I'm not sure what to do regarding a situation I've found myself in and would be grateful for advice.
I have/had a transgender friend over the last year, and I feel like she's been using me to validate herself as a woman. What really brought the feeling up was how she basically ghosted me after I became pregnant; at first I thought she was a friend I could talk to, since I've been there so much for her. And I realized how previously, whenever I'd try to talk to her about something going on in my life (my own depression, family problems, etc) she'd quickly change the subject back to herself after offering me a very brief note of sympathy. She did the same thing when I told her about how I was pregnant (she was one of the first people I told), and other than a quick "Congrats", I've barely heard two words from her since.
Looking back, a lot of little things she said, just makes me feel like to her I was just some woman who she could use to make herself feel like she's been accepted by female friends, without really being a friend herself. I have been very happy for her, and loved being there for her, but feel a bit drained that this friendship has been very one-sided, and I don't like being used.