If you disappear what do we think

[Timsup2nothin]

This is for our regular and fairly active posters.

Because I'm a...ahem...more seasoned...poster I have something set in place where my son would create an account, announce who he is, and let everyone know if I were to die young. Well, it's really too late for me to die young. Let's amend that to earlier than someone might expect. Also, a couple of posters have my phone number anyway and I wouldn't be surprised if one or the other texted my phone if I suddenly stopped posting without the usual line through my name. Even more people know other sites where they could reach out and see if I'm still actively kicking.

So, basically, there's very little chance that people would be left with "Tim used to post all the time, and then he just disappeared...I wonder what happened?"

Are you the kind of person that would just take a turn in your real life, lose interest, and never post again...not even a goodby in the designated thread? If so, this is a chance to say so, because maybe some people here think of you as a friend and would wonder. Maybe even worry.

Are you a right winger teetering on the cusp of saying "toss this leftist den of evil"?

Are you a youngster who still believes in your immortality and doesn't see any way you might just stop posting in the foreseeable future?

If you just stop posting what should we think?

 

[Synobun]

I've disappeared a few times, and each time I hope I never see this place again either because life's gotten good enough or life's over. But I end up here again after a while every time so neither wish ever comes true. I've been here 13 years and spent probably at least half that time "disappeared."

If I suddenly stop posting or become inaccessible, it's probably better to think "Good riddance." instead of any worry.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

If I suddenly stop posting or become inaccessible, it's probably better to think "Good riddance." instead of any worry.

You are missed every time you disappear, so that's very unlikely.

 

[Synobun]

You are missed every time you disappear, so that's very unlikely.

Yes, well, people here aren't known for making good decisions. That's why they're here.

 

[Commodore]

I don't think anyone would notice if I stopped posting. Or if they did notice, it wouldn't be concerning enough for it to be mentioned anywhere here.

As to what people should think if I suddenly disappeared: I am not the type to tell people what they should think, so I'll just guess at what people would think. I think the reactions to my sudden disappearance would range between indifference and relief that I don't have to be dealt with anymore.

 

[MaryKB]

I'll leave a note for my husband to make a post under my account if I ever suddenly die, lol.

I'm most likely to disappear for the same reasons I deleted my facebook account. I really struggle reading about peoples' deplorable attitudes, and I've taken breaks from here several times because of that. I'm here mostly for social relationships, and I've come to care a great deal for many of you. I'm interested in what's going on in your lives, and I love talking to you about things. When I'm really getting frustrated, I normally announce so in that thread.

I did disappear from another forum I was on, because I learned the people who I thought were friends there turned out to really not be. They didn't really care about me, they found me funny or something (until they didn't) and I have absolutely no intention of ever going back. I do have a few real friends from there I keep in touch with either here, by phone and text, or by mail, etc. I could imagine I'd probably do the same here if the people who I think care about me and respect me really turned against me, I'd cry for a day or so and then never be seen again.

I've disappeared a few times, and each time I hope I never see this place again either because life's gotten good enough or life's over. But I end up here again after a while every time so neither wish ever comes true. I've been here 13 years and spent probably at least half that time "disappeared."

If I suddenly stop posting or become inaccessible, it's probably better to think "Good riddance." instead of any worry.

I would deeply miss you if you ever disappeared for good. I hope a least you'd write to me.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

I don't think anyone would notice if I stopped posting. Or if they did notice, it wouldn't be concerning enough for it to be mentioned anywhere here.

As to what people should think if I suddenly disappeared: I am not the type to tell people what they should think, so I'll just guess at what people would think. I think the reactions to my sudden disappearance would range between indifference and relief that I don't have to be dealt with anymore.

We've gone more than a few hard rounds, but I disagree here. You are definitely a regular and you contribute a certain flavor to the atmosphere of the site that I think a lot of people would miss.

EDIT: BTW, don't you have a YouTube channel where we could come looking for you to make sure you were still alive?

 

[dusters]

I like this post for female posters for male posters for other rock stars and everyone else...

My roots are here when I escaped life by playing Civ1 20 hours a day

 

[Timsup2nothin]

I'll leave a note for my husband to make a post under my account if I ever suddenly die, lol.

