Just found out my ex voted for Trump. I'm not sure how I feel about her now. She's still my friend. But it's shocking a latina could even vote for Trump, but her step dad is real conservative, so it shouldn't be a shocker. She felt he may help get the country back in shape. But the country was never out of shape in my opinion. She's making the most money she has ever have in her life, and I too am making the most money I ever have in my life. I know money isn't everything, but it's a sign of doing well.
So what do you do about family members/significant others who voted for Trump?
Disown/divorce them, of course!
OK, so maybe it's too early for that joke. But seriously, I would be very concerned if my significant other voted for Trump, as being able to vote for someone like Trump would mean some significant differences in values which would be cause for long-term concern. If it were just politics, whatever, but some of the racist, misogynistic things Trump have said mean I wouldn't want to be married/engaged to someone who supported that.
Family members, it depends a bit more. Quite a few people still have older relatives who have varying degrees of racist tendencies, and while it may be cringe-worthy, I don't think many people would stop inviting Grandma to Thanksgiving because she supported Trump. If it was more a sibling/cousin with a similar lifestyle, that might be a sign that maybe you don't discuss politics enough with them/they don't read enough about politics to be properly informed.
In my case, I don't know of any family members who supported Trump, and I've never seen my parents so interested nor heavily vested in a presidential candidate as Clinton, which I'm sure is due to Trump more than anything as they weren't especially interested in her in '08. And all my close Republican friends have said they voted third-party because they couldn't bring themselves to vote for someone with the personal behavior of Trump. But it does bother me somewhat that some of those friends' parents, who from all appearances are very nice and caring people, voted Trump. I know some of them would never vote Democrat due to their fiscal views, but I had thought that as religious, seemingly open-minded and tolerant people they would either vote Libertarian or not fill in the top spot on the ballot.
I also agree that I didn't think the country was out of shape. Yes, there are problems, but there always have been, and I think on the whole America still is great.