Some of you might remember a former user of this site called Timsup2nothin. After being permabanned, he assembled a Discord server for his friends and other good people from CFC. He largely succeeded. Some of you are in that server. It is generally a better place than CFC has become, and the people in general are great, with a couple exceptions.
One such exception is Tim. He is generally nice and fun. He is pretty charming. He also seems to have very little regard for other people's boundaries.
Some time ago he tried to flirt with me and I told him he was not welcome. I mean there aren't real expectations of anything given factors such as distance age and civil status, but still I think I was pretty clear.
Undeterred, Tim continued to more or less jokingly flirt with or hit on me, encountering always a negative and still being undeterred. Even when I started being contemptuous of him elsewhere on the Discord, much to his bafflement (he considered me a friend, and I probably considered him one before it started), he kept going.
A couple days ago I confronted him, I called him creepy and disgusting, I told him to f*** himself, and he laughed it off, insisted that "you never know when new information might change your decision", and belittled and dismissed me with the most repulsive line anyone has thrown at me yet: "hit on her, she gets mad. stop hitting on her, she gets sad".
I am paraphrasing from memory, but you get his great vibe of earnest respect and totally not misogyny.
So I left. Some of you are there and don't know yet, some of you do, some of you aren't even there. But yeah. It sucked. I met my girlfriend there and plenty other awesome people that I cannot talk to like I used to anymore.
I can't say that if you're there you should leave, or to not buy his book. If you're not me you're probably going to be fine, and the place is worth it for the people. I just can't be there anymore.
Also, ^$@*^ Tim.