I maintain that any attempt to produce a consensus with things as they are, can inherently only produce a false consensus and one largely dominated by IOTers. I also continue to fail to see why IOTers are so very eager to make a merge happen when the opinion of the NESing community as a whole - which still exists as a thing, and includes everyone who has gone or mostly gone - has never been in favour of it. It's not really reasonable, IOTers, to treat this as a goal to be got, if necessary, by opportunism, when a fair proportion of the stakeholders are out of the room: it should be a thing only done if positively desired and actively wanted by both communities, which it really isn't, or at least can't be shown to be. If it's remotely contentious, which it is, and if doing it would involve flouting the wishes of numerous people who have been or are involved, it shouldn't be done.
Therefore it should be left, and anyone who opportunistically tries to push for it with things as they are is acting thoroughly unfairly and unreasonably. This debate should halt, and happen again in a few months, if it must, when it can happen sensibly, without raising unduly high spirits and creating antagonisms, when people who are banned can, if they wish, participate, and when people who may not be sure whether they have left permanently or not will have had time to work out what they are doing.
Before that, I reiterate, any impression of opinion produced is false, and anyone who pushes for a merger is, intentionally or unintentionally, being opportunistic and unfair.