Will you get married, are you married if either are so, why?

[Smellincoffee]

As a teenager, falling into love and then marrying was my heart's desire. As I've grown older, though, I've begun to doubt my capacity to live with one person all the time. I like peace and quiet, and that's not to be found in family life. I've also grown contemptuous of society making judgments about individual decisions regarding their sex- and love lives, to the point that I like quote Emma Goldman...

Love, the strongest and deepest element in all life, the harbringer of hope, of joy, of ecstasy; love, the defier of all laws, of all conventions; love, the freest, the most powerful moulder of human destiny; how can such an all-compelling force be synonymous with that poor little State- and Church- begotten weed, marriage?

 

[Narz]

Regarding questions posed in thread title :

Am I married? : No

Will I get married? : No probably not unless I decide to have a (2nd) child in which case I will write my own vows & get married (but instead of "'till death do us part" it'll be "we'll stay committed 'till the kid's grown & then we'll go from there". Less romantic, more realistic/rational.

For example, if a girl tells me she has a boyfriend or a fiancée and she is out somewhere without him, and obviously jockin me, (and I don't know her boyfriend) It won't matter that she is dating him, because if she is going to cheat with me she would just as easily cheat with someone else.

Don't sell yourself short like that Elta.

 

[Ayatollah So]

I am married. My proposal went something like: OK, let's get married! Will you stop twisting my arm now? But I am very glad now. She is the biggest reason I'm usually grinning like an idiot. (Surprisingly, being an actual idiot has little to do with it!)

There are certain personality types that do well in marriage and other types that don't. You probably know which type you are.

 

[GenMarshall]

Unfortunately, I'd be...

 

[Hygro]

This broad has no respect for her old man

You just used an idiom for father to describe husband, after calling a woman "broad".

 

[Whiskey_Lord]

Yes, if I ever find a woman who wants to be with a weirdo like me.

 

[bathsheba666]

No, won't get married....absolutely no need.

Living together 26 years, 15 year old son.

If you can't put your trust in your partner, but feel you can in a piece of paper, well that's just weird...and a bit sad, when you think about it.

 

[Elta]

Don't sell yourself short like that Elta.

You just used an idiom for father to describe husband, after calling a woman "broad".

People call their fathers old man, and women less commonly call their husbands old man. Men call their wives "my old lady" much more often than people call their mother old lady.

At least that's how it is in Vegas anyway.

There are legal, political and financial advantages that are given to married couples that unmarried couples are not always eligible for.

Well, it hinges on my finding someone I'm willing to share the rest of my life and everything with.

I'm open to it, but picky, and think I would rather have a live in relationship with someone I can accept before I'll marry her.

Nothing really to comment on her, I was just interested in what you guys would say and I thank you for responding

 

[sophie]

I will, in all likelihood. Though not for some time.

 

[civver_764]

I don't know. I'm not really planning anything. Just roll through life. It's whatever.

edit: Emma Goldman speaks truth.

 

[azzaman333]

If azzawoman333 wants to, sure. Makes no difference to me though.

 

[Cashie]

I'd like to get married, don't see it happening any time soon, though.

I wish to get married, however, some people think I shouldn't have the right to marry the person I love.

Fortunately, their numbers shrink every day.

You've got my good will there, mate. Hopefully more people will see the light and let us all move on with our lives. Follow my simple equation:

Loving relationship + 2 consenting adults * none of anyone else's business = a beautiful thing

 

[civver_764]

But it's icky.

 

[emzie]

Married at 20. 4th anniversary is next month. Thus far I've outlasted both of my parents' first marriages.

 

[BuckeyeJim]

Man, the opening poster sure sounds like a stud. I wish I had single chicks, single chicks with boyfriends, and married women clamoring to jump my bones. Sure hope you never come to Columbus and run into any of my nieces and cousins!

 

[Cashie]

But it's icky.

Plenty of married, heterosexual couples have anal sex.
Fat, hairy bears need love too.

 

[amadeus]

Fat, hairy bears need love too.

For those unfamiliar with gay subcultures, this refers to men, not actual bears.

Due to the preferences of some in this thread, those unknowing of this fact could be otherwise misled.

 

[Cashie]

True. Let's not derail the thread with another political/religious/ethical argumentation.
It's purely hypothetical.

 

[JerichoHill]

I am married.

She was / is my best friend. But she's a chick, so umm, yay?

 

[Tani Coyote]

I also think marriage is a great way to tie the parents together and ensure stability for the children, adopted or biological.

We need to find some way to decrease divorce/break up rates; it hurts far too many young people. I've been fortunate. Most kids are not.

You've got my good will there, mate. Hopefully more people will see the light and let us all move on with our lives. Follow my simple equation:

Loving relationship + 2 consenting adults * none of anyone else's business = a beautiful thing

Thank you! Hopefully enough people will think with their hearts and not their religious books/traditions and realise that this should be the basis of a free society!

Now, after that, comes the nightmare of being able to adopt... You know, since people are convinced you need one male and one female parent to be brought up right(without statistics to back it up!). And yet they let single parents continue to raise children despite statistics saying children from single parent homes have more trouble on average than those who grow up with two.

Failing adoption, we also have the male eggs/female sperm solution to allow genetic children, but alas, for the third strike, tradition rears its ugly head and holds back science.

Fortunately the people who are against all three of these measures tend to be one in the same, so each field grows more pro-gay with every day.

For those unfamiliar with gay subcultures, this refers to men, not actual bears.

Due to the preferences of some in this thread, those unknowing of this fact could be otherwise misled.

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