Online Romances, do they work?
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Rhymes
Drive 4 25 is back
Actually I thought thats what we were talking about......?
Are people really pretendig to be in a relationship only on the internet? It seems so weird to me that I kinda don't believe it.
Eukaryote
Deity
I disagree, but it depends on what website you use. If you use a serious one like E-Harmony, I think it would work a lot better than the bar-scene. At a bar you interact with people you choose based on looks alone, at a serious dating service they match you based on personality, looks, life goals, and so on.
Basically trying to get a mate online is like trying to shop for a car, the salespeople show you all the features of each one and you pick your favourite.
EDIT: I'm working with the assumption that they want to meet Face To Face.
Neonanocyborgasm
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Haven't you heard of online dating services like match.com or eharmony?
I've had several encounters happen by meeting online. This was before the days of online dating, so they happened more by happenstance than by deliberate means. Dating through the internet is little different than any other form. Some encounters work out well, others not. Two of the encounters lead to relationships, one to a friend-with-benefits, one stood me up, and the rest (countless) of them lead to friendship.
I wouldn't recommend actively seeking someone out through the internet, but if you do meet someone, there's no harm in giving it a shot. The problem with internet dating is that if the person doesn't live anywhere near you, it's hopeless.
Raisin Bran
Cereal Killer
Me and my GF met on a online chat 8 years ago.
It did not end.
We've been living together since and we have a 3 years old kid.
Quiet Sound
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I'm a long time member of a smaller forum with about a couple dozen people who pop in more than once a week nowadays and over the years maybe 10 couples got their start through that forum and maintained long-term relationships. Offhand I'll say there are at least four current relationships between people who encountered each other there, three couples currently live together and the fourth is planning to.
I couldn't have a relationship with someone whom I could not even touch but some people do just fine starting out in that manner.
I couldn't have a relationship with someone whom I could not even touch but some people do just fine starting out in that manner.
Firstlady
Sunlight's Breaking
Online romances can exist...it is just very hard and very rare that they get anywhere.
My uncle and aunt met online and after my uncle saw her for the first time, he proposed and they got married. They now want a divorce now that my new aunt has her greencard and that's all she wanted from my uncle.
I suppose it just depends on the peron's situation.
My uncle and aunt met online and after my uncle saw her for the first time, he proposed and they got married. They now want a divorce now that my new aunt has her greencard and that's all she wanted from my uncle.
I suppose it just depends on the peron's situation.
punkbass2000
Des An artiste
Two, now.
The same way other relationships end.
Like any relationship, the answer is "sometimes".
There's advantages to online relationships just as there are disadvantages.
Rhymes
Drive 4 25 is back
Just to know, are you talking about relationships that started on the internet, or that were 100% online?
Shylock
Hey smiling strange
Do any romances work?
I know a few people who actually married people they've met online. I don't know how common it is...and I don't think its a method that I would seek out.
Although I have used things like facebook, with positive results, but thats a little different I think...the "online" stage would last maybe a day at most...then I'd just go meet them
Although I have used things like facebook, with positive results, but thats a little different I think...the "online" stage would last maybe a day at most...then I'd just go meet them
Narz
keeping it real
I met my girlfriend on an internet forum (the one in the babe thread 
). We may not be "together forever" but it's been a good year and a half thus far and we've had alot of adventures together. 
). We may not be "together forever" but it's been a good year and a half thus far and we've had alot of adventures together. 
TheDervish
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If you meet someone on the internet, endeavor to meet them in "real life" as soon as possible. IMO, voice comms, telephone, skype, etc. does not really count, as you need some non verbal communication too. Web cams would have that maybe, but I believe nothing beats good ole fashion face to face meetings.
So if you're sensible, you get the best of both worlds. You meet people online with the interests and personality that suit you, and you then go to meet them for real life spontanaeity.
So if you're sensible, you get the best of both worlds. You meet people online with the interests and personality that suit you, and you then go to meet them for real life spontanaeity.
Rhymes
Drive 4 25 is back
Shotgun first place to people who you tell it to when it happens!
yes, why would they not?
Gr3yL3gion
Voice of Madness
My own story
An update, I have just met her in real person recently. She has just moved to Singapore to work and I'll join her as soon as I get a job there.
It does work, depends on whether both parties want it or not. Although in my case we both met in real life before venturing into online after she left.
An update, I have just met her in real person recently. She has just moved to Singapore to work and I'll join her as soon as I get a job there.
It does work, depends on whether both parties want it or not. Although in my case we both met in real life before venturing into online after she left.
punkbass2000
Des An artiste
Started online. It hadn't occurred to me that the latter really existed.
Narz
keeping it real
Yeah, it's hard to get romantic with text, 2D pics and smiley faces (though we all do try, don't we 
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