I appreciate that, and I think even though we don't like to consider the possibilities that such planning is very courteous.

 

[Lemon Merchant]

If I left suddenly, you guys would all have a party.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

If I left suddenly, you guys would all have a party.

Ummmm....no.

I might go on a tirade of infractable posts, just to test the waters, but certainly wouldn't call it a party.

Question...

Why does it seem like so many people can't accept the idea that they would be missed? Heck, I know there are some people who seriously don't like me, but I still believe there are plenty who would miss me. Self deprecation only goes so far.

 

[Synobun]

If I left suddenly, you guys would all have a party.

Is it because your leaving will only happen when the members rise up and start leading moderators to the guillotine?

 

[Timsup2nothin]

That said, my installer download for No Man's Sky is mere seconds from completion, and I think my new machine is gonna run it really well (NMS is the secondary reason for my new machine...the old one ran it but was definitely struggling) so if I disappear for a couple days that's probably what happened.

 

[Cheetah]

I've always been thinking that I should make a post in the going-away-thread if I ever decide to take a proper long (forever?) break from CFC-OT.

But the times I've been gone for some time, it's always because my interest has waned or because I've grown frustrated with the level of discussions, and by then it's really too much effort to make such a post... If I were to die, nobody would notice anything except I stopped posting.

Sometimes I remember posters from eons back, and wondering what happened to them...

 

[Phrossack]

If I left suddenly, you guys would all have a party.

I think you're more liked here than you realize, and I'm not just saying that. I generally like what you bring here, at least.

 

[Lemon Merchant]

Ummmm....no.

I might go on a tirade of infractable posts, just to test the waters, but certainly wouldn't call it a party.

Question...

Why does it seem like so many people can't accept the idea that they would be missed? Heck, I know there are some people who seriously don't like me, but I still believe there are plenty who would miss me. Self deprecation only goes so far.

Perhaps you might miss me. There are a couple of others that might, but I can count on more than two hands the number of people who would think "Good riddance." That's actually OK with me, as I would expect it.

Is it because your leaving will only happen when the members rise up and start leading moderators to the guillotine?

It would take something drastic to get me to leave. The gillotine would be that drastic, yes.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

Perhaps you might miss me. There are a couple of others that might, but I can count on more than two hands the number of people who would think "Good riddance." That's actually OK with me, as I would expect it.


It would take something drastic to get me to leave. The gillotine would be that drastic, yes.

So for the sake of me and the couple of others (serious underestimate IMO) please tell someone about alternative ways to check in with you. If you just disappeared today I would almost certainly try contacting the BUG modder team just to see if they'd heard from you, but that's all I could think to do.


For the record, If I disappear (get permabanned?) and there's no eulogy post from my son I'm also active at chess.com and the Egosoft forums with the same username, and if you message me at fanfiction.net (again same username) it shows up in my e-mail.

 

[Narz]

If I left suddenly, you guys would all have a party.

A self-pity party maybe

Like Commodore I don't think I'd really be noticed too much if I left. Like my mom always liked to remind me "Noone's really thinking about you" (which I think mostly meant she's not thinking about me ).

I would like people to believe that if I left it was because I got super strict & disciplined about my time spent online & was being super productive, building a business, having adventures, being I'm on my purpose in life, like how Matt Damon's friend in Good Will Hunting hoped he would just disappear one day & go pursue his dreams.

 

[The_J]

Mmhh... I normaly don't realize if an user here vanishes, because this is a really gradual process, and you often don't suddenly notice.
So I guess the same if I would not post anymore.

That said, I should probably better set up my life for these circumstances. I have nothing in place for my digital identities...well... mostly my email, and my CFC account has not the highest priority.
Also non-digital is badly set up. My family doesn't really know anyone here where I live, and vice versa. If I suddenly died, they'd not have any way of confirming that, until the police has figured out who they are, which would probably take some time, given thst I live in another country.
Mmmhh... this is not smart .

 

[Commodore]

BTW, don't you have a YouTube channel where we could come looking for you to make sure you were still alive?

I do have a channel, but I haven't uploaded a video for around 2 years or so.