FearlessLeader2
Fundamentalist Loon
The 'Why did God create athiests' thread spawned a discussion of marriage.
Let's continue it here instead of thread-jacking, okay?
"Mawwage. Mawwage iv whut bwings us togevver to die." -The Impressive Clergyman
"Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack. I took a ride and I never looked back." --Everybody's Got a Hungry Heart
What does marriage mean to you? Do you think it is still a viable social institution, or have the relentless assaults of so-called 'modern thinking' finally destroyed it?
Marriage to me is a lot like baptism, but instead of devoting yourself to God, you're devoting yourself to your spouse. You're taking oaths to support them, to love them, to hold them as intrinsically more valuable to you than anyone else on the planet, including yourself, for the rest of your life, no matter what the circumstances. It's not an oath to be taken lightly, and since society has chosen to recognise it (with various legal rights pertaining and adhering to it), it seems that society is also obliged to honor marriage by not seeking to interfere between the couple insofar as neither spouse is harming the other.
Unfortunately, I don't see marriage as a healthy social institution anymore. Constant assaults by the media and various 'liberal' organizations have put marriage in the same unenviable position as fatherhood: derided and dismissed as unimportant. The 'desperate housewife' is a staple of modern fiction, the 'hapless dad' likewise. I believe the two phenomena are linked. To destroy marriage, it was neccessary to paint the husband as a cheerless, loveless, money-gatherer (or angry, drunken, wife-beater, choose your own stereotype, there's a million of them) oblivious to his childrens' actions and unresponsive and cold to his wife's emotional needs.
In all honesty, I consider fatherhood and the father to be nothing but collateral damage in the war against marriage. What I'm not really sure of, is exactly what the side that declared war on stable families hoped to gain from their war. Wars are always about profit, all of them boil down to money in the end. So where's the percentage in wrecking the classic nuclear family?
I think it lies in the time-treasured concept of lowering everyone else to the lowest common denominator. At least, that's where the movement is now. Since 'morality is relative', no one is any better than anyone else, so all lifestyles, choices, and actions are as good as any others. What's being gained in this war is social acceptance for personally irresponsible behavior.
With no social stigma, or at least with every existing stigma under siege and falling fast, acceptance rises. When irresponsible behavior is not discouraged, it increases. Irresponsible behavior has negative consequences, in the case of that related to the topic, specific examples of consequences would be unwanted pregnancy, teen parents, and low or no wage families. But rather than 'be mean' to 'unfortunate' people, and hold anyone responsible for the choices they make, society simply whitewashes everything with the 'Bergeron 10-gauge pump Handicapper'. And the problem grows.
So, what say you? How full of crap am I?
Let's continue it here instead of thread-jacking, okay?
All of which is true, but completely fails to address the fact that marriage is intended to be a life-long commitment. But the bold part does bear on what I want to discuss...mdwh said:So you do agree with me after all that you're still at risk of STDs if you're married. "Having multiple sexual partners" (as you original talked about as being at risk from STDs) is something which can be true or not independent of whether the people believe in "no sex outside of marriage".
Marriage has nothing to do with this. You can be monogamous to just one person ever, without being married. You can have multiple partners in your life, whilst being married to every one of them.
"Mawwage. Mawwage iv whut bwings us togevver to die." -The Impressive Clergyman
"Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack. I took a ride and I never looked back." --Everybody's Got a Hungry Heart
What does marriage mean to you? Do you think it is still a viable social institution, or have the relentless assaults of so-called 'modern thinking' finally destroyed it?
Marriage to me is a lot like baptism, but instead of devoting yourself to God, you're devoting yourself to your spouse. You're taking oaths to support them, to love them, to hold them as intrinsically more valuable to you than anyone else on the planet, including yourself, for the rest of your life, no matter what the circumstances. It's not an oath to be taken lightly, and since society has chosen to recognise it (with various legal rights pertaining and adhering to it), it seems that society is also obliged to honor marriage by not seeking to interfere between the couple insofar as neither spouse is harming the other.
Unfortunately, I don't see marriage as a healthy social institution anymore. Constant assaults by the media and various 'liberal' organizations have put marriage in the same unenviable position as fatherhood: derided and dismissed as unimportant. The 'desperate housewife' is a staple of modern fiction, the 'hapless dad' likewise. I believe the two phenomena are linked. To destroy marriage, it was neccessary to paint the husband as a cheerless, loveless, money-gatherer (or angry, drunken, wife-beater, choose your own stereotype, there's a million of them) oblivious to his childrens' actions and unresponsive and cold to his wife's emotional needs.
In all honesty, I consider fatherhood and the father to be nothing but collateral damage in the war against marriage. What I'm not really sure of, is exactly what the side that declared war on stable families hoped to gain from their war. Wars are always about profit, all of them boil down to money in the end. So where's the percentage in wrecking the classic nuclear family?
I think it lies in the time-treasured concept of lowering everyone else to the lowest common denominator. At least, that's where the movement is now. Since 'morality is relative', no one is any better than anyone else, so all lifestyles, choices, and actions are as good as any others. What's being gained in this war is social acceptance for personally irresponsible behavior.
With no social stigma, or at least with every existing stigma under siege and falling fast, acceptance rises. When irresponsible behavior is not discouraged, it increases. Irresponsible behavior has negative consequences, in the case of that related to the topic, specific examples of consequences would be unwanted pregnancy, teen parents, and low or no wage families. But rather than 'be mean' to 'unfortunate' people, and hold anyone responsible for the choices they make, society simply whitewashes everything with the 'Bergeron 10-gauge pump Handicapper'. And the problem grows.
So, what say you? How full of crap am I?