[RD] I'm transitioning. If you've ever been confused about the T in LGBT, ask me anything

[dusters]

Hey! All the best to you and I hope you have good social support as you transition! I'm really happy that there is a thread like this to raise awareness.

 

[Hygro]

Woo!

Here's some of CFC's past on the topic more generally. 9 year old thread. http://forums.civfanatics.com/showthread.php?t=199662

 

[Arakhor]

This is anecdotal, but there seems to be a pretty big overlap between Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and gender identity disorders. It makes sense, since so many aspects of gender are unspoken social cues that people with ASD could have a harder time picking up. Asperger's has a hereditary link. Do your friend and her daughter strike you as possibly being high functioning ASD?

Do you identify as having ASD?

 

[red_elk]

Good luck with your transition!
Is your spouse a man or woman? (Hope it's not inappropriate question)

 

[Zkribbler]

This is anecdotal, but there seems to be a pretty big overlap between Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and gender identity disorders. It makes sense, since so many aspects of gender are unspoken social cues that people with ASD could have a harder time picking up. Asperger's has a hereditary link. Do your friend and her daughter strike you as possibly being high functioning ASD?

Both were towering intellects trapped in an itty-bitty town, so neither of them fit into society comfortably. I don't think that either of them shows classic ASD symptoms, as I understand them. Daughter does have clinical depression, but that's a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome from her tour of duty in Iraq.

I just though the manifestation in three generations was weird. Perhaps it's genetic; perhaps just a wild coincidence.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Best of luck Contre!

Are you married to a woman?

Do you identify as a lesbian woman?

 

[NovaKart]

From your photo you look like you could pass so that's good. It must be really hard for those people who look too much like men to really transition to what everyone will see as a woman.

I think we're moving in that direction. I think some insurance companies are starting to offer it, but with much higher premiums than a normal coverage plan. That's because the insurance companies are categorizing it as an "elective surgery".



Same here. In fact, I still live here. I have lived in other places, but I've always ended up coming back to Cincinnati.

I'm from Lexington, not far.

 

[Daw]

Any kids so far and/or in future?

 

[Farm Boy]

Best wishes on successful procedures, supportive family and friends, and the best life possible. Should family building be in your futures, near or far, best of luck in that as well be it biological or not. The latter takes some time to wrap the head around, but love is worth it.

 

[warpus]

Whoa, way to go, you seem to be dealing with this very well, I think I would have some sort of a breakdown if I realized that I was born the wrong gender and had to change, no idea how I would deal with all of that, I don't know if I'd have the inner strength to really do anything about it or tell anyone, daamn, you surprised me today and have my full support.

What not-so-obvious things are going to change in your life after you've made the full transition from male to female? I don't know much about hormone replacement therapy, is it possible that it will lead you to seek out some new hobbies? New likes/dislikes? New ways of looking at the world? What changes to the way you lead your life that aren't so obvious to someone like me do you forsee? And what about your friends, do you think you will stay in the same circle of friends and hang out with the same people?

 

[CivCube]

Rock on, contre and Omega.

 

[Cheetah]

Are you you? Or new you?

As in, men and women have, in general, somewhat different ways of dealing with problems, communicating or which interests they have. While going through this whole hormone therapy and SRS process, have you noticed/do you expect to notice any psychological/mental differences? (Except for feeling better about being in your new body ofc.) Or was that part of you always you, and just your body wasn't you in the same way, so that nothing has changed except for your physical appearance?

 

[sophie]

Woo!

Here's some of CFC's past on the topic more generally. 9 year old thread. http://forums.civfanatics.com/showthread.php?t=199662

jesus christ some of the questions in that thread...

 

[Cheetah]

I'm actually reading through it now. Remember reading it once before, but it's still pretty interesting.

 

[warpus]

I'm glad that my tax $ is supporting such initiatives and are helping people who have to go through something like this. contre, how much of this is paid for? Did you have to pay for any of it yourself?

 

[Borachio]

Have you encountered any prejudice from the lesbian community?

 

[Gigaz]

I was always curious on how men and women are treated differently which is kind of hard to pin down.

Let's say you meet a man/woman and maybe you become friends. Do you feel treated differently now compared to when you were male?

 

[Mechanicalsalvation]

To what extent you identify your problems as emotional/ mental/ physical or psychic?

Its really an interesting issue. Everything seems to have some positive side and I am guessing although you are going through some extreme experiences eventually lessons and new insights can be drown for the use of all people out of this.

 

[emzie]

Do you identify as having ASD?

Kinda? I have no formal diagnosis but I've had two different psychiatrists independently ask me if I'd been evaluated for Asperger's. My psychologist thinks something similar but I've never pursued a formal diagnosis.

Good luck with your transition!
Is your spouse a man or woman? (Hope it's not inappropriate question)

Best of luck Contre!

Are you married to a woman?

Do you identify as a lesbian woman?

Woman. We've been together for more than a decade, married for just under a decade. I am a lesbian, ya, though wifey has a more complicated answer.

From your photo you look like you could pass so that's good. It must be really hard for those people who look too much like men to really transition to what everyone will see as a woman.

A lot of pressure gets placed on trans individuals to pass well. Not everyone can, be it because of money, medical access or other disabilities. The ones who don't pass and don't have strong family support are the ones we lose as friends. Kinda sucks =/

Any kids so far and/or in future?

HRT makes having biological children hard. For many, HRT will make having biological kids the biological way impossible.

Before I started HRT, we had a long discussion about if we wanted to sperm bank or not. We did not. If we have kids, we're going to adopt.

note I hafta goes doctor and run errands, will answer more questions when I get home ^.^

 

[Mechanicalsalvation]

Woman. We've been together for more than a decade, married for just under a decade. I am a lesbian, ya, though wifey has a more complicated answer.

It would be interesting to hear the complicated answer I think.