onejayhawk
Afflicted with reason
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Did I find it, or was it something else?
Buddy Love in the Nutty Professor.
Love isn't unconditional.
Yes it is. The actions of the other person have no relevence.
J
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Did I find it, or was it something else?
Love isn't unconditional.
Then why do you love them in the first place?Yes it is. The actions of the other person have no relevence.
Then why do you love them in the first place?
What if you find out someone you love has secretly been a serial killer the whole time? Do you still "put their needs above your own"?
So it's just a random occurrence? There's absolutely no reason why you love [person you love]?You do or you do not. There is no why.
It is putting society's "needs" first. You call the police because the person you love is a danger to society first, and anything else is secondary, unless you're saying you are more concerned with this person's wellbeing than with the death they cause.You love them anyway. Putting their needs first does not mean enabling their destructive behavior or sheltering them from the consequences. You could call the police and it would still be consistent.
Love isn't unconditional.
What is that supposed to even mean? What part of my post are you addressing? I feel like you're making a loaded statement to imply that I'm callous or something.I mean serial killer is pretty hardcore but I'd want my neighbors to value family over society.
The answer, as always - it depends. We weren't talking about choosing one or the other, though, but rather which was the bigger motivator. I questioned whether you turn in your lover / serial killer to the police primarily for her wellbeing, or if it's because you don't want more people to die. I should have gone further and asked whether if it was because you were scared. Basically I was challenging his assertion that you always put their needs first.Well, like I said, serial killer is going pretty far and you can't let your loved one go on and kill folk but where do you draw the line between protecting family because family and protecting society because society?
I think it's wrong to say that the "destructive" kinds of love aren't "real love". They certainly are. Love is not about wanting what's best for your loved one regardless of what happens to yourself. Or rather, that is a type of love, usually associated with parents. But love can also be possessive, destructive, thoroughly unhealthy and still be love. It's a complicated feeling!
Love is a chemical reaction in your body created to make you protect the other person and get it on to keep the species going.
Those touchy emotional people will call it destiny or fate.
I think it's wrong to say that the "destructive" kinds of love aren't "real love". They certainly are. Love is not about wanting what's best for your loved one regardless of what happens to yourself. Or rather, that is a type of love, usually associated with parents. But love can also be possessive, destructive, thoroughly unhealthy and still be love. It's a complicated feeling!
Love is a chemical reaction in your body created to make you protect the other person and get it on to keep the species going.
Those touchy emotional people will call it destiny or fate.
Love captures you; it stirs your brain chemistry to create an almost uncontrollable desire to be with, to touch, to dream about, to be near, to serve, one's beloved. It is close to madness and when love is at a high intensity, reason has no power over it.
Yes, I was describing the quality of love usually between people since that has been much of the conversation.I think love and what you are talking about are distinct, though related things. Earlier in the thread we discussed eros vs philia. You describe the passion, but it is not something that would pull you to a hospital bed or a nursing home.
J
Yes, I was describing the quality of love usually between people since that has been much of the conversation.
Love is a continuum of emotion that gets less selfish and less rational and more intense as it moves towards its better end. Any/all of the various types of love discussed (including nursing care) have a place on the continuum even if we wouldn't put them in the same order or in the same place.
I would take it one step further, though, and add that music, art, craftsmanship and similar activities can all be loved just like, or more so, than people. The best expressions of love are all about giving yourself to something and ignoring the cost to oneself. Artists of all sorts are not immune from sacrificing themselves for what they do.
I do not know what that (bolded) means. Please elaborate.I would take the other tack. Love is the constant across a range of hormonal conditions.
You may have a point about loving art. Indeed, that may be what makes it art rather than craft.
J
I do not know what that (bolded) means. Please elaborate.