The many questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread XXI

[Borachio]

Absolutely, but they don't work so well if you have to ignore everyone.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Well, either way, its easier to ignore someone online than it is to ignore somebody slamming you into a wall.

 

[Borachio]

Certainly is.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

If they don't want to forego their entertainment then they must learn to handle the bullying. It's all just a lot of text on a screen anyway. What difference does it make what the words say?

Go on, test me out. Try bullying me as forcefully as you can. See how I react. If I log off, in floods of tears, you'll know I'm upset.

Children don't have the emotional intelligence to do this and need some basic protections in my opinion. It's not fair to ask them to kindly stop doing things they enjoy because people want to bully them. It's harrassment and we shouldn't tolerate it.

In the US, you have to deal with 1st ammendment issues but I still think we should try and protect children from internet bullies on sites like Facebook. I don't know where to draw the line and say 'this site should be a safe zone and this one shouldn't' but I'm not a politician either.

 

[cardgame]

Children are expressly forbidden from Bookface.

 

[salty mud]

What nationality is she?

She is Portuguese.

 

[LegionSteve]

She is Portuguese.

So you probably get laid, but even if you don't, you still get a holiday in Portugal?

You lucky devil

 

[Grisu]

I'd have thought bullying in RL is a very great deal worse.

People who are bullied over the internet can very easily avoid it by never logging in.

It's difficult to see what laws could be implemented to prevent bullying by teenagers in real life, though. It really needs a firm policy from the schools to prevent it arising in the first place.

But that's very easy for me to say.

In the more serious cases of internet bullying, logging off often won't help as the online bullying spills over into real live through rl-friends or acquaintances. Just recently there was a public case in switzerland where a ex-bf had a 'private' video of his ex. he shared it on facebook and on other sites where it quickly spread until it turned up in most schoolyards, etc...Simply logging off certainly wouldn't help here.

 

[Borachio]

She is Portuguese.

Ah. Then she's Catholic, I would guess. Good luck with that one. Mind you, she might not be typically Catholic, or Portuguese. And it could be worse - she could be Spanish.

But take no notice of me. Times change. And my information is undoubtedly out of date.

 

[GenMarshall]

Why is it that adults don't give a... (searches for an CFC-friendly word) ...care if they do silly things that would make me Think they're making a fool of themselves and a target for ridicule?

 

[Borachio]

Because it's either that or crawl away and die in a little hole.

I no longer care if I look silly because I've felt silly so many times I've got used to it.

In any case, what does any of it matter in the light of my impending doom*, and the cosmic scale of things.

And if people laugh at me, rather than with me, at least that's something worthwhile in their lives, isn't it?

If you can't feel yourself superior to me, then look out, you're in a bad place, my friend.

*That's where the young often go a little bit wrong, imo: They think they're going to live forever, and so everything is all so terribly important. Hint: they aren't, and nothing's important really.

 

[GenMarshall]

Thats an odd concept for me to grasp. Though it may have to do with me being the recipient of malicious jokes thrown my way growing up.

 

[Borachio]

I think everyone gets malicious jokes thrown at them. Especially if other people feel a little bit envious sometimes. I don't know. Whatever.

I suppose at some stage we just put our adolescence (a painful time to be sure) behind us, and just get on with life. What's else to do?

 

[salty mud]

So you probably get laid, but even if you don't, you still get a holiday in Portugal?

You lucky devil

I'm not particularly ready for the first thing yet with her but the second would be very nice indeed.

Ah. Then she's Catholic, I would guess. Good luck with that one. Mind you, she might not be typically Catholic, or Portuguese. And it could be worse - she could be Spanish.

But take no notice of me. Times change. And my information is undoubtedly out of date.

She is both. I really don't think she's as strict as the "no kissing until we're married" types.

I hope The_J is just being a pessimist.

 

[Farm Boy]

Why is it that adults don't give a... (searches for an CFC-friendly word) ...care if they do silly things that would make me Think they're making a fool of themselves and a target for ridicule?

Borachio has that right. I've been uncool, I've been a nerd, I've had a couple bursts at University where I was pretty universally liked(though that's not hard when you are the only 19 year-old with a pickup truck and you are willing to help people move). But even then, there were always plenty of people who thought I was a tool. Trying to keep up with all the things you need to do to make people think you are suave and sophisticated and neat(which changes with age) is damned exhausting. And it never works on everybody all at the same time anyhow. Plus, doing silly things sounds like a rewarding way to spend an evening! I'm 31, if teenagers(or anybody really) want to ridicule me then they will do so regardless of how I behave in any event. Meh.

 

[GinandTonic]

Yeah. When youre older and have felt as though you were a cool cat and a contemptible failure enough times you do realise how irrelevant and superficial most of it is.

 

[Leoreth]

Why is it that adults don't give a... (searches for an CFC-friendly word) ...care if they do silly things that would make me Think they're making a fool of themselves and a target for ridicule?

Not giving a crap about what other people might think of the things you like to do is basically part of the definition of "adult".

 

[Borachio]

And is also a feature of psychopathology. But I don't let that bother me either.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Children are expressly forbidden from Bookface.

I consider everyone under 18 a child. What is the minimum user age for FB?

 

[Synobun]

Although I'd like to pretend that my health is in tip top condition now that I'm moving, it's not. At the moment, I have discovered that a quick chug of some pure orange juice can get me out of an energy funk, however, this is not feasible for the work-place. I need something small that can be put in my pocket or secured in my coat, can give me a boost, and doesn't go bad/get crushed.

Unfortunately, the requirement is a little bit more complex than "need some sugar, pops". Just any old sugar product usually makes me sick or does nothing at all whenever I'm feeling drained, and the only thing I've found that helps is, well, the shot of orange juice. I'm not sure if that is relevant information, I'm just trying to make it as likely as possible that I can find something I can bring with me to work that will lull me over if I ever go through an episode.

Any ideas?

@Hobbs: IIRC, it's 14. They only list high schools and colleges, not middle schools. Anyone younger than that on there really shouldn't be.