Will you get married, are you married if either are so, why?

PlutonianEmpire said:
It's an addiction. Gotta do my best to feed it. :D

Screw the so-called "mental health consequences", give me that damn computer time! :D
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Well sure, but what could you possibly be doing on the computer to engender so much enthusiasm? Addiction, ok, but most addictions involve drive, desire, and habit... not passion.
 
I would like to get married eventually, yes. It's one of my "reach" life goals, along with becoming a history professor.

I almost think that one is the prerequisite for the other. :p
 
Dachs said:
I would like to get married eventually, yes. It's one of my "reach" life goals, along with becoming a history professor.

I almost think that one is the prerequisite for the other. :p
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Why so?
 
Zack said:
So you just like being on the computer for the sake of being on the computer? :p
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Yup. :smug:
Hygro said:
Well sure, but what could you possibly be doing on the computer to engender so much enthusiasm? Addiction, ok, but most addictions involve drive, desire, and habit... not passion.
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I like spend copius amounts of time fiddling with Celestia while listening to music.

That, and Sims 2 and Sims 3.

Oh, and internet.

It's either an addiction, or simply compulsive isolating. Don't know which.

Anyways, enough about me... :twitch:
 
I'm married ... 25 years (next year if you you included living together for a couple of years beforehand).

My wife thought I would never ask her, because she was a smoker. "I said, I'll marry you when you give up". She didn't, but I decided I did not want anyone else to have her. Selfish sounding I know. So I asked her on Valentines Day, after saving for a solitaire diamond ring. She had no idea !

My parents have divorced twice and her parents also divorced. We decided early on we want to make this marriage work. We of course established some good ground rules.

1) Each others careers are important and if one is more successful than the other, than we follow that one, this sometimes involved moving cities.
2) We would discuss any expenditure above $100 together. Meaning I have to justify buying something to myself, so I can justify it to my wife. Therefore we had no arguments about money and ended up saving a fortune (retired early), by significantly reducing our impulse buys.
3) If one partner needs to give up work or slow down than they can and take a break from the rat-race. (my slowed down 10+ years ago and could do many things around the house while I worked full time in a successful career)
4) Like doing things together and being with one another
5) While regular sex is important, frequent cuddles and affection is better.

I have known my wife since High-School, but we lived in seperate countries for a few years and each had relationships between then and when we got back together 25 years ago. Oh and it still feels like "puppy-love" :)
 
I'll probably never marry. Not too many women want nice guys like me. Nice guys are thought of as weak. Although I don't know why. I'm quite strong in the bedroom. But I admit I don't like confrontations with other men.

I do have a lady friend I errr... do while her kiddies are in school. But she's living with another man (although they don't sleep in the same room). It's not likely she'll leave him any time soon to live with me, much less marry me. Maybe when the kids grow up, but I'm not holding my breath.
 
Disgustipated said:
I'll probably never marry. Not too many women want nice guys like me. Nice guys are thought of as weak.
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I hate this excuse so much. If you're striking out, it almost certainly isn't because you're too "nice", unless you're only trying to date teenagers.
 
Dachs said:
I would like to get married eventually, yes. It's one of my "reach" life goals, along with becoming a history professor.

I almost think that one is the prerequisite for the other. :p
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Yeah, I'm not sure where you're going with this. Either you're saying that women dig history teachers (HEH), or that history teachers dig women (which I'm fully inclined to believe, but which makes no sense in context).

Or maybe we're just talking past eachother .-.

Anyway, I'm not getting married now or ever. Unless, of course, the woman is a crazed nymphomaniac. But even then it'd be a tough sell.

Disgustipated said:
I'll probably never marry. Not too many women want nice guys like me. Nice guys are thought of as weak. Although I don't know why. I'm quite strong in the bedroom. But I admit I don't like confrontations with other men.

I do have a lady friend I errr... do while her kiddies are in school. But she's living with another man (although they don't sleep in the same room). It's not likely she'll leave him any time soon to live with me, much less marry me. Maybe when the kids grow up, but I'm not holding my breath.
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urgh
 
nice guys are kind of considered weak. i am a nice guy, but i can be very mean for any relatively good reason.
 
downtown said:
I hate this excuse so much. If you're striking out, it almost certainly isn't because you're too "nice", unless you're only trying to date teenagers.
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It's not an excuse, 'cuz it's true. :p
 
I'm a nice guy !!!

Mean guys seem unhappy
 
yeah, and im very unhappy in general. the nice guy bit takes more energy to maintain than the mean guy bit.
 
I really only want to get married if I have a kid.

But I do want a lifelong romance with one monogamous partner. Marriage is just a piece of paper. Would rather be unmarried and committed to someone than married to someone that will cheat on me, only married because we have a kid, etc etc.

Parents are happily married as far as I can tell; they only ever dated each other. A guy that once worked for my dad (family friend) had the be-together-for-forever-but-not-married going on, then they got married when they decided to have a kid (well, they got married and 10 or so months later had a kid, so presumably he asked her to marry him when they decided they wanted a kid). They already had been fully committed to each other for a long time. That's the kind of relationship I want/would be most comfortable with.

edit- i.e. I could fall in love with someone now but I wouldn't really want to be married until I'm out of college. My parents were together since their early undergrad but only got married after they graduated.
 
Try volunteering ... seeing people worse off than you and helping them is a real energy boost.
 
I hope to get married one day and have my own kids.
 
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