I understand there's ceremony, rights of passage, and the like. But I just can't fathom why any right of passage needs to cost as much as a down payment on a home (20% on a 100k starter home / condo for the newly married couple). Did anyone here on CFC have a traditional wedding? Was it worth it? Was there anything special about the day that changed what it meant to be married?
It's allll about the bride here. She has been promised "her special day" her entire life and goddamn it she's gonna get it!..
Then what happens is this.. Every single business you have to contact in order to make this special day happen will rip you off.. You want a layered cake? That'll be $100.. Oh, what is that, it's for a wedding? Make that $350
My sister just recently got married and the wedding cost around $30,000.. it was an insanely lavish party that obviously made her very happy.. but heck.. It'd be hard to screw up spending $30,000 on the average person and NOT making them happy. Heck, spend $2,000 on a party for me and I'll be ecstatic! Not to mention that if you threw the exact same party, and it WASN'T a wedding, it'd cost you maybe 50% of that $30k.
Listen, somehow it's been ingrained in our stupid little heads that these wedding things are supposed to be expensive and that you shouldn't mind being ripped off for all the things you have to get for it.. but I like the point about the mortgage down payment you made .. if two people really love eachother and want to start building a future together, what better way to do that then put all that money towards a new house? It makes far more sense
But then again, women never did make any sense..
MobBoss said:
The cost of a wedding today can be flat out nuts. My wife and I got married in a traditional ceremony, but we did it in her parents back yard. So, a lot of it was do-it-yourself kind of thing, but it was a nice ceremony without having to cost us (and her parents) an arm and a leg.
Bottom line, there are ways to do things nice, but cheap...and there is nothing wrong in doing it that way either.
I'm very surprised to hear all this from you, the old fashioned and sarcastically named prophet of common sense
I had you down as a supporter of lavish & expensive weddings for sure
The thing is that even if you do have a backyard wedding and do a lot of things yourself, some things can still cost quite a bit.. If you're not lucky enough to know someone who is a professional photographer, that will easily cost a couple grand.. and most photographers will even have the balls to NOT give you the digital copies of the pictures after the wedding is done.. and will force you to order overpriced printouts of the things. Similar things can be said about flowers, the cake, etc.
Is anyone surprised that I'm single?