Random Rants XLIV: I Can't Find The Answer

[NickyJ]

these are the right thoughts (yours, I mean).

Yup. Your line of thinking is absolutely right here, imo.

And you put it very well, and forcefully, too.

If I don't have the guts to say it out loud, are they thoughts worth having?

I'd just tell them to "stuff it". And smile sweetly.

How old are you? Do you live at home?

Spoiler :

My family doesn't understand why I make music. They're not particularly artistic or invested in art, which is fine, but their reception of my interests ranges from indifference to "Yeah he's young and probably just needs to get it out of his system", of course, few of my family members, the ones I'm close to, do understand it, which is heaven. Then again, it helped a lot to move out and go nuts by myself and simply not care when they misunderstand why the hell I'm doing what I'm doing. (Like "hey lj what are you going to do after you finish studying music, can you get a job with that degree, like, ever?")



Value of productivity is relative. Reasons for productivity varies. Also, much of what you do might create ripple effects and inspire other people's breakthroughs without your ability to influence it, or even know, ever.

Seriously, don't let them hate on you for creative activity. I can never concentrate long enough about a modding project to actually finish it, I've tried many times. I think it's a blissful ability to provide for a community, no matter what small it is. Also, you'd be surprised to see where your creative abilites might happen to lead you. Cough.



You're totally right, and screw those people that would ruin your hobbies. They don't deserve your time when acting up like that.

Somebody telling you how to live your life?

Kick 'em in the shins.

Sixteen and, naturally, living at home. And no, I ain't kicking nobody in the shins. That's not the way I am, and it's not the way I will be. Especially towards family. Neither will I tell them to "stuff it".

 

[Borachio]

Well, no. I don't mean literally. Though I probably would say that myself, having been brought up to speak my mind.

Just smile sweetly then. Or you could just always, you know, speak your mind in the way you see appropriate. Why not? You seem to have a perfectly valid point of view. Or do you live in the tyranny that seems to be the typical American family? Where keeping a low profile is the best, and only, option?

 

[NickyJ]

I do not view it as tyranny. I could probably speak up, but it's just not the way I am. I have, and probably always will be, a follower of the "Don't rock the boat unless necessary" philosophy. Most of the time, when I'm annoyed by a comment, I just roll it off and remain relatively happy. If one gets under my skin, I vent elsewhere. Both types of comments are relatively rare, so most of the time, things go fine.

 

[Angst]

Sixteen and, naturally, living at home. And no, I ain't kicking nobody in the shins. That's not the way I am, and it's not the way I will be. Especially towards family. Neither will I tell them to "stuff it".

Yeah it wasn't literal. But it's not proper for them to act like that about your hobbies in the first place. It's good to see you're the bigger guy here.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Crap, so it wasn't food poisoning that got my wife, it was the stomach flu. It's going around her school now and lots of kids and teachers are out. Which is really bad because I've now been exposed to it!

If I get sick, I only hope it happens before the semester starts.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Crap, so it wasn't food poