How do you feel about casual sex?

[Eat_Up_Martha]

I'm all for it. I'm not turning a blind eye to the possible problems, but two consenting adults have the right to make their own decisions and deal with the consequences.

I'm a university student but I don't engage in casual sex with strangers. My girlfriend wouldn't like it.

 

[Arwon]

I disapprove of slut-shaming and of rape culture.

 

[Maniacal]

Sex between two people who love each other is tons better. And when you're in college and deeply in love, and doing it like bunnies, it's mind-blowingly awesome. It's so awesome that you might go an entire week without it just because you tired each other out that much.

I want to go back in time

Buy a keg, go to a frat party, profit.

 

[Bootstoots]

I don't feel like I have a good moral argument against it, but it doesn't really appeal to me. I'd much rather know the girl first, because I've found that how well I know a girl is a major part of how attracted I will be to her. But to each his or her own I suppose.

 

[Elrohir]

Elro: What is the problem you see with it?

Well, on a religious level, I think the idea that any sex outside of marriage is immoral is grounded in inspired Scripture, so I'm sort of obligated to think it's wrong on that basis alone.

More personally (And I suspect of more interest to you) I think it's generally gross and unhelpful. Sure, it's fun (Or so I've been told) but it's also a great way to spread disease or get pregnant, or get someone pregnant. There's serious health and lifestyle concerns that, although theoretically mostly manageable, are practically ignored by lots of people. Additionally, I think it's often used as a way of avoiding dealing with emotional problems -- think, "I don't really feel like a man, but if I screw this cheerleader in the butt, then I've gotta be," or "I'm really insecure and have daddy issues, so I'm going to have sex in a bar bathroom with this guy I just met, 'cause it makes me feel valued." No, those aren't inherent issues -- people can watch out for their health, minimize consequences, and have casual sex while paying close attention for relevant emotional issues that shouldn't be masked by sex -- but they do tend to play into it, even if it's not immediately obvious, even to either participant. And I'm not going to get into the fact that casual sex can be dangerous ("Oh hi Craigslist sexbuddy!") or take place with questionable levels of consent.

Also, on a personal level, I think it's generally gross, and I find myself less attracted to and respect less girls who engage in such behavior. (And on an equal level, respect less guys who do so) I think sex really is something that should be reserved for marriage, and I think they really worsening themselves in some perhaps indefinable way by doing so. Now, of course, I have done and do things that worsen myself too, so I try not to be overly obnoxious on this point -- but just because I shouldn't point fingers doesn't mean there isn't something that deserves to have fingers pointed at it.

So it's sort of hard for me to have a positive perception of something that I think is generally gross and typically associated with an unhealthy situation in one way or another.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

I think casual sex is awesome, even though I've never experienced it myself.

People, and the universe, just need to stop being such goddamn prudes.

I should probably expand on this.

As much as I love the idea of getting laid casually, I kinda hope for something more than just sex. As in, a relationship occurring, either before or after the sex. And when it comes to casual sex, I don't think one has an absolute need to be mature, although it is a good idea. But for relationships, maturity is definitely required, and as for myself, I just don't have the maturity, and probably never will.

As for me, I'm probably better off without sex of any sort, and without relationships as well.

And I personally think that what happens behind closed doors isn't anyone's business but the people doing it.

Spoiler :

I don't know how good of a job I did on expanding this.

Oh well.

 

[Onionsoilder]

People can do what they want, but I'm not interested. I would only care to do such things if I was actually in a strong relationship with someone.

 

[History_Buff]

I, personally, don't really care for it. I'm a big fan of the whole dating-commitment-monogamy thing. I like sharing a bond with someone before we go knocking boots.

That said, if someone else wants to go have piles of casual sex, more power to them. Use precautions of course, don't go getting your self diseased, or gods forbid, pregnant. But if that's what you want, by all means go out and get it.

