That a developing human life exists at a certain point is not arbitrary. It is observed. That fundamental fact shapes and informs all following decisions and considerations. That it is a developing human is why we kill it when we kill it. That it is a developing human is why nurture it when we nurture it. What we decide to do is informed by morality. What is going on is not. When we terminate pregnancies because money, when there are safe haven laws, when there are adoptions, we aren't being real. We're lying. And if you take up that argument, you are lying. The physical and emotional costs of carrying a pregnancy are true and significant, they're more than adequate to make the point. A way out must be provided if women are not to be livestock. But stop lying about why we do things and what we gain when we do. Yes, people will be bad parents. Some of those bad parents will have their children taken from them by the state, and the foster system is underfunded. The only way abortion factors into that is if you look at the foster system and think, "Man, wouldn't it be great if these kids had been aborted before they were an issue and expense." Which, for the record, I think is pretty unstated common. It's the only rational explanation for conflating the two groups.