Do you choose to love another or it just happens? So you have no autonomy? The issue I see perpetually is people debate about God, fully knowing it's a concept that cannot be proven, so it's a pointless exercise.
The problem here is that you're confusing two things. You're confusing
believing that something exists and
putting trust in something. These are not the same thing. Putting one's trust in something may well be a matter of choice. However, it's psychologically impossible to put one's trust in something that you think doesn't exist. And whether or not one thinks it exists isn't a matter of choice.
That means that I, right now, am literally incapable of putting my trust in God, because I don't think God exists. I don't choose to think that God doesn't exist. I would quite like him to exist, but it seems to me that he doesn't, whether I like it or not. How, then, could I put my trust in him? It would be like trusting in my brother. I don't have a brother. I have a sister, so I could choose to trust her with something if I wanted to, but I don't see how I could choose to trust my brother when as far as I can tell I don't have one.
You're also making the mistake of assuming (a) that God's existence definitely can't be proven (how could anyone know this?) and (b) that if it
can't be proven there's no point discussing it rationally. This is a mistake because even if something can't be proven, one can still look for evidence for or against it. For example, the theory of evolution by natural selection can't be
proven like a mathematical theorem, but there's enough evidence to be sure, to all intents and purposes, that it's true.
Even if we can't prove that God exists, it's still reasonable to look for evidence for or against his existence and consider arguments that may suggest he does or does not exist.
We chose to believe all manner of things for we have affinity for them. That's for ideas and for relationships.
I'd like to see an example of someone
choosing to believe that something is true (or false). This isn't the same thing as putting your trust in something.
There's no juice in engaging in a pointless unprovable exercise on an Internet forum, but to engage with someone, contend as Jacob wrestles with the angel, that's a noble human endeavor to hone our intellect. It's a mistake to transform that into something like belief, which is really a relational and not logical process. You don't love your wife out of logic. It's a choice to relationally enter into a covenant, just as friendship is a similar model. Belief in God, or deciding the god doesn't exist is precisely the same thing. It's about afinity and what the heart says, not the mind.
No, because here again you're confusing the two things. Do I choose to love my wife? Perhaps, although I think love is rather more complicated than that. But I'm capable of making that choice only because I think my wife exists. If I didn't think she existed, I couldn't choose to have any attitude towards her!
God is not like my wife, at least from my point of view, because I think my wife exists but I don't think he exists. That means that I can't choose to love him or reject him or to adopt any attitude to him at all. This is the case even if in fact he does exist. I don't "decide" that he doesn't exist. It's not a matter of volition at all. He simply seems to me not to exist.
Say you take the tack that you're powerless to enter into a relationship with God, for to you it's nothing more than the Easter Bunny or flying spagetti monster. That's actually nonsensical and an abuse of the rule of debate by invoking the Appeal to Ridicule. It's a sign of a defeat to make such appeals. It's also ignoring the topic by converting it from a discussion of God to a discussion of god. It's rather like instead of discussing Ethics you switch the topic to a reality tv show. In addition, you're violating the argumentum ad lapidem, the appeal to the stone, by assuming an idea is absurd without proving it's absurd. Honestly, why can't atheists do more in a debate than make a whole series of fallacies?
When I said that I didn't mean to ridicule the idea of God. I don't think God is as absurd as Father Christmas. I merely meant that, like Father Christmas, God seems to me not to exist. Perhaps a better example is my brother. I can say, pretty reliably, that my brother doesn't exist. I only have a sister. Now I can imagine all kinds of scenarios in which I do have a brother after all; perhaps my parents had another child but hid him away for some weird reason; perhaps there's some shocking family secret I don't know about. I can imagine all that kind of thing but I can't choose to believe it's true, and I challenge anyone here to make themselves believe anything of that kind. It's not psychologically possible.
And that means that it's
not within my power to trust my brother, or to love him, or to reject him, or anything of that kind. Even if in fact I do have a brother I don't know about, I can't take any attitude towards him until I find out about him.
It's exactly the same with God. I don't choose not to believe in him, any more than I choose not to believe in my brother; I simply make sense of the world as it appears to me to be, and it appears to me not to contain a brother, and not to contain God. I can't do anything to change either of these appearances. I can, perhaps, choose to investigate the matter more carefully; I can listen to the testimonies of those who claim to have encountered God and look at other evidence, but I can't decide to be swayed by them if they don't seem to me to be compelling. And if it seems to me that God doesn't exist, I can't possibly decide to enter into a relationship with him, any more than I can decide to enter into a relationship with my brother.