Would you use a coupon on a date?

warpus

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I bought a giant book of coupons from a guy who claims that the money ($25) is going to be used to feed homeless seniors.. or some such thing. I was reading the thing he had in front of me while he was talking, so I missed some of what he said.. In the end I suppose that his presentation was horrible, but I started looking through the giant book of coupons, and some of them actually seemed very useful, so I bought the thing. (The coupons are things like: 1/2 wings at my favourite wing place, pub discounts, bowling, golf, pet grooming discounts, random junk, but most of it is food-related stuff from restaurants & fast food places.. )

So everyone wins, right? The seniors get fed, I save some money, it will give me an added incentive to go out more often which isn't a bad thing, the local businesses make more money, and I'm assuming the people in charge of the charity get a more positive feeling out of helping the needy and even possibly religious bonus points if any of that stuff is true.

So here's the thing.. Like I said there are a lot of coupons to restaurants, pool halls, bowling alleys, etc. Places you might take a date to. Now, I don't presume to imagine that OT is a good place to be asking dating advice, but humour me..

Some girls would think that I'm cheap if I use a coupon on a date, right? Some probably wouldn't care, and some would think that I'm being economical. Those are the main 3 camps I could run into, right? I mean, it's possible my date could say something crazy like "coupons are against my religion" or "coupons are uncanadian", or "that's not a coupon, that's a panda" , but we can probably discount crazy people (I usually do)

Anyway, what sort of breakdown of camps can I expect here? It probably varies by experience and geographical location.. and maybe race, if you wanna get rasist.. but either way I demand some answers.

I'm thinking that with the type of coupons I have, I am invincible. If she doesn't care, that's neutral.. if she thinks I'm economical, that's positive.. and if she thinks that I'm cheap, I can point out that I am feeding the ELDERLY by doing this, thus shifting the favour in my direction again... I mean, how many people feed the ELDERLY

That leaves crazies and the girls who care more about themselves than starving old people, and the crazies will still probably at least put out anyway. So in the end, using my coupons on a date would be good?
 
I have before, and will continue to do so.
 
I think the old adage, "Disregard females, acquire currency," rings true here.

There are billions of women in the world; you only have one coupon book, dood. Use it.
 
and if she thinks that I'm cheap, I can point out that I am feeding the ELDERLY by doing this, thus shifting the favour in my direction again... I mean, how many people feed the ELDERLY
Well, technically, you're helping the elderly when you buy the coupon book. You're helping yourself when you use it. ;) You getting half off on bowling doesn't help them either way; they already have their food.

I think it depends. On a first date, I think it typically gives the wrong impression -- "Hi! Nice to meet you! Let's go to some place where I can get half off on my chicken wings. You can buy your own full price dinner." ;) -- but if you've been dating awhile, then I think it's perfectly appropriate. I certainly use them with my girlfriend, and she hardly minds. I think once you cross the boundary between "strangers who are going out" to "actual friends who are dating/in a relationship" then it becomes totally fine.
 
Tell her that by feeding the homeless and saving money you have helped people in her name and have more money to spend on her
 
I remember going out with a girl once and her mom insisted I use this coupon she gave me. Otherwise, never.
 
I've used a gift certificate before on dates, why not a coupon book. If the female doesn't like, pound sand.
 
All you have to do is leave the table, pay the bill along with the coupon and get her a nice dessert. That will show you're a "take charge guy".

After getting to know someone, it's perfectly fine and we've used them on many occasions. It comes down to situational sensing and a first date is probably not the best time to break out a coupon to pay the bill.
 
Well, technically, you're helping the elderly when you buy the coupon book. You're helping yourself when you use it. ;) You getting half off on bowling doesn't help them either way; they already have their food.

I think it depends. On a first date, I think it typically gives the wrong impression -- "Hi! Nice to meet you! Let's go to some place where I can get half off on my chicken wings. You can buy your own full price dinner." ;) -- but if you've been dating awhile, then I think it's perfectly appropriate. I certainly use them with my girlfriend, and she hardly minds. I think once you cross the boundary between "strangers who are going out" to "actual friends who are dating/in a relationship" then it becomes totally fine.

I think this is the best response so far. I guess I should have specified that I would be paying for both meals... and I totally didn't think of the first date/second date/nth date dynamic for some reason..
 
I would do it on the first date because I want to give the impression of thriftiness. Anyone who thinks I'm about spending alot will be sadly dissapointed later. Not that I never spend on important things (like I'm gonna get my woman a new car-MP3 player because I want to her expand her brain & musical tastes beyond what's on AM & FM radio) but I will always go for the best price for equal quality.
 
Yes, I would use the coupons. I like having more money.

I tip (and I tip well) based on the pre-coupon amount though, otherwise you look like a jerk.

Also, what Whomp said.

I think it depends. On a first date, I think it typically gives the wrong impression -- "Hi! Nice to meet you! Let's go to some place where I can get half off on my chicken wings. You can buy your own full price dinner." ;)

Well, on a first date I'll offer to pay for her food, and she's under no duress to get something which the coupons apply to.
 
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