least 3 and able to look at the pictures; it was another year before I actually started learning to read. So my bedtime included the requisite stuffed animals and a stack of books - Disney, nursery rhymes, and my mother's old school atlas. That atlas is partly responsible for my being on this forum; I had a fascination with maps even before I could read what they said. The Civ game is all about maps, so that's quite a journey from my toddler-self in 1966 to now.
My mother would keep the night light on for awhile so I could look at the books, then it was lights out. I recall Bambi giving me nightmares (just from the pictures). I've never been able to force myself to watch the actual movie.
But as time went on and I did learn to read, it became a normal part of life to read for awhile before going to bed (or sleep, if I was already in bed). I've tried other methods of relaxation - music, for example, but it's not always reliable.
Yep, a rainy or snowy day, a book, and a cat is the perfect way to relax.I occasionally read in bed, too, because it's just so comfy. If your sleep is good anyway it can be very soothing occasionally, especially on rainy or snowy days.