Spanking kids usefull and needed till when?

[Elta]

I found that since I was 6 or 7 I don't think I was given a spankin more than once a year. My little sister just turned 7 and I don't think I spanked hir sense before she was 6

( ussually I would hold her hand in my hand and smack it and on a rare occasion if I was 100% positive that she was lying or disobeyed me after being told not to do something by me I would put her over my knee and smack her on the but with an open hand.)

Now she never does anything wrong and althou my 13 year old one does some times it is never serious and I will just smack her in the back of the head* or she will be grounded by my mom


* Sometimes it is to keep her in line, sometimes it is because I am a bully BUHAHAHA I mostly just give her lectures with jokes so she will listin or I tell her the truth which is not something she allways hears so she lisitns now.


I think because they respect and fear me (yet still confide in me and come to me for advice) now they don't act out of line (nor did I ever really) I get the feelin that those people who abuse their kids and beat them with belt all the time don't really understand thier kids and thier problems or try to educate them on why something is right or wrong. That said I don't think teaching them respect when they are young even if it takes a few smacks in their bottom is a bad thing.



Thoughts? Your experiance (as a child or parental figure?)

 

[MayNilad Man]

Fear me, but follow!

Love me, but follow first!

 

[Fifty]

I dunno about spanking, but whatever you do don't give your kid 100% freedom from about 4th grade on, unless you want him to become jaded with all the various amusements of young male-hood by the time he finishes highschool and so spend more hours than is probably healthy wiling away the time raising a legion of spam monkeys in his chatroom. I never got spanked or really even punished seriously, and now everything that's all crazy and fun for most college guys is boring for fiftyson!

 

[silver 2039]

As I've said before......I use it for foreplay.

 

[Brighteye]

Spare the rod and spoil the child.

 

[{|}$~\]

It is never useful, never needed, and never morally acceptable.

 

[Azale]

It is never useful, never needed, and never morally acceptable.

Give me a break...

I was spanked till about...3rd grade. I turned out well, and have a healthy respect for what my father and mother tell me to do

I was a smartarse. Trying to discipline me without the threat of a spanking would have been incredibly frustrating.

 

[Merkinball]

People don't hit their kids enough...

 

[soul_warrior]

spanking is the Doomsday Weapon.

it should be used as deterant, NOT on a day to day basis.
fear is a bigger and better punishment than striking your child.

children should be kept inline and safe.

spanking should apply only to what you (the parent) precieve as danger.

* personally, i was spanked quite often by my step dad.
not good at all.
but it kept me from stepping too far out of line.
** till i hacked his bleedin' corpse into tiny slivers and air shiped him to Iraq

i will, when i have kids, keep spanking to the bare minimum.
but when i do, FEAR ME!!!!
* and keep it safe. nothing to harsh.
just make sure you "insult" the child.
physical injury is a major

 

[Verbose]

Well, I was never spanked and come from a nation where spanking is illegal. I would be horrified at the suggestion of spanking a child. What an outrageoulsy weird idea and disturbing idea!

It all depends. The Japanese tend to consider people who spank their children as retards, and it's hard to find people with better disciplined children.

Scandinavians also tend to think spankers are failures as parents, apart from the illegality bit. They don't seem to have children as disciplined as the Japanese. Otoh Scandinavians tend to become independant of their families early in life by comparision.

I don't think anyone can claim that spanking causes irreparable harm to children, but large parts of humanity seem to get on with parenting fine entirely without it.

 

[Brighteye]

It is never useful, never needed, and never morally acceptable.

What leads you to this conclusion?

I didn't appreciate the feeling when I was a child, but I fully appreciated the fact that I might deserve it.
Could the necessity of spanking be related to the prevalence of other measures? If the Japanese live in a culture of conformity, where everyone accepts that to be an outcast is dishonourable and unpleasant, all you need to do is make your child feel like an outcast for a bit.

If you live in a relatively anarchic, non-conformist culture then perhaps social punishment is less effective, because it is almost meaningless, there being no accepted pressure to conform. There does need to be some sort of effective punishment, and violence is the ultimate deterrent, be it against nations' or children's misbehaviour.

 

[Ansar]

I don't think spanking gets the job done. Plus, spanking has become more of a BDSM thing.

Using a belt has more of an effect.

 

[puglover]

I was spanked as a child, and I'm glad my parents did so.

But to answer the topic question, I think spanking should end around six or seven years old. I've heard of some nutty parents who still spank their children as teenagers.

 

[silver 2039]

I don't think spanking gets the job done. Plus, spanking has become more of a BDSM thing.

Using a belt has more of an effect.

Thats also a BDSM thing you know....heh

 

[storealex]

never

10 char

 

[Rossiya]

I thought spanking was a Zionist conspiracy aimed at making everybody have non-existant buttocks?

 

[Trafalgar]

Spanking till 6 -7 years old.

Caning 7 -10 years old.

Flogging 10 - 25 years old.

Imprisonment 25 - 65.

If they haven't learnt by then...Hang the buggers.

 

[Elrohir]

Not this topic again!

Anyway, spanking is fine if it's done on small children for committing serious wrongs, and isn't excessive. Generally speaking, if it causes bruises, then it's excessive.

It is never useful, never needed, and never morally acceptable.

Thanks for being the absolute moral authority for CFC.

But to answer the topic question, I think spanking should end around six or seven years old. I've heard of some nutty parents who still spank their children as teenagers.

I knew a guy who was spanked by his Mom when he was 18. He was Korean, though, and it was really a traditional spanking....it was kneeling on the ground and hold his hands up in the air while she slapped his hands with a ruler. Really strange, but whatever.

 

[kenthebear]

it's useful until they're old enough to hit you back

 

[MobBoss]

I found that since I was 6 or 7 I don't think I was given a spankin more than once a year. My little sister just turned 7 and I don't think I spanked hir sense before she was 6

Why would you be spankin' yor little sistar?

Kids are not parents. I would never allow one of my children to spank the other.

As for all the nay sayers out there....I spanked my kids and they turned out great. /meh.