Do you want children?

[Quintillus]

There. I brought it up to 100. Nobody else vote.

Aww rats, voted before I saw this. Looks like I wasn't the first one though.

But yeah, I don't know. On the one hand I can see where it would be rewarding to bring up (hopefully) successful children and see them learning and developing. On the other hand, there are a lot of cons, as other posters have listed. It's definitely not something I'd want to embark on in the near future.

I had given some thought to SuperJay's question about parents becoming grandparents. However I've thought about it as much from the perspective of children knowing their grandparents. While I believe that it's certainly better to wait until you have a solid financial ground and stability before having children, the downside of waiting too long is the children don't know their grandparents as long. Having kids late especially cuts down on the time that children will know their grandparents as adults.

 

[Camikaze]

Do you want children?

Am I the only one who read this as a threat?

 

[Tani Coyote]

Have you seen Idiocracy? If you're smart enough to realise that there're too many people, that may change your mind.

It's a good satire on indeed, how the more responsible people wait a long time before they have kids, while countless more just pump them out at 18, 19, or 20.

It's not necessarily condemning though - my mother had my brother at 18. She didn't have me for 9 more years though!

My Dad's a dropout too. Good lord these two pulled a miracle.

I'm sure somebody's working on two-sperm cloning / baby-cooking. If the world were a saner place, you would be able to adopt (or can you?).

Let's hope someone is indeed working on that so it can be realised before I am infertile.

Why have sanity when we can deny rights to an entire group of a population based on tradition or religious dogma? Why take a few moments to reason for ourselves that such a thing has no place in a modern society when we can just read someone else's "reasoning" and come to the conclusion they don't deserve the same rights?

Enough of that rant, however. My mother told me that gays can adopt per se, by using a surrogate couple. However, I want any child I adopt to be in my own name, not the couple down the street's.

It doesn't help there's a huge stigma towards two men over two women. A single woman can often adopt much easier than a single man; I imagine homosexual couples have the same barriers.

I know the Bible only talks about male/male couples and not female/female ones but this is ridiculous.

 

[El_Machinae]

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[civplayah]

I want kids. Only two biologically, though, because more would be contributing to overpopulation, which I don't want at all.

 

[Cashie]

I want children, but no Fries, thanks.

 

[Loppan Torkel]

No kids. I wouldn't take on any others, not sure if I want any of my own.

 

[Leifmk]

Have one, another on the way, might not want to stop at two. Being a dad is the best thing ever.

And yeah, nearly a year later I can say that the only thing better than having a kid is having two kids, and I definitely want a third.

 

[Winner]

One day, sure, but I can only too well understand why some people never have kids - by the time they get to the point where all the conditions (money, partner, job security, etc.) are met, it's too late.

I am 27 and currently I am light-years from being able to provide for a family unit of three, assuming I could find a woman willing to participate in the parenting So, I put it off to some distant future, when I am forty or more, certainly no sooner than that.

 

[Disgustipated]

I kind of forgot about this thread. Nice to see the final poll results. I voted undecided, but right now I'm leaning against kids. But I admit I still sometimes think of having them. Raising a kid(s) in today's world seems scary. My lady friend's kids already know about oral sex and all that and they are only like 11 and 12 years old. I had no idea how sex was done when I was that age. I knew it existed, and it involved putting something inside of something else, that was about it. I didn't know what oral sex was back then. And her kids hear the other kids talk about it at school. And then the Foxnews (yes I know it's conservative fearmongering) article about all the pornography on wikipedia commons (and to a lesser extent wikipedia itself). I checked out some of the search results, and I have to admit it's too easy for kids to have access to pornography. If I did have kids, I wouldn't let them near a computer unless I was supervising them the entire time. The internet is a scary world.

Financially, I'm pretty well set, but my current life choices of my partner mean I won't have kids (she doesn't want anymore). And I'm okay with that.

 

[sophie]

I'm going to be an AWESOME dad someday...just not right this second

This answer. This is me right nhyah.

 

[Snorrius]

I was pondering with idea to marry some woman and make some children but as pedohysteria recently reached Russia I've decided to put this idea on hold. Too risky to become father now.

 

[Leifmk]

One day, sure, but I can only too well understand why some people never have kids - by the time they get to the point where all the conditions (money, partner, job security, etc.) are met, it's too late.

I'm turning 40 this year, my lady wife is two years younger than me, and during the last six or seven years we've observed that pretty much the majority of our extended social circle suddenly started having kids. As everyone in our peer group have reached the age where it's now or never for obvious reasons.

Went to my secondary school's 20th anniversary a while back, and the division was pretty clear: Those who had gone on to higher education past high school (and therefore necessarily moved away from that rural area, at least for a while) either had no kids yet or had very young ones; those who had not gone on to higher education and never moved away often had quite big kids (including one of my former classmates whose oldest son was already in high school at that point).

 

[Hygro]

I kind of forgot about this thread. Nice to see the final poll results. I voted undecided, but right now I'm leaning against kids. But I admit I still sometimes think of having them. Raising a kid(s) in today's world seems scary. My lady friend's kids already know about oral sex and all that and they are only like 11 and 12 years old. I had no idea how sex was done when I was that age. I knew it existed, and it involved putting something inside of something else, that was about it. I didn't know what oral sex was back then. And her kids hear the other kids talk about it at school. And then the Foxnews (yes I know it's conservative fearmongering) article about all the pornography on wikipedia commons (and to a lesser extent wikipedia itself). I checked out some of the search results, and I have to admit it's too easy for kids to have access to pornography. If I did have kids, I wouldn't let them near a computer unless I was supervising them the entire time. The internet is a scary world.

Financially, I'm pretty well set, but my current life choices of my partner mean I won't have kids (she doesn't want anymore). And I'm okay with that.

Of course, kids stumbling on porn* and understanding the concept of oral sex isn't particularly harmful.

*knowledge coming from a generation in which porn was pictures, not convenient flash movies.