If you're saying there is a lot of dumb dialog going on with politicians and new anchors, you won't get any argument from me. I'm just talking about the general way I see people interacting with each other most of the time. To support your claim, you seem to be using a much narrower definition of dialog, and a much broader definition of violence, than what those words me to me, and I would also argue, most people.
But the substance of the interactions you’re referring to is essentially nothing. We can discuss ordinance all we want in a city hall meeting with no effective change to anyone’s lives except in the most negligible ways, and while that technically counts as dialogue it’s essentially meaningless and certainly does nothing to oppose or even to interact with the vast systemic violence of capitalism.
Well, conservative people didn't choose how their brains work, or their parents, or where they were born, or what ideas were instilled in them as children. It doesn't really work to walk up to a conservative and say "stop being a conservative, idiot!" change your mind to be like a communist! I mean, if you want to talk scientifically, the accepted view is that you are shaped by your biology and environment, completely. News flash, you don't get to pick either for probably the first 18 years of your life. I see this turning into a discussion about free will and determinism.
Well then if we back our scope back all this way then it’s really no use to have this conversation because then everything in the world is deterministic, which is valueless regardless of how philosophically true it is. The point is that gender identity, like birth sex, race, ability, and class, is not something that one has much control over, and is thus in my value set off-limits to reasonable prejudice. Meanwhile conservatism is a fairly conscious choice that takes significant action to maintain. Nobody is born conservative; plenty of people are born with gender identities incompatible with the one forced on them by birth sex.
So ultimately it’s clear why saying “I dislike black people, trans people, gay people, and women on the grounds of those social identities” is pretty thoroughly more despicable than saying “I dislike conservatives on the grounds of their political self-identification”, or indeed “I dislike communists on the grounds of their political self-identification”.
Regardless of your views on that, there is no evidence that being trans is predetermined. As with most things, it seems to be a product of biology and environment, and it is very hard to determine how much of each have a factor. However, I tend to have the view that environment plays the bigger role in a lot of these things. It's a very dangerous game to start saying things happening at the level of the mind are strictly biological, see: IQ.
Isn't it agreed, scientifically, that gender identity is heavily correlated with sex?
First, pretend IQ is a meaningful measure of anything (it isn’t really, but for analogical purposes.) Imagine if society constructed an IQ binary. Everyone has either an IQ of 2 or 250. Obviously this is useless because intelligence exists on a huge spectrum, but this is a good analogy for gender identity and the gender binary.
We use some external, essentially unrelated but somewhat correlated feature to determine from birth whether a person belongs to Binary A or Binary B. Let’s say cranial circumference within some threshold of literal externally observed . For their entire life this Binary, and their place in this binary, is enforced heavily.
Little Jimmy is born a genius. Actual IQ 350. However, because he was born with a small head for unrelated reasons, he is now placed in the other binary, and is treated his whole life like he has an IQ of 2. This affects everything— the clothes he gets to wear, where he is expected to shop, what careers he finds opportunities in. Gradually, this builds up into a massive dysphoria. He adopts the binary identity B.
Now it’s true that in an ideal world jimmy would be able to express his identity exactly how it was, at 350. Indeed, this IQ binary is harmful even to people who come very close to the binaries in their actual measurements. However, his dysphoria, and the contrast between the binary identity he was raised into and what is presented as the only alternative, which he comes much closer to identifying with, has pushed him into a position where he must adopt this binary identity.
Furthermore, while it’s true that environmental factors definitely changed his IQ at least a few points, maybe even 10 or 20, it’s unlikely they were able to affect him anywhere near enough to disturb which binary he identified with.
Now imagine all the same but for gender identity. Gender identity as a spectrum is much more complex than IQ, of course, but this analogy should hopefully help you to understand the function of the binary and its effect on the personal interpretation of gender identity.
Also, the whole "racist, misogynistic, classist" bit has been hurled at so many people so many times, it has lost almost any meaning to me. That just isn't a picture of conservatives that matches my experience, in any way. Also, do you honestly imagine that conservative people find your love for the poor despicable? You think those are the thoughts going through their mind?
Subconsciously for some, overtly for others.