Random Rants LV: The Joy of Ranting

[bhsup]

Use that. "Your earbuds are forcing this introduction to be more socially awkward than it otherwise would be. I think, in light of that, you owe me. How about dinner?" You're either gonna get a tazing/macing or a girlfriend. What do you have to lose?

 

[Takhisis]

It was earphones, so good call by me I suppose.

Indeed.

I think I already told you, eggs and cheese in an godly combination. Of course, there's always the classic "rice and meat" combo.

What about the magic mushrooms?

Rant: I'm starting to feel that I'm harming myself by holding onto grudges for a few months.

You don't say.

American football is a plague upon the health of our high school students nationwide. It's an unhealthy and barbaric pastime. I'd vote for making it illegal for our children to play in public schools. I think less of the parents that encourage their children to take it up.

Yes, it leads to brain damage for players and TV viewers.

She even cursed at me for mentioning her.

What have I done? Giving food and a shelter to a stranger is a crime?

Mentioning people on such touchy subjects without approaching them can be considered rude. You should have asked her, and if she had said no you could have replaced her name. After all, you're not writing just about yourself.

Big thanks. And i apologise for being too cocky on CFC sometimes. I'm trying to prove myself. To the world. Sorry.

Prove? Prove what? You don't have to 'prove yourself' to anyone. You already are who and whatever you are. Have more confidence!

 

[The_J]

Use that. "Your earbuds are forcing this introduction to be more socially awkward than it otherwise would be. I think, in light of that, you owe me. How about dinner?" You're either gonna get a tazing/macing or a girlfriend. What do you have to lose?

*lol* nice one.
Respect to anyone who tries that.
(don't think I could, but I think it's at the border ^^)

 

[dusters]

@Takhisis

I wrote only good things about her on my bio. You can't even speak good openly? Like, i don't even. That is my life. She messes up a lot of stuff and she, instead of saying sorry/ admitting it all, swears at me for saying she is dear to me?

I don't even. I would go out and say - I love Michelle Obama, she seems like a perfect wife. Cops would arrest me?

I think i'm so done

edit - in my bio I didn't mention her last name. Just Diana. i thought it was enough.

@RT

I play chess since i'm 4. If it was soccer, it would be the same. if my significant other faked she is interested in chess for a long time and I found out, i would be royally angry. I'm with you in this one.

 

[Takhisis]

"No. I listened to her story. I gave her food and comfort when others weren't near."

Is she one of the recipients of your charity work?

 

[dusters]

Well, by charity work i mean that i generally tend to do favours without asking anything back. I suppose honest people feel like they should say thanks and return the favour if they feel like.

She claimed to be an orphan. Which is true, afaik. However, offering her body instead of treating me with respect is well, mean. According to my book, at least.

 

[JohannaK]

You know what's funny? I met this Chinese girl who is studying here. She has a hard time so I helped her a lot, and one day she called me at like 9 pm on a Sunday to tell me we had to meet, and when I told her I am gay she was puzzled. I think she really thought I was helping her because I wanted something from her.

We dont talk much now, though.

 

[Zelig]

Use that. "Your earbuds are forcing this introduction to be more socially awkward than it otherwise would be. I think, in light of that, you owe me. How about dinner?" You're either gonna get a tazing/macing or a girlfriend. What do you have to lose?

I'm going to use that.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Parents tell their children "don't talk to strangers".

Children who don't comply get told again, and again, and again. Those who do still get reminded regularly.

By the time we reach adulthood fear of strangers is so deeply engrained that striking up a conversation on public transport, or in a bar, or anywhere else, is nearly impossible.

People need to grow the <...> up. If someone says hello it probably doesn't mean they are trying to wave a lollipop like a magic wand and levitate you into a van.

It's not unusual for strangers to say "hi" around here when passing on the street. As long as they're not creepy about it, there's no problem.

Dear CFC, facebook and klab.lv

I'm fed up, so this will be a rant. It is about self-esteem. I have got none. Zero.

Recently I wrote an autobiography about my recent 6 years. The girl I mentioned there, Diana, she was one of the central points. I met her in 2012, probably. We were pen-friends for a long time. I saw her blog in klab.lv and she seemed very depressed, so i wrote her to cheer up and to tell her to seize what opportunities she still has. She wanted to meet me in real life or i just wanted to meet her, because she seemed desperate.

Anyway. We met and i thought we were friends. In my bio, i told/wrote everything that i have felt towards her and still feel to this day. I basically told that i love her as a friend. I love her very much.

Early in 2014, we got into a very loud quarrel while she was at my place. She told me to forget her if it's better for me, but to try to "love" her one last time. I couldn't do either. She was and always will be a friend. i don't sleep with friends. And i don't forget friends.

I totally felt like cutting after that quarrel. Instead i dyed my hair black.

After i published my bio on fb, she messaged me in a very angry tone to delete everything about her.

Like as if she wasn't a part of my life. Like as if she didn't write those hundreds of messages earlier. Like if we hadn't met in real life. Like if she didn't eat my food which i made for her when she came over many times earlier in spring of 2014.

