Random Rants : Bloody hell!

[Ajidica]

I've said it before Joe and I'll say it again: join clubs and groups on campus! If I could find four different clubs to join* at a school of 8,000 I'm sure you can find more at Iowa. If they have Model United Nations or Mock Trial, you should definitely try it.. (Plus I think Iowa goes to the American Model United Nations Conference in Chicago; which is always a blast and I'm a staff member there!)
Joining clubs tends to result in you needing to spend time with people who share your interests. With two exceptions all the friends I made at college were a result of the clubs I was in. You learn the various in-jokes and frequently see social groups merging.


*Mock Trial, Foreign Affairs/Model UN, Anime, and Table Top Gaming.

 

[The_J]

Sports is also a possibility .

The lady who I was failing to date last year is texting me again. Seems she has homesickness. Does it mean anything that she's texting me? I don't know.

Turns out she has a boyfriend.
What the hell.
I thought it was a pretty clear case when she asked me to go for a drink some time.
At least I didn't waste actual time on her, because we didn't meet after all.
But I lost more than 1 month time in which I could've looked for someone else.
Damn it.

But what are you supposed to do? You don't want to be too forward, but you don't want them to lose interest.

Normally the former shouldn't be a problem.
If they're not interested, then it shouldn't matter too much how you approach it.
My problem was more the multiple things at the same time.
At least one less now :/.

This stuff stresses me out. I can't stand it. I wish I could not feel any romance until I know it'd be reciprocated. As it is, I get my heart broken a lot.

I thought that'd get better with each time it goes wrong. Or not?

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

I thought it was a pretty clear case when she asked me to go for a drink some time.

I'm not an expert, but I'm pretty sure "going for drinks" isn't always the same as "going on a date". It's something done frequently with friends.

 

[azzaman333]

I'm not an expert, but I'm pretty sure "going for drinks" isn't always the same as "going on a date". It's something done frequently with friends.

Really, it's pretty much entirely dependent on the context.

 

[The_J]

We are not friends.
I talked to her like 3 times before, and none of that was extensively long.
And it seemed like 1-on-1.
Maybe I'm just not good at reading women, that's totally possible .

 

[Commodore]

We are not friends.
I talked to her like 3 times before, and none of that was extensively long.
And it seemed like 1-on-1.
Maybe I'm just not good at reading women, that's totally possible .

I know what I'm about to say is much easier said than done, but I would say stop trying to meet women. Just live your life and let it happen naturally (which it will). I know once I stopped trying specifically to meet women, that's when things really started to pick up for me in the dating department.

 

[The_J]

It's not so that I'm trying too hard either.
I didn't have a date last year, I didn't ask out any of the girls at my Salsa course for the last half year, and at the beginning of the year also only...2, I think. (for the whole year only...5, or so, also didn't do much while drunk/at a party)
I am not trying to get in contact with every female with 2 legs.
So I hope I'm not giving that kind of vibe to the ladies.

 

[Daw]

J, what do you want?

I mean, the aim you're after, what is it?

 

[The_J]

Not obvious ?

 

[Daw]

No, not really. A robot sex machine or a person? A person to have fun with, or a person to go steady and maybe make a family with?

 

[Commodore]

Not obvious ?

If it's just sex you want, then you are definitely putting way too much thought and effort into it. Just go to Backpage or the casual encounters section of Craigslist. If those seem too seedy for you, there are plenty of sites specifically dedicated to people just looking for hook-ups or a friends with benefits situation. Of course, those sites usually allow you to sign up for free, but then require you to pay a monthly fee to unlock all the features and properly use the site.

 

[Cutlass]

You should have one pair of work shoes for every day, especially if you spend them on your feet all the time.

Flat feet require orthotic supports, not flat soles.

Mine require flat soles.

 

[Tee Kay]

This stuff stresses me out. I can't stand it. I wish I could not feel any romance until I know it'd be reciprocated. As it is, I get my heart broken a lot.

But what are you supposed to do? You don't want to be too forward, but you don't want them to lose interest.

I had heartbreak so hard this summer, I did lots of things I wasn't proud of. I was addicted to seeing his face, and when I couldn't, I got sick. I couldn't sleep. I cried every day.

I hope it works out for you.

Come 'ere

Unrequited love is the worst

 

[Kennigit]

If it's just sex you want, then you are definitely putting way too much thought and effort into it. Just go to Backpage or the casual encounters section of Craigslist. If those seem too seedy for you, there are plenty of sites specifically dedicated to people just looking for hook-ups or a friends with benefits situation. Of course, those sites usually allow you to sign up for free, but then require you to pay a monthly fee to unlock all the features and properly use the site.

he lives in europe, he doesn't have to worry about such seedy things as backpages (likely cops) or the sad sad world of craigslist

 

[Commodore]

he lives in europe, he doesn't have to worry about such seedy things as backpages (likely cops) or the sad sad world of craigslist

Yeah there are a lot of cops on Backpage, but that's why you have to be careful. I've been with a few working girls from Backpage that weren't cops.

 

[Daw]

Well, I assume both Germany and the Netherlands have their equivalents of that thing you're talking about and I have no idea of

 

[Cutlass]

Why in the hell won't people stop trying to sell me life insurance?

 

[Kennigit]

I should have enjoyed my day but instead did nothing--nothing fun and nothing productive. I'm not even clear if I was supposed to work today or not (I'm a desk jockey at a construction site currently--the construction site was closed, and when they close for weather they send people home with pay; you don't have to make up the time usually). So I did minimal work that I may not have had to do anyways and actually may not be "allowed" to bill for in a super-technical since.

Could have probably just blown everything off and marathoned some netflix instead

 

[gay_Aleks]

Quite sure they're sending out a message about your way of living and how they think that you'll soon die and your corpse will be buried 6 feet under the ground so why not leave something for your family?

 

[Daw]

Why in the hell won't people stop trying to sell me life insurance?

Because there will be no point in trying once you're dead. But as long as you're alive there's always a chance. Well, at least they think there is, apparently.