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[BCLG100]

you said 'heard'. i don't know how else you would hear it unless you read it outloud.

yea, the if i knew i'd get away with it and my bf was teh suck. that is when i would do it.
the 'tho' suggested my opinion on that isn't very helpful because i don't have very good morals at the moment.

sure, why not?

Being pedantic is a sure sign your losing an argument.

How can you not have very good morals 'at the moment', you either condone cheating in a relationship or you dont, theres really no middle ground there.

The 'tho' didnt do much other than to suggest your a fourteen year old with an over active imagination. Hopefully when you become more mature/enter into a more mature relationship your opinion on cheating will change.

Well think about it, what if someone felt you were 'teh suck' and they could get away with it, would you like knowing down the line sometime that somebody who was very important to you cheated on you?

 

[b etor]

i don't condone cheating in a relationship.

i'll be 16 in a few days actually.

 

[BCLG100]

i don't condone cheating in a relationship.

i'll be 16 in a few days actually.

But your previous other posts seemed to express the belief that you did.

Many happy returns for that date then, do you have any plans?

 

[b etor]

but i don't. if i got into another relationship, i wouldn't cheat.

ohyes. definitely.

 

[LucyDuke]

Do you, as a woman/girl, have no internal constraints on your sexual behaviour whatsoever? That is, will you cheat on a partner if you know for a fact that you will get away with it?

I'm a little put off by your wording. Do you, as a man/boy, have no internal constraints on your sexual behavior whatsoever? It just sounds accusative, don't you think? But anyway.

If I'm involved in a serious monogamous relationship, I'm not cheating, full stop. If I feel like I want to cheat, if there's anything more than a transient daydream, I've got to stop and figure out my priorities. It couldn't have less to do with "getting away with it". I wouldn't respect myself if I cheated, forget what he would've thought of it. If it comes to the point of ending a relationship, so be it. I feel much better about being honest with him that I'm feeling for someone else than I'd feel about supressing it or lying, because that's what I'd want from him if the tables were turned. The truth might hurt, but lies hurt worse.

do women hate it when they are generalized?

Do men hate it when they are generalized?

Some of y'all are silly.

 

[mrt144]

its one of my favorite misogynist jokes. "Women love it when you generalize about them". especially in a women studies class.

 

[Bill3000]

Do men hate it when they are generalized?

It doesn't bother us as much. Only the fact that you can get away with it!

 

[Golden Touch]

well, i don't have a boyfriend, nor do i want one. if i kno i'll get away with it, and my significant other was teh suck, then yea i'd cheat. i'm kind of a sex addict tho.

How the hell can you be a sex addict?! your 15! you dont even know what good sex is yet!!!

do women hate it when they are generalized?

stupid question. I have a particular hate of this as I can can be quite girly girly sometimes but I also do lots of more 'boy' things and and smart and capable. but people tend to get stuck on the girly girly part. boys and girls.

What does being a sex addict have to do with cheating? I enjoy sex a lot but would be horrified with myself if i cheated on my gf.

agreed. you can love sex, but just spend a lot of time with your main man.

its a false correlation that justifies her behavior in her own mind. "I cant help it if i cheat, Im a sex addict." it's just something young people do when they dont want to own up to responsibility or maturity.

yup, there is no more immature or stupid excuse than I couldnt help myself. get some self control!

if only cheating were only about sex.

yeah, i'm kinda with this one. the sex wouldnt bother me so much. it would be and cuddling afterwards, conversation, dating that would be the real issue for me. sex is after all just sex.

yea, the if i knew i'd get away with it and my bf was teh suck. that is when i would do it.
the 'tho' suggested my opinion on that isn't very helpful because i don't have very good morals at the moment.

sure, why not?

Ohhh I could get angry. Dont wanna start a girl on girl fight but GET SOME MORALS THEN. you saying stuff like this^^^ and others to men, and especially to the wee boys your age, gives them justification for treating you (and other woman) like crap. dont do that. if you do feel like this about things for godssakes keep it to yourself for the sake of all your classmates who do stilll have an idealized belief of monogomy. rant over. you remind me SO much of my baby sister!

 

[GenMarshall]

Oh my, this place is going to become a seen of a cat fight!

I better mossy off to another thread before things get ugly .

 

[Prince_Imrahil]

yeah, i'm kinda with this one. the sex wouldnt bother me so much. it would be and cuddling afterwards, conversation, dating that would be the real issue for me. sex is after all just sex.

Not quite, most people selfishly want to e the only one who gets to please and be pleased by their lover, so if you're into monogamy, just sex shoud bother you.
Really everything in ife boils down to self-interest, cynical but true.