She wants me to forget her? Ok, i can try that. But i can't pretend she doesn't exist. She has made a big impact on my life - my relationship with mom had worsened, my relationship with a sister could be better.

I know it is all my fault, it always is. There is no justice to earnest people who want to help someone like her, who claims to be without parents or relatives.

Did i not trust her? Did i abuse her? Did i take advantage of her?

No. I listened to her story. I gave her food and comfort when others weren't near. And now she wants me to delete the part in my bio where I say she is dear to me. She didn't even explain herself. She was so angry in the messages. She even cursed at me for mentioning her.

What have I done? Giving food and a shelter to a stranger is a crime?

I cut my black hair yesterday.

It is a new beginning of still trusting strangers.

I don't care anymore - you can take my everything. I got nothing anyway - mom doesn't speak with me anymore.

Today is the first day. I got nobody, but an elderish woman i rarely meet in the cemetry. She likes to talk with me now and then.

I have got no church, no friends who ask me "How are you" and my relatives, except for mom and two sisters, are dead.

This is a day i can say for sure - i will get a stable job and not bother with women anymore, unless they approach me first.

Did you ask permission before writing about her? Facebook is a very public place, and some people don't want to be written about there.

 

[dusters]

@ Valka

I didn't, i thought it's not a big deal. And no, i got 26 people in my fb, the closest people i have got. I don't like fb as a medium at all. But it would be totally fine if she asked for that post to be taken down. And she did, but so angrily that i felt totally betrayed.

If she would have said - "please, can you give a pseidonym to the girl which means me, i'm not comfortable with this text", it would be 100% ok.

Instead i got a lot of swear words and curses, orders and what not. It's not like i wrote that i had slept her or had a relationship with her (both statements would be false). I wrote that i love her and she means much to me. It doesn't imply any feelings from her side.

if she is ashamed to be called my pen-friend in public or being known as coming to my parties in public, that's plain sad.

 

[Takhisis]

OK&#8230; so you did something which gave her a right to complain. She didn't complain the right way, however, and overreacted considerably.
So, you should have asked before writing about her, and she should have reacted in a more&#8230; tempered manner.

 

[dusters]

yeah. basically that.

Plus the fact - since like high school every other kid was asking what my gender is and what i have in my pants. And what sex do i like. And do i have wet dreams. I was and am still considered a freak.

I have no private life there in Latvia. Ok, nobody cares by now.

And now - when i violate her private life by revealing that she has met me, exchanged many letters with me, it's suddenly - "oh, no, you are blackmailing a woman!!!"

I'm so fed up with this. Back in high school i almost got raped by girls who wanted to cure my gay-ness. And then i got bullied by girls and i couldn't swear back or hit back, because "Oh, a man is acting rude to girls, it's always his fault!"

I'm tired of this double faced attitude. If some of my female acquaintances don't want their names in my daily blog, they better leave me.

 

[Takhisis]

I sympathise with your plight up to the very last sentence. You can't impose on people the condition that they automatically surrender their right to privacy just by being in a romantic or other relationship with you. You yourself have agreed to my saying that you should have asked before this person's name was published, so why would you do the same thing which you acknowledge was wrong to other people?

 

[dusters]

I mean, if somebody meets me in a cafe and we have a nice chat, i'm going to post that info on my blog as something just has happened, if i feel like.

I basically mean that if people don't like their names mentioned they can stop communicating with me, since i'm not going to keep a track of who wants this or that.

I'm a writer, a blogger and out-of-closet in every possible way. If somebody tells me about their sex life i take it for granted that it's not for public in any way. If somebody meets me and i feel great, i feel like posting that "person named X made me feel great, she/he is cool/charming/insert adjective here" doesn't invade any privacy.

 

[gay_Aleks]

What about the magic mushrooms?

I don't think so. I usually put mushrooms only on rice with chicken.

 

[Farm Boy]

You know what's funny? I met this Chinese girl who is studying here. She has a hard time so I helped her a lot, and one day she called me at like 9 pm on a Sunday to tell me we had to meet, and when I told her I am gay she was puzzled. I think she really thought I was helping her because I wanted something from her.

We dont talk much now, though.

Women aren't so unlike men, really. If you'd spent significant time around her she probably wanted something(wink wink) from you too. And was confused that she'd misread the situation. It's not entirely unreasonable from a lot of human experience to think that young(or not so young!) people who spend a lot of time around each other do so either originally or later develop romantic interest in one another. Sounded like it didn't end super badly if not super good either. Hell hath no fury, all that.

 

[Civ'ed]

Petty rant time: German humor was invented for a different universe and I don't live in it. Help.

 

[Borachio]

Link to video.

 

[The_J]

Definitely better than the average German comedian.

But yeah, normally it's utter crap.

Related (and very true):


Link to video.


Rant on my own: I *HATE* high dimensional data.
I'm sure, for parts of my data there's no sensible way to explore it.
EDIT: actually, only 4 dimensions, but the variables are a lot and have complicated dependencies.

 

[Borachio]

Link to video.

Personally, I didn't find any of that funny. But that could be because I don't understand German. Or it could equally be because it isn't funny.

And HE ISN'T GERMAN.