What's good about marriage?

[GenMarshall]

She was a freshman, I was a sophomore at UNC. For 9 months she wouldn't have anything to do with me despite my persistent efforts.

I'd move on to the next one and tell the girl "If you're going to play hard to get, well screw you!" if I were in your shoes trying to peruse a girl who won't give me the time of day for nine months.

I guess I have low tolerance for rejection .

 

[Ataxerxes]

I'd move on to the next one and tell the girl "If you're going to play hard to get, well screw you!" if I were in your shoes trying to peruse a girl who won't give me the time of day for nine months.

I guess I have low tolerance for rejection .

More or less what I'd do. I'm glad it worked out for somebody but quite often you're not going to be well thought of constantly going after a girl who seems to have no interest. The rejection would enter into it - you're basically slamming a door on your hand again and again. But I wouldn't waste time pursuing a girl who doesn't seem to want me. There are lots of people out there who would be good for you and I'd try to find one.

I've been married for 22 years and basically like it. I appreciate it more when times are bad. I don't find the magnification of good times but it does make bad times easier. It's somewhat of an insurance as well, so the other can't just up and leave you if something bad happens. And there are times when you would end the relationship if you weren't married that you would later regret leaving.

The most important is finding someone you can live with, not someone you're crazy about at the moment. And, oddly, living together doesn't seem to be able to tell if you're suited for the long-term. I agree, it seems like it should, but all the studies say otherwise. My one rule would be not to start a famile real soon after marriage. You need to be settled yourself with the other person before adding the stress of children. The old story of "having a baby for the sake of the marriage" is about the worst advice ever.

 

[Birdjaguar]

You did what? For 9 months? And then she moved in with you after 3 weeks of conversation?

How did you
A) possibly keep it up? I mean, I'd have given up the moment I was being ignored
B) how did her roommates not freak out on her behalf (you said they were friendly)
C) WHAT DID YOU DO TO GO FROM BEING IGNORED TO LIVING TOGETHER IN THREE WEEKS??


And thank you, for finally sharing that Even as just two paragraphs that's one hell of a story.

A. She was beautiful. I was smitten. I can be persistent. Sometimes, beyond all reason, you know things. I knew she was the "one".

B. It was the sixties

C. She has never liked change much, but when she makes up her mind, she is ready to act. I guess it took her a while to warm up to me.



Link to video.

 

[squall78]

who has the most weird place they met their wives story? it seem like most hook ups happen at school.

 

[downtown]

That's some quality hustle right there BirdJag.

 

[BasketCase]

What benefits do men get from marriage?
What benefits do women get from marriage?

It reminds the both of them to stop and think: "do I really want to spend the rest of my life with this knucklehead???" And one thing that's all too common these days is people just jumping into relationships headlong, without thinking, and then bailing out of relationships just as fast, and a lot of people get emotionally wounded as a direct result.

Women benefit more from marriage, because it's generally the man whose instincts are driving him to jump into a relationship solely to get sex, and those same instincts then drive him to run off and seek another partner after the sex is gotten.

 

[Hygro]

A. She was beautiful. I was smitten. I can be persistent. Sometimes, beyond all reason, you know things. I knew she was the "one".

B. It was the sixties

C. She has never liked change much, but when she makes up her mind, she is ready to act. I guess it took her a while to warm up to me.



Link to video.

So the reason I've pestered you about this, is that you alluded to this story, and I knew if it was the case it would shake my concept of how approaching women works. And like the two earthquakes I enjoyed today (4.0 and 3.8) it definitely knocked around some of my preconceptions.

I now know that if I'm very interested and very certain, I have license to just keep at it.

In the meantime I'm gonna go chill and not worry about it.

 

[IglooDame]

who has the most weird place they met their wives story? it seem like most hook ups happen at school.

An AOL chatroom called "Hypnotic Submission".

 

[squall78]

An AOL chatroom called "Hypnotic Submission".

sounds hot. elaborate

 

[Birdjaguar]

So the reason I've pestered you about this, is that you alluded to this story, and I knew if it was the case it would shake my concept of how approaching women works. And like the two earthquakes I enjoyed today (4.0 and 3.8) it definitely knocked around some of my preconceptions.

I now know that if I'm very interested and very certain, I have license to just keep at it.

In the meantime I'm gonna go chill and not worry about it.

The "not to worry" part is key.

There is no "truth" in my story only a "possibility" created by a single data point: "No" can also mean "not now".

 

[kiwitt]

Marriage is great: My wife asked me to do some painting, I did and then got spoilt rotten
(She got me some fresh strawberries, went with me to a car show and got me some pizza) - she is great

 

[dIZZyBlIZZy]

Marriage is great: My wife asked me to do some painting, I did and then got spoilt rotten
(She got me some fresh strawberries, went with me to a car show and got me some pizza) - she is great

You'd be amazed how much you can con out your wife if you do a lot of the housework. I'd always ask for something right after dusting the high shelves.

 

[Hygro]

You'd be amazed how much you can con out your wife if you do a lot of the housework. I'd always ask for something right after dusting the high shelves.

That's what they want us to think!

 

[downtown]

You'd be amazed how much you can con out your wife if you do a lot of the housework. I'd always ask for something right after dusting the high shelves.

This trick works for girlfriends too.