Do men/cats really want hugs?

[Snerk]

I show pictures of CFC members to strangers I meet in airports.

 

[Lexicus]

It's okay, Lexicus. You can be our handsome boy.

 

[The_J]

I like giving and receiving hugs (well, that's one thing at the end, right?).
More with girls than with guys, but bro hugs are okay.
Doesn't matter if casual or not .

 

[inthesomeday]

Is this what straight men worry about

 

[Manfred Belheim]

Oh I love this thread, only 3 pages in and it's got everything. Controversial post from Valessa. Dragged up old arguments. Random digs at straight men. Extensive aside about cats. The perfect distillation of CFCOT.

 

[inthesomeday]

Oh I love this thread, only 3 pages in and it's got everything. Controversial post from Valessa. Dragged up old arguments. Random digs at straight men. Extensive aside about cats. The perfect distillation of CFCOT.

Don’t forget an absurd almost comically hypermasculine OP. I mean this was intended as a joke thread right?

 

[Hygro]

Don’t forget an absurd almost comically hypermasculine OP. I mean this was intended as a joke thread right?

what?

 

[Kyriakos]

So a female friend of mine has just told me that a male friend of hers (not me obviously) asked her for a hug, and then proceeded to feel up her posterior. Needless to say he got told off and they are not currently speaking.

Anyway, my response was to say that men don't generally tend to go in for hugs, so be wary of such requests. She somehow took this as victim-blaming, but that's another discussion entirely...

But anyway, the nub of the matter comes down to the fact that for her hugging male friends is commonplace, whereas for me it's really not. It made me realise that there does seem to have been an increasing tendency for "the youngsters" to be all touchy/feely/huggy that I've sort of been aware of but never really thought about (I should say she's about ten years younger than me).

Have other people noticed this? Why has that happened? And do the younger males actually all really need hugs all that much, or are they just enjoying the social phenomenon because it allows them free access to girl-touching? Do they play up their sensitive side to exploit that? Or am I just a starchy old Victorian fuddy duddy?

Well, didn't he still want a hug, just to hug a specific part of her body?

Hugging is more about alliance, so to speak.

 

[Ryika]

Controversial post from Valessa.

Nothing controversial about it, it's just Psychology.

 

[inthesomeday]

what?

Look at this.

So a female friend of mine has just told me that a male friend of hers (not me obviously) asked her for a hug, and then proceeded to feel up her posterior. Needless to say he got told off and they are not currently speaking.

Starts with a story about sexual assault.

Anyway, my response was to say that men don't generally tend to go in for hugs, so be wary of such requests. She somehow took this as victim-blaming, but that's another discussion entirely...

Next up this... thing. It is very obviously victim blaming ^^but ^^thats ^^another ^^discussion ^^entirely

But anyway, the nub of the matter comes down to the fact that for her hugging male friends is commonplace, whereas for me it's really not. It made me realise that there does seem to have been an increasing tendency for "the youngsters" to be all touchy/feely/huggy that I've sort of been aware of but never really thought about (I should say she's about ten years younger than me).

Fellas is it gay to touch another man in any context ever ? Because I mean... you’re literally touching another man

Have other people noticed this? Why has that happened? And do the younger males actually all really need hugs all that much, or are they just enjoying the social phenomenon because it allows them free access to girl-touching? Do they play up their sensitive side to exploit that? Or am I just a starchy old Victorian fuddy duddy?

And then this punchline. I mean surely this is some sort of masterful satire about hypermasculinity right

 

[Hygro]

The only line that I felt validated your claim ("men don't generally go for hugs") is the only line you didn't discuss! But the time I hugged dudes semi regularly was from ages 17 to 24 and with girls it was more regular and from like 13 to 28. It's a young person thing and it skews gendered. Nothing wrong with continuing to hug people but as a practical observation it drops with age.

 

[Lexicus]

The only line that I felt validated your claim ("men don't generally go for hugs") is the only line you didn't discuss! But the time I hugged dudes semi regularly was from ages 17 to 24 and with girls it was more regular and from like 13 to 28. It's a young person thing and it skews gendered. Nothing wrong with continuing to hug people but as a practical observation it drops with age.

I still hug my close male and female friends pretty regularly when I see them, but none of them live in DC.

Look at this.



Starts with a story about sexual assault.



Next up this... thing. It is very obviously victim blaming ^^but ^^thats ^^another ^^discussion ^^entirely




Fellas is it gay to touch another man in any context ever ? Because I mean... you’re literally touching another man



And then this punchline. I mean surely this is some sort of masterful satire about hypermasculinity right

Ahh, this brings me back to the days when I first got acquainted with critical gender theory

 

[Borachio]

I do like a good hug.

But on a daily basis, mainly only from my very best friend.

As for cats, I find their little expressionless faces strangely off-putting.

 

[Synobun]

I do like a good hug.

But on a daily basis, mainly only from my very best friend.

As for cats, I find their little expressionless faces strangely off-putting.

Would you say you'd prefer it if cats dazzled you with a sense of me-WOW instead of meow?

 

[Lexicus]

As for cats, I find their little expressionless faces strangely off-putting.

Come on now, are these faces expressionless?

 

[Borachio]

Yes. I'm afraid they are.

Cats just don't have the facial musculature that humans, or even dogs, do.

It's like they've all overdosed on Botox.

 

[Lexicus]

Meh. It's all in the eyes anyway.

 

[Arwon]

In my extensive experience of the cat we own and the kitten we rescued, hugs aren't really a form of affection cats understand or reciprocate. Bunting, soft blinks, nose taps, petting, kneading, but not hugs.

 

[red_elk]

I tried to hug my parents cat a while ago, but she ran away.
And looked at me like if I was a pervert.

 

[Manfred Belheim]

Don’t forget an absurd almost comically hypermasculine OP. I mean this was intended as a joke thread right?

That's the spirit! Keep it up!