Engagement Rings: Cost and Other Stuff
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My brother used an heirloom ring, his wife loved it.
It really depends on what you think your fiance would like.
It really depends on what you think your fiance would like.
I paid three hundred bucks. My wife had a family ring she wanted me to use, all it needed was to to be cleaned, repaired and have the stone reset.
She was *adamant* that I NOT spend even a month's salary on the ring. Nobody can tell that it barely cost anything, and if we had that much disposable income, we could use it for traveling, our wedding (weddings ain't cheap friends), our honeymoon, or our first apartment.
I'm lucky that I married a practical woman. I could have plunked down the 3,000 or so to buy a fancy ring, but we wouldn't have had as nice a wedding or as comfortable first few months of being married.
Back in 2009 I was seriously dating a different woman and was saving up for a ring (she was slightly less practical). When we broke up, I used the 1,500 I have saved to finance my move to Chicago. Everything worked out pretty well there I think!!
My wedding band, for what it's worth, was 50 bucks. 30 dollars to buy it from an antique store, and another 20 to get it polished and resized for me.
She was *adamant* that I NOT spend even a month's salary on the ring. Nobody can tell that it barely cost anything, and if we had that much disposable income, we could use it for traveling, our wedding (weddings ain't cheap friends), our honeymoon, or our first apartment.
I'm lucky that I married a practical woman. I could have plunked down the 3,000 or so to buy a fancy ring, but we wouldn't have had as nice a wedding or as comfortable first few months of being married.
Back in 2009 I was seriously dating a different woman and was saving up for a ring (she was slightly less practical). When we broke up, I used the 1,500 I have saved to finance my move to Chicago. Everything worked out pretty well there I think!!
My wedding band, for what it's worth, was 50 bucks. 30 dollars to buy it from an antique store, and another 20 to get it polished and resized for me.
BvBPL
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I think there's a lot to be said for heirloom rings.
Borachio
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While I don't want to come across as hyper-critical or judgemental in any way at all, engagement rings, wedding rings, and all kinds of jewelry, in general, is just bonkers in the nut.
But good luck with your romance, and I sincerely wish you every happiness in the future. And, more importantly, in the present too.
But good luck with your romance, and I sincerely wish you every happiness in the future. And, more importantly, in the present too.
LOL 100k on party is madness.
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Jewel Runner
My sister had a pearl instead of a diamond. She'd only been dating her husband for eight days when he proposed, so lack of time to save up might have contributed to that, but she seemed to like it quite a bit.
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Jewel Runner
They'd been very close friends for years, but they were only romantically involved for a short time before marrying. A bit of an odd situation, but it's served them well enogh for the past few years.
Kennigit
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I knew a teacher who proposed to his wife after a week. I don't even think they knew each other barely at all. Which is also weirder because he was a totally the shy nerd math major in college when he proposed to his wife, not at all someone who does crazy things (was my math teacher)
so crazier things have happened.
so crazier things have happened.
I support more of my friends hosting 100k parties for me.
I would have loved to use an heirloom ring. I think it's far far bigger gesture than money.
BvBPL
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Yeah, mad fun.
FriendlyFire
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.EDIT: There, there at least with Asians there's no mandatory money wasting ring, just a mandatory banquet.
I rather thankful that engagement isn't customary around here. Seems like yet another money sink 
As for wedding rings, we spent roughly 1/2 of a month's wage for them. Thankfully, neither of us likes obtrusive ornaments, so we were both more than happy with simple white gold rings (hers with a small stone in it).
As for wedding rings, we spent roughly 1/2 of a month's wage for them. Thankfully, neither of us likes obtrusive ornaments, so we were both more than happy with simple white gold rings (hers with a small stone in it).
Diamonds don't do a thing for me. Emeralds are pretty, though.
Sapphires are pretty, too.
But my favorite pieces of jewelry are either amethyst, pearl, or turquoise. As for a ring... I rarely wear them, except when I'm dressing up for some occasion and won't be doing anything where I'd be scared of either losing it or if it would interfere with my activities. So any engagement jewelry I'd want would likely be in the form of a necklace.
Actually, scratch that. I don't wear necklaces that often, either (it's hard to find ones that go with everything). Just find me a nice rock. Amethyst quartz is my favorite. No jewelry setting necessary.
Until it comes your turn to cough up.
On the ring - don't spend more than you can afford, don't go into debt for this, are you going to buy this in advance?
Personally I didn't buy before we got engaged - we went out the following weekend to the local jewellery stores to try different types.
Ended up paying a bit less than a month's salary, the more expensive ones seemed gaudy.
That's my thinking. Anyone with some cash can shell out and get an off-the-shelf modern ring. But giving someone a one-of-a-kind ring that has been in your family for a century means something.
Yes it is, and I know people who spent more...
But then again everything in this city is madness. No amount of money is ever enough. It's tiring.
When the time comes I seriously consider throwing the party in a different city. I can use that excuse that all of my family is from other states.
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