Ohhh I could get angry. Dont wanna start a girl on girl fight but GET SOME MORALS THEN. you saying stuff like this^^^ and others to men, and especially to the wee boys your age, gives them justification for treating you (and other woman) like crap. dont do that. if you do feel like this about things for godssakes keep it to yourself for the sake of all your classmates who do stilll have an idealized belief of monogomy. rant over. you remind me SO much of my baby sister!

Shes really lucky to have such an annoying big sister! Anyways B etor, you should listen to the lady, as long as you respect yourself and are doing what you want to do, then thats moras enough. Do you respect yourself as such and such a person? Make sure the answers always yes!

Oh my, this place is going to become a seen of a cat fight!

I better mossy off to another thread before things get ugly

Catfights ugly? More like meeoow Especially when kittens try but fail to outfight the clever cat! ...but naw this is civfanatics, even the fanatics are civil! (heh funny that neither lady is here by civ)

 

[Golden Touch]

no fighting. enlightened discussion!?

 

[Prince_Imrahil]

Just for the sake of getting to know you ladies better, not some broad general idea of women, my question I ask you girls is, what are your interests?
The things you like to do for fun alone, or with your friends, or your man (sex sure maybe kinky sex too but I know thats private so what about the other stuff ) your passions and hobbies and that thing you'd love to do for a living that brings in the bucks while you live?

 

[Abaddon]

+ Jelly
+ Bikini

 

[Golden Touch]

ohhh how nice a personal question! Ok, we'll I'm 21 and in my final year of a chemistry degree at the university of manchester, UK. life is very busy at the moment with final year stuff but normally my hobbies are
*Snowboarding. I love this more than life.
*Live Music, love going to gigs whether I know the band or not. the reason I chose manchester!
*reading, avid reader of anything I can get my hands on
* windsurfing and sailing, something I've only done a few times as I dont live near water but hoping to get out there soon
* singing, I was in a gospel choir (in it for the songs not the religion I'm afraid) but now I'm too busy. abaddon saw one of our gigs!
*atc. I was in the air training corps as a kid, and I now volunteer with them as a member of adult staff. I run duke of edinburgh for the kids.
*being outdoors: walking, swimming in lakes/sea, sitting, ANYTHING
*trying new things. big fan.
*i used to want to be a pilot so did a lot of flying in my late teens. however i have an ongoing hip problem which prevents me from being a scholarship option so it kinda ends there. i really got into microlighting though, and would like to finish my licence at some point.
* and usual 20s things; hanging out with my buddies, movies, all night talking sessions, all night drinking sessions, shaking my thang on the dance floor.

Starting my teacher training in september asI've enjoyed my volunteering with the teens so much. such a good buzz. also the long holidays give me a chance to get on with seeing the world, cruising down the mountains and finishing my licence!

 

[Golden Touch]

+ Jelly
+ Bikini

what now!?

 

[Prince_Imrahil]

Thanks for sharing GT, always an interesting read from you!

*Snowboarding. I love this more than life.

You can't, or shouldn't If you're not alive, you can't snowboard...

*Live Music, love going to gigs whether I know the band or not. the reason I chose manchester!

Always awesome!

*reading, avid reader of anything I can get my hands on

Any particular favs?

* singing, I was in a gospel choir (in it for the songs not the religion I'm afraid) but now I'm too busy. abaddon saw one of our gigs!

don't be afraid! Another neat thing!

* and usual 20s things; hanging out with my buddies, movies, all night talking sessions, all night drinking sessions, shaking my thang on the dance floor.

what now!?

For the cat fight or Abaddon are you commuicating publicaly

 

[Abaddon]

For the cat fight or Abaddon are you commuicating publicaly

Either is a bonus

 

[Golden Touch]

oh i see. good game my man.

 

[Brighteye]

if you do feel like this about things for godssakes keep it to yourself for the sake of all your classmates who do stilll have an idealized belief of monogomy. rant over. you remind me SO much of my baby sister!

What's so good about an idealised belief in monogamy that it needs to be mollycoddled and protected?
I think it's a good think to destroy it early before it sticks. It's a worthless cultural construct that causes a lot of problems.

 

[b etor]

How the hell can you be a sex addict?! your 15! you dont even know what good sex is yet!!!

Ohhh I could get angry. Dont wanna start a girl on girl fight but GET SOME MORALS THEN. you saying stuff like this^^^ and others to men, and especially to the wee boys your age, gives them justification for treating you (and other woman) like crap. dont do that. if you do feel like this about things for godssakes keep it to yourself for the sake of all your classmates who do stilll have an idealized belief of monogomy. rant over. you remind me SO much of my baby sister!

oh i kno good sex. i don't exactly stick to my age group.

no wee boys my age. gross.