It's a position of only come into with age though; back in high school, I would have told you that anyone having casual sex was an idiot. High school is hardly the time for that (though the temporary legality of jailbait does make it an awesome prospect). Having been through university, I've seen all sorts of people who can handle that relationship and still keep their life on track, so good for them. It's something of a double standard I guess, but one I'm entirely comfortable with.

 

[Leifmk]

I want to go back in time

Yeeeah, I wouldn't mind going back 20 years and doing things a bit differently. On the other hand, I wouldn't want to not end up where I am now.

 

[Tee Kay]

It's hard to form an opinion on something you've never experienced and will never experience. ( )

 

[bhsup]

One of the absolute worst Lea Thompson movies ever. Also, it's probably one of the most lasting cancers left to us by the hippies. Thanks a lot, free love.

 

[Leonel]

It might work for some people but not for me personally. I've done it both as a casual thing and in a relationship and I personally much favor being in a deep relationship before going into it.

 

[Mr. Dictator]

I've found that sex is just better when its with someone you have feelings for, deeply. Nothing's quite like tearing into each other, smoking a cigarette, then going to a friend's dinner party immediately afterwards

That said, casual sex can be completely A-Ok, so long as you know how to be mature about it.

 

[Dragonlord]

I have no problems with people having casual sex. None. One should take care about STDs and pregnancy, obviously, but that isn't really all that hard to do, is it? Hint: how hard is it to get and use a condom?

That said, casual sex was never worth a lot of effort to me. I agree with those who say sex is better when deeper feelings are involved.
For context, I'm nearing fifty , was once upon a time a university student and have been in relationships but never married.

 

[otago]

Casual sex, what the hell is casual sex. I have never been casual about any sex.
Sex with a woman I had just meet yep been there,the hostess of the dinner party was starting to believe we would be at it on the dinner table.
Believe me that sex was not casual, but it was a hell of a lot of fun for the four days before she had to go to Sweden.
A beautiful woman and a hell of a lot of fun both in and out of bed.

For those of you who do not believe it is for you that is fine, but I really used to dislike moralising types who had never been laid but who believed I should have followed their example.

 

[Ekolite]

As seemingly one of the few people on this forum who's actually had casual sex, I feel I should give my own opinion on the matter.

Actually at first it's really good. You feel like a bit of a player and have something to brag about to your friends, and of course you get the sex too. How enjoyable this is tends to relate to how good your partner (and you I suppose) actually are. I'm gay, so I like them to be well hung for one thing. (Sorry guys, size matters). Of course chances are you'll often, but not always, be quite drunk. This tends to make your confidence better but your performance worse. Avoid too much alcohol if possible.

I suppose regardless of whether it was good or not it does make you more experienced, and it adds to your scoreboard . I'm sure I sound like a douche for saying this, but it's kind of embarrassing to say you've only had say 1 or 2 sexual partners in your life.

There is of course the risk of STD's, and if you're gay, a much increased risk of HIV which is scary. For this reason I reccommend not going totally overboard, and be selective. You can't tell from looking at someone whether they have an STD, but you can often tell if they look like a slag who's probably had half the town at one point or another. In particular avoid the working classes, or in the UK what we call chavs.

Obviously use condoms. Carry at least one at all times in your wallet. If you're embarrassed to buy them from a pharmacy you can always buy them online. Also, if you really go to town then I believe you can get free chlamydia and HIV tests (at least you can over here). Remeber the worst thing that can happen is you get HIV, and the second worst thing that can happen is getting a one night stand pregnant. Condoms helpfully reduce the chances of both.

 

[Mise]

I wouldn't turn it down but I wouldn't seek it out either.


(Obviously I don't care whether other people have casual sex or not.)

 

[JohnRM]

I don't take issue with it, but I couldn't do it, myself. I would get attached too easily.

 

[civver_764]

I think people who judge others for having lots of it are worse.

 

[Quackers]

Don't like it. Love =/= sex in my mind. Personally, I rather have sex with a woman who I love.

I don't take issue with it, but I couldn't do it, myself. I would get attached too easily.

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