Random Rants 76: Argh! Augh! Ahhh!

[Birdjaguar]

They all know I take the bus to work, and I checked, Metro Transit says they expect no delays or service interruptions*. So unfortunately that won't work.
(Also, like a moron, I forgot to bring my work laptop home with me should I chicken out and decide to stay in.)

*Indeed, I think they are going to keep some routes running all night to serve as warming locations/shelters for homeless and people with poor housing.

Bummer. How about you have frozen pipes and have to get a plumber out.

 

[Ajidica]

Bummer. How about you have frozen pipes and have to get a plumber out.

Maybe, but I live in an apartment complex where heat is included in the rent so they are very good about keeping the building well insulated.
(Indeed, I only have the radiator regulator at 50%.)

I'm just going to have to bite the bullet go into work. Windpants, possibly long underwear, and extra scarfs.

 

[Birdjaguar]

One last try: go over to your bosses house tonight and top off his gas tank with water so he cannot get to work....

 

[cardgame]

The bad thing about jugs of milk is that it uses a crapload of plastic, like 5 or 10 times as much as the bagged milk.

The bad thing about bagged milk is that it's bagged. milk.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

The last time I had bagged milk a few years ago, I dropped it and the bag burst and milk went everywhere. That was a lot of wasted milk.

 

[Ajidica]

The bad thing about bagged milk is that it's bagged. milk.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Here's a rant: Nova Scotia rolled out some changes to income assistance last year. They stopped the clawbacks to child support and allowed recipients to earn more money before they started clawing back on that too. That's good stuff...for people who get child support and/or are able to work.

Those who are unable to work (the disabled/chronically ill, who probably need it most) get a $21 increase. Wow. What a big difference that'll make, especially with our 15% sales tax.

I mentioned this before but didn't notice if you replied: Have you applied for your GST rebate? You're eligible.

One last try: go over to your bosses house tonight and top off his gas tank with water so he cannot get to work....

In those temperatures, more like shovel ice chunks into the tank.

The bad thing about jugs of milk is that it uses a crapload of plastic, like 5 or 10 times as much as the bagged milk.

The bad thing about bagged milk is that it's bagged. milk.

Jugs are easier to handle and they don't require buying an extra pitcher. And the empties are worth money at the depot (25 cents for a 2L jug).

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I get the GST rebate already. Unfortunately, you-know-who takes it and spends it.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

I get the GST rebate already. Unfortunately, you-know-who takes it and spends it.

You can put a stop to that when your new bank account is set up. Contact CRA and tell them to direct deposit it to your bank account. That way your mother won't be able to get her hands on it.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I don't really want her to catch onto that I have a new bank account, though. She will if the money doesn't show up.

 

[Cutlass]

I don't really want her to catch onto that I have a new bank account, though. She will if the money doesn't show up.

You need to be the adult and make the break at some point. If you don't, then you've just given up.

 

[Synobun]

You need to be the adult and make the break at some point. If you don't, then you've just given up.

Narcissists love having broken children, be it mentally or physically, or a combination of the two. It's even better when they are the cause. They will do what they can to make you dependent on them no matter what.

Getting out of that requires a delicate touch even if you are okay physically and mentally. If you're disabled, you're fighting an extremely uphill battle.

I get what you're saying, and in theory it's right. Aimee does need to wrest some semblance of control from her mother. But it's not as simple as just "being an adult" and "making the break". She's taking some big steps right now and she's doing them in a way that offers her safety. Too much too fast and you could see all that work disappear.

Unless people here are willing to expedite the process for her, I don't think any of us have the right to tell her to hurry up.

 

[Silurian]

I don't really want her to catch onto that I have a new bank account, though. She will if the money doesn't show up.

Then you have to get everything ready so that you can escape.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

I don't really want her to catch onto that I have a new bank account, though. She will if the money doesn't show up.

I see your point, but when you feel ready, it might help to remember the timing of these deposits. If you make this change right after one of the deposit dates in January, April, July, or October, it would give you three months to act before she notices.

Narcissists love having broken children, be it mentally or physically, or a combination of the two. It's even better when they are the cause. They will do what they can to make you dependent on them no matter what.

Getting out of that requires a delicate touch even if you are okay physically and mentally. If you're disabled, you're fighting an extremely uphill battle.

I get what you're saying, and in theory it's right. Aimee does need to wrest some semblance of control from her mother. But it's not as simple as just "being an adult" and "making the break". She's taking some big steps right now and she's doing them in a way that offers her safety. Too much too fast and you could see all that work disappear.

Unless people here are willing to expedite the process for her, I don't think any of us have the right to tell her to hurry up.

Having had to navigate some of this myself, I'd gladly help if I could. But distance is the problem here; we're on opposite sides of the country, and while I'm reasonably familiar now with what to expect in Alberta (am learning to navigate some of it anew, thanks to my recent hospital stay), I have no idea what Nova Scotia's system is like. It seems to offer much less than Alberta does.

 

[Takhisis]

If I were you I'd consider keeping that information secret.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

If I were you I'd consider keeping that information secret.

Yikes. I'd thought that sort of thing to be a relic of the system we had here that saw perfectly competent people thrown into the system for reasons that were for the benefit of everyone except the individual concerned.

 

[Synobun]

Having had to navigate some of this myself, I'd gladly help if I could. But distance is the problem here; we're on opposite sides of the country, and while I'm reasonably familiar now with what to expect in Alberta (am learning to navigate some of it anew, thanks to my recent hospital stay), I have no idea what Nova Scotia's system is like. It seems to offer much less than Alberta does.

Yeah, that's the problem I'm facing in this situation as well. There's only so much you can do from afar if you don't have the financial means to intervene. I moved from Ontario to BC in large part only because I had a couch to sleep on in Seattle and a roof over my head to make the rushed transition. That required someone housing me, feeding me, and making sure I could get to and from Vancouver.

In other words, that required someone with money.

Information is useful. It's probably the most useful, honestly, but in terms of speeding things along there's nothing anyone can do without money. Trying to force something to happen is an awesome way to get lost in the system or worse.

Aimee's in an incredibly tough position.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

It doesn't help that this province just kind of completely stinks. Incompetence and corruption all through the government.

 

[Broken_Erika]

My aunt live in Nova Scotia for a while, she said that Irving owns the coast. The only concern of the provincial government is to serve the Irving group of companies.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._D._Irving

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Trying to force something to happen is an awesome way to get lost in the system or worse.

The system tried to force me, back in 2007. It took two years of me standing firm before I got the best outcome I could manage. Otherwise I'd have been tossed into a situation without my cats, without much of anything else, and the clothes on my back. I told them I wouldn't accept that, I deserved better, and got it.

Thank goodness for having a computer, and figuring out how to use Kijiji to find an apartment, or I'd have ended up where they put the newly-off-the-street drug addicts. That part of town is nowhere anyone should want to be.