Sigh. Exactly what is happening right now to my wife. It seems that wanting a family is a taboo, unless you have the gold for hiring assistance. In her case, bad relationship with her tutor is not helping, either. She did not want to play department politics and went her way instead. Now, after six years, she's considering to drop her PhD. Only one published article, the second one rejected and suffering bullying from her tutor, all that taking a heavy toll on drugs. Our decision to have a baby should have only delayed her one year, but now it seems that they prefer her out of business. We could try in another university. In Portugal she's made a few contacts, but I have a stable job, family nearby and an apartment in property, so not that easy to move. I don't know if academia is inherently toxic, but her workgroup surely is.