Random Rants LVII: wow. many anger. very whining.

[sophie]

Damn, that situation annoys me.
There's a woman at work. And I like her. And I'd like to go out with her. But I work with her. Means not only she is in the same department, but I do data analysis for her. If I screw it up, then we have a problem. And there's some likelyhood for that, because she's noticably older, and I don't think we really fit together. So I tell myself everytime no, but then again I'm distracted in all the meetings.
And next Saturday is Valentine's day, there are no dance courses this week (no chance to meet other girls), all other females in the department are either taken, not interesting, or will be gone in a month, at latest.
Not even a chance to distract myself with the help of someone else.
Damn it .

Go for it. Ask her out.

1. She refuses (She likely will, won't she?). End of story. (Except that it likely wouldn't be the end for me. I'd ask her again. Just in case.)
2. She accepts. And who knows?

This. People (particularly men) always operate on the assumption that you are either into someone of the opposite sex and waiting to make a move, they are undateable (usually due to not being deemed attractive enough) or they cannot be your friend. It's part of where this stereotype of men not being allowed to live/be friends with women stems from.

Here's a secret though. It's bull[feces]. Ask her out. She says no. You never talk about it again and move on as normal. Things will only be awkward if you let them be awkward.

 

[madviking]

I've been very frustrated lately and missing myself of 4-5 years ago... Compared to then my situation is better by any reasonable metric. I'm stronger, better looking, got a masters degree, less crazy girlfriend, more friends, my own place, independence, and a rather well paying job.

But I'm not as positive as I was then, I feel tentative and unsure. I know part of my feeling has to do with the fact that my relationship is now long distance and I don't have many friends here... Mostly because I'm utterly uninterested by most of the people I meet. And sure it could be that there's no sunlight in this frozen wasteland and I just need some good ol' sunshine.

But it's deeper I just don't feel awesome... I used to have pure unshakable confidence and desire to go forth and conquer... But it's mostly gone, mostly I feel content to just survive, which makes me sick, I've never wanted to just survive. It's hard to explain, just a feeling, like I doubt myself.

 

[nc-1701]

Oh, you see, I feel something like nc-1701. Although I am more the kind of guy to be content with life as it is, and I have next to no reason to complain about my life, I just feel insatisfied. Its like some wild part of me trying to break free and give me that unshakeable confidence desire to push further than nc is mentioning. So, something good may be coming, but until it comes I just feel generally uncomfortable for no apparent reason.

Sounds like me. Well, though in my case I was never really positive - some of my friends in high school pointed out I was already pretty cynical and pessimistic (and not just in the emo teen phase sort of way, either), so I never could have imagined that I'd get more cynical and pessimistic.

Might just be all of us getting older, eh? Might also be the quarter life crisis sorta thing that strikes some people (though in my case it appears to have struck much earlier than expected).

Maybe it's a common feeling, but it's a hard one to explain. Because I'm not unhappy or depressed in any real way. Most of the time I'm pretty happy, I just have doubt... I wonder if things are too hard or too dangerous. Like at work we had a bunch of tests we had to take as part of our training, I stressed about them so much. But undergrad nc would have blown through them with #swag.
I'm not saying I would have done any better then, but I wouldn't have worried about not doing well.
It likely could be a sort of quarter life crisis, also related to moving a thousand miles away from everyone I used to know, but idk I feel like it might predate moving.

But I'm only 23

 

[bhavv]

You wuz robbed. But you didn't have to pay £21 (£20.99 + 1p) for anything at all. At the end of the day. Although you'd have had to forego your pizza. So maybe the extra money was worth it? But not if you couldn't eat it all. Or do you reheat them later? In which case maybe it was a good buy.

That's all I have to say. For now.

I reheat later ofc. Its 3 days worth of food, or even 4 but I cannot resist entering greedy piggy mode when it comes to these Jalapeno & Red Chilli pizzas.

