Random Rants 76: Argh! Augh! Ahhh!

[aimeeandbeatles]

Rant: I think we were just evicted.

EDIT: I saw the notice. It's for rent arrears. She'd told me that she paid the rent.

ANOTHER EDIT: $#&$.

 

[Silurian]

@aimeeandbeatles Could you now find a place away from your mother.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I'm considering it, but I don't know what to do. She took all the money out of the bank account.

 

[Ajidica]

I know this probably isn't very helpful, but doesn't Canada have assisted living /group living facilities you could apply to?

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Not really.

 

[Synobun]

I know this probably isn't very helpful, but doesn't Canada have assisted living /group living facilities you could apply to?

Yes. But: it's a crap-shoot across the country and especially on the east coast. (As Aimee's post just now indicates.)

Additionally, the state tends to sneer down at people who require assistance in their daily life. If her mother is officially recognized as her carer, it's possible any attempt at finding emergency housing will either be denied or be subject to Aimee bringing her mother along.

 

[Silurian]

I assume that you get money off of a Government agency. Could you go there cry a lot and ask if they could give you an advance. Or maybe there is a local charity that could help. In the UK there is a charity called citizens advice that can point you towards other charities or government agencies that could help.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I'm not sure how I could get there. It's outside of walking distance for me, especially in subzero temperatures.

 

[Silurian]

Do you have any friends who would let you sleep on their couch for a month whilst you sort out money and find somewhere.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

No.

 

[Silurian]

I am sorry I can not think of anything else at the moment.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Aimee, my best suggestion right now is to call Canadian Mental Health. You have an office in your city, and even if you don't have mental health issues, they can at least refer you to agencies that can help you. They are the ones who helped me with everything from getting my apartment to accessing AISH (Alberta's disability benefits program for people who can't work for medical reasons) to getting guardianship of my father.

You need to be independent of your mother, because she clearly doesn't seem to give a damn about how her decisions affect you. From my perspective, she does not appear to have your best interests at heart, if she would blow off paying the rent and lie about it, or deny you access to safe transportation.

It seems hopeless at first, but once you tell someone about it, possibilities will open up to you.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

But then she'll ask why I'm using the phone.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Cell phone? Go for a walk.

Landline? Wait till she leaves.

She doesn't leave? Wait till she's in the john.

 

[Birdjaguar]

Send an email and ask them to come visit?

 

[Synobun]

Send an email and ask them to come visit?

Extremely unlikely that a government service in Canada accepts emails.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

What about asking the RCMP or some other agency to do a wellness check? Surely Aimee's mother isn't watching her 24/7.

Somebody had the cops do a wellness check on me once, when they thought it odd that they never saw me around outside. That's a chance to ask to speak to a Canadian Mental Health counselor and explain things. It doesn't mean her mom would be arrested (since Aimee's over legal age in her province and has been for years), but it's one way of asking for help.

@Lemon Merchant: Can you think of a way to help in this situation? You're geographically closer than Synsensa and I are.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

But then she'll answer the door.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

But then she'll answer the door.

Are you saying you're not allowed to answer the door or make a phone call?

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

She'll want to know who's there.