Engagement Rings: Cost and Other Stuff

[Zelig]

In some ways they are.

You might find a woman that will deny she's interested in such a ring. And years later, you'll find out she was. In other words, she's probably just being polite to you to say she doesnt care when she really does.



The ring means more to a woman than just that.



Of course they do. But every woman wants a man to show her they care. And getting a decent ring is showing you care.



Not suprising.

My wife has made no bones about it that I have to buy her a new ring for our 30th Wedding Anniversary. Its going to put me back around 5k to 7k easy. That, plus an anniversary trip to either Mexico, or Hawii (she wants to renew our vows with one of those beach thingys) and i'm 10k out. But she's worth every penny of it.

So your opinions are really just your attempts to justify your wife.

 

[IdiotsOpposite]

I have no idea how you manage to afford this stuff... I work near 60 hours a week in the state with the highest minimum wage laws in the country, and I can't really say that I get more than a hundred a month that doesn't go straight to necessities. What, do you save up for 70 months or something?

 

[Arwon]

So your opinions are really just your attempts to justify your wife.

3.5 billion women ALL want super expensive rocks in their rings!

 

[illram]

Overheard at a wedding I went to a few years ago:

Wife: "Oh honey, this is so beautiful! We should renew our vows."
Husband: "Why? I'm not promising you anything else."

 

[MobBoss]

So your opinions are really just your attempts to justify your wife.

Rofl, no. I certainly dont need to justify her to the likes of you anyway.

Women like to be appreciated and shown how much a man loves them. Simple fact. Please note, I dont think the ring needs to be super-expensive, but it does require some decent effort be put into it.

Or, you can get her some crackerjack thing not worth a crap if that is how much you value the woman you love. Up to you I guess.

 

[Zelig]

Rofl, no. I certainly dont need to justify her to the likes of you anyway.

Well yeah, but you need to justify her to yourself.

 

[Arwon]

Rofl, no. I certainly dont need to justify her to the likes of you anyway.

Women like to be appreciated and shown how much a man loves them. Simple fact. Please note, I dont think the ring needs to be super-expensive, but it does require some decent effort be put into it.

Or, you can get her some crackerjack thing not worth a crap if that is how much you value the woman you love. Up to you I guess.

Except this thread is specifically about the expensiveness of rocks. Nobody is arguing against the rest of what you say here.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

You can skimp on many things and still have a great wedding, but providing food for over 50 or so gets unavoidably expensive.

Make it a pot luck. Every guest brings two dishes (and somebody in the wedding party coordinates it so you don't wind up with 50 plates of green jello with carrots in it).

My wife has made no bones about it that I have to buy her a new ring for our 30th Wedding Anniversary.

What's the matter with the old one? Doesn't she like it anymore? Did it shrink in the laundry? No longer in style?

nosyenquiring minds want to know...

I always wonder if engagement/wedding rings must be made of gold or can the material of the precious metal be something other than gold (including alloy mixture such as electrum, a blend of gold and silver)

No, wedding rings don't need to be gold. I've seen some really gorgeous platinum ones.

My favorite rings are either silver or copper.

 

[MobBoss]

Well yeah, but you need to justify her to yourself.

I'm not sure what you are trying to imply here. What do you mean 'justify my wife to myself'?

Is this what you call loving your wife and appreciating her? 'Justifying' her?

Except this thread is specifically about the expensiveness of rocks. Nobody is arguing against the rest of what you say here.

Perhaps I just dont see buying your (soon to be) wife a ring (which is more to her than just a 'rock') which means a lot to her and will probably appreciate in time as some kind of burden.

If you want to go trailer-park well, go right ahead. I wish you luck.

What's the matter with the old one? Doesn't she like it anymore? Did it shrink in the laundry? No longer in style?

She wants to give it to our daughter, so nothing wrong with it at all. But seriously...how many people get to realize a 30th year anniversary? It is a signifcant milestone, and we make a lot more money now than we did 30 years ago so I can afford a better ring.

Nothing wrong with that.

 

[mrt144]

Overheard at a wedding I went to a few years ago:

Wife: "Oh honey, this is so beautiful! We should renew our vows."
Husband: "Why? I'm not promising you anything else."

Yikes.

 

[ace99]

I've decided against heirloom. Can't exactly pawn it if things go south. And returning it to your family would be ugh.

 

[Zelig]

I'm not sure what you are trying to imply here. What do you mean 'justify my wife to myself'?

Is this what you call loving your wife and appreciating her? 'Justifying' her?

Your wife wants shiny rocks, so you justify this behavior as being normal and reasonable because it's in your perceived best interest to do so.

 

[MobBoss]

Zelig. As Granpa Phil would say on Duck Dynasty: 'happy wife; happy life'.

 

[Zelig]

Sure, but there's no reason to generalize what your wife likes to all women while insulting the men they've chosen to marry.

 

[MobBoss]

Sure, but there's no reason to generalize what your wife likes to all women while insulting the men they've chosen to marry.

Oh, no. My comments about women in general arent specific to my experiences with my wife. Just part of my life experiences over my 50 years on this planet you see.

Sure you can draw your own conclusions; but its my firm belief that every woman wants to be treated like a lady; overtly or covertly.

Frankly, if more men treated their women right, there would be a lot less divorce, and a lot happier marriages out there.

But hey, justify it however you want.

 

[Zelig]

I don't think getting shiny rocks is part of being treated like a lady, again, you're just lumping that in so you don't feel bad about spending so much money on rocks and having a wife who wants you to spend money on rocks.

I bet there'd be a lot less divorce and a lot happier marriages if women didn't pressure men into marrying them.

 

[Arwon]

The suggestion in the OP is 2-3 months salary. That seems to be suggesting if I were to propose to someone tomorrow, I spend 18000 dollars on a ring.

It's not "trailer park" to suggest that is completely insane.

 

[Zelig]

Maybe net salary? If you're American with that gross that would be roughly -$7000 or so.

 

[ace99]

So you make $72,000 a year? Way to brag brah.

 

[Zelig]

So you make $72,000 a year? Way to brag brah.

You're doing it wrong, that's pleb money to lawyers.