Its stupid that they have tomatoes as a default topping instead of the red chilli's I always have tl change it to, I like it super hot.

 

[The_J]

Well I love to complain, so here I am I guess (tangentially related to age discussion):

I don't think there is a single person I'm supposed to interact with for any work-related stuff that is <30 years old. Plurality is >40 years old.

It's so out of place.

Time to change workplace maybe?

This. People (particularly men) always operate on the assumption that you are either into someone of the opposite sex and waiting to make a move, they are undateable (usually due to not being deemed attractive enough) or they cannot be your friend. It's part of where this stereotype of men not being allowed to live/be friends with women stems from.

Here's a secret though. It's bull[feces]. Ask her out. She says no. You never talk about it again and move on as normal. Things will only be awkward if you let them be awkward.

sorry, but everyone misunderstood me there.
I'd not have a problem asking her out.
But more like: What if I'm actually succesful...and then it doesn't work out (after a month, a half year, whatever). That sounds not unlikely to me (due to some general differences), and it would cause quite some problems on both sides (and with our bosses).
*grml*

 

[sophie]

sorry, but everyone misunderstood me there.
I'd not have a problem asking her out.
But more like: What if I'm actually succesful...and then it doesn't work out (after a month, a half year, whatever). That sounds not unlikely to me (due to some general differences), and it would cause quite some problems on both sides (and with our bosses).
*grml*

Same difference. A month isn't really that long relationship-wise. Isn't awkward unless you choose to make it awkward.

 

[Loppan Torkel]

I'd avoid it. Don't take a dump where you know you'll eat for a foreseeable future.

 

[Kennigit]

Time to change workplace maybe?

eventually, but that is easier said than done

actually, the core of my complaint isn't really the age thing. Age itself is not inherently a problem. It is more that it feels nothing gets done because everybody else gets put on 10 tasks to work part-time on rather than get people to actually work on 2 or 3 tasks and get them done.

The age of people is a just a proxy for what I would characterize as mismanagement. But I guess the idea seems to be that since people are older, they should be able to handle more tasks. That is true, but there is a limit.....what is happening to me certainly feels like no one is being productive (I have no one to work with, and people above me always are in a state of "let me catch up on this" when I try to move forward).

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

"20,000-30,000 civilians were eaten" ranks as the most horrifying phrase I've ever read in Wiki's battle summaries.

 

[Takhisis]

1. Have a Mario Kart party.
2. Crush your co-workers.
3. Seize control of the office.

Step 4: Profit!

I'd avoid it. Don't take a dump where you know you'll eat for a foreseeable future.

That's quite the quote, and I very much support this post.

 

[gay_Aleks]

It is 4 AM. And it's one of those times.

 

[madviking]

But I'm only 23

i've given the advice for people as young as 21. it's completely okay.

 

[bhavv]

But I'm only 23

Meh. You'll be 60 long before you thought it possible.

 

[Phrossack]

"20,000-30,000 civilians were eaten" ranks as the most horrifying phrase I've ever read in Wiki's battle summaries.

What?!

 

[SamSniped]

It is 4 AM. And it's one of those times.

Welcome to IOTchat. Leave your sleep at the door.

 

[Civ'ed]

So while overhearing all my friends talking about who they like and stuff
I feel really sad now
I shouldn't
But I do

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

What?!

I wish I was making it up.

 

[bhavv]

I was thirsty and I finished off my cherry cola before my Pizza. Now I need to drink 7 up with the rest of the pizza. Well I do like 7 up, but the pizzas came with the cola so they were meant to be had together!

Damn you OCD!

 

[azzaman333]

My internet connection is being screwy, disconnecting every minute or so.

 

[Cutlass]

I was thirsty and I finished off my cherry cola before my Pizza. Now I need to drink 7 up with the rest of the pizza. Well I do like 7 up, but the pizzas came with the cola so they were meant to be had together!

Damn you OCD!

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