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I like hugs. Even from humans. Cat hugs cannot be trumped though.
Okay, you got me. Remember when you said all that stuff and I flat-out told you that I don't believe you operate that way normally? Well, now you've proved it.
A very offensive tactic; morally questionable, but no doubt he has managed to be stuck in her head, and once things have settled down, he might actually benefit from it. Don't be surprised if they marry in a year or so.So a female friend of mine has just told me that a male friend of hers (not me obviously) asked her for a hug, and then proceeded to feel up her posterior. Needless to say he got told off and they are not currently speaking.
One of my cats went through a phase where she wouldn't eat unless I picked her up and hugged her after putting the food in the dish. After I put her down, she'd eat her food.Cat hugs cannot be trumped though.
Sounds like a win win!One of my cats went through a phase where she wouldn't eat unless I picked her up and hugged her after putting the food in the dish. After I put her down, she'd eat her food.
A very offensive tactic; morally questionable, but no doubt he has managed to be stuck in her head, and once things have settled down, he might actually benefit from it. Don't be surprised if they marry in a year or so.
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I think men when it comes to man-woman-hugs, men want to give hugs more than to receive hugs.
Yeah that differs a lot from cat to cat. With some cats you may need to initiate a relentless hug regime at kitten levels to ensure at that least feline apathy towards the human hugs is established in the cat.Much to our disappointment, neither one of our cats "appreciate" hugs. Ungrateful little brats. They do appreciate our undivided attention though, and Feeding, playing, scratching, sprawling all over us at night, cleaning up after then, buying them over expensive cat structures, etc. BUT A SIMPLE HUG, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
A very offensive tactic; morally questionable, but no doubt he has managed to be stuck in her head, and once things have settled down, he might actually benefit from it. Don't be surprised if they marry in a year or so.
Yeah that differs a lot from cat to cat. With some cats you may need to initiate a relentless hug regime at kitten levels to ensure at that least feline apathy towards the human hugs is established in the cat.
Well, he did something that was completely unacceptable, and she now probably every now and then thinks about the thing he has done, and has an emotional reaction (anger) to it.Stuck in her head? Not sure what you even mean.
Yes, it seems weird. Spontaneous conversions are usually not a thing.Yes probably true. In this case he was the one saying he wanted a hug, which made it seem weird to me. And clearly a ploy in hindsight anyway. The context was that they were sat in a public place and hadn't even been talking, it wasn't after a heart-to-heart or anything.
If you could find me that specific exchange I'd be interested to re-read it.
Edit: Although having said that, it has nothing to do with this thread so I'm not talking about it here.
So because I'm not presiding over a court of law, I should feel free to have incredibly lax standards for how I choose to make judgements about people? You mean... just like lynch mobs do? "Hey that guy said that guy did something bad, LYNCH HIM!" It's really sad that you think that's a reasonable way to behave. Those standards apply in a court of law because they're the absolute best moral standards to adopt in general, not because they're some weird abstract thing that can only apply in legal cases. You're free to ignore them in your own personal decision-making if you like, but that's not a badge I'd choose to wear proudly.
I like hugs. Even from humans. Cat hugs cannot be trumped though.
Well, he did something that was completely unacceptable, and she now probably every now and then thinks about the thing he has done, and has an emotional reaction (anger) to it.
This gives familiarity to him, and once the offense is forgiven - assuming it will ever be - she will likely be more aware of his presence than she was before which then opens an avenue for a relationship.
One that would probably not a stable one, and likely not one that's good for her,
so keep an eye out for that and be a supportive voice for reason, should she show signs of attraction towards him!
Some rescue cats have experienced a lot of trauma. Sometimes all it takes is for their beloved human to die and after that they're shuffled around and nobody bothers to try to connect with them. The cat I mentioned earlier was a stray who had kittens under our back porch. It was when she was pregnant with her second litter that year that she decided to move in with us (after months of careful, patient, and painstaking effort on the part of my dad and me to get her to trust us). I don't know where she came from, and have no idea what she experienced before turning up in our yard. She was approximately a year old at that time, so who knows?Since neither of our older cats liked them we have tried with our newest one since she was a kitten, with no appreciable effect (at least 8 months in). But she was a rescue so you never know if they suffered before. She doesn't meow, just an occasional tiny squeak.
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A few of my cats were male.Thread title might need to be changed to "Do cats really want hugs?".
A few of my cats were male.
While we're on the subject of cats, last time I flew to Los Angeles a woman of Chinese descent (probably in her late fifties, early sixties) sat next to me at the gate and started talking to me like we were old friends. I accepted this, and after a few minutes brought up my love of kitties, and it turned out she had a cat too. We both whipped out our phones and started going through kitty pictures, and she kept calling her cat her "handsome boy" which I thought was just the cutest thing ever.