Note that in Civ4 exports and imports are not what you'd expect: exports are the commerce gained by all the other civs, combined, from their trade with you, while imports are the commerce you get from trading with them. What matters is not whether your ratio is high or low (it's the ratio that determines ranking, not the difference) but how high your imports are. Also, however high the exports figure is it costs you nothing: in Civ4, commerce is not a matter of reciprocity but simply generated by the computer, and a small city will get more from trading with a large one than vice versa. Furthermore, if your city A is trading with foreign city X it does not follow that city X is trading with city A.
Other civs cannot "leech" your routes, unless they fill their quota of routes by trading entirely among themselves, which they will only do if trading with you is less profitable. That can happen if your cities are small compared with the foreign ones. Trade routes are decided by the computer, to maximise the commerce of every city, and thus can (and do) change rapidly from turn to turn.
Going to Mercantilism means no foreign trade routes. That denies the others any trading with you, but also prevents your trading with them, so no exports and no imports either. However, if you spot that a large part of the income of one of your rivals is due to trade with you then you can cause him a lot of trouble by closing your borders with him, at some diplomatic cost.
For an example of the unimportance of the exp-imp ranking in the Demogs screen, at a certain point in a recent game my ranking was 9th and last while my "value" was -84. Since my foreign trade "imports" were worth 146 (I counted it) the total commerce gained by my 8 remaining opponents was 230 (146-230= -84) giving me a ratio of exp/imp =1.575, hence the civ in 8th place must have had a ratio of 1.6 or higher. This was clearly Isabella of Spain, whose value was -52: hers was the only other civ with 4 decent-sized cities, of which I had 7. If she was getting as much as half my 230 export commerce, she'd have to pick up at least 180 export of her own and she didn't have enough big cities to do that, though I couldn't investigate her cities at that time to prove the point. I therefore believe her foreign income to be considerably less than my 146. So although I'm rated last I'm getting much more commerce from foreign trade than any of my rivals, which ought really to put me in 1st place, not last. Conversely, the "rival best" value is 32, which I'll bet confidently was Pacal of Carthage with his one miserable little 4-point city stuck on a peninsula at the other end of a huge pangaea from my nice, rich lands. There is absolutely no possible way in which his top position in this category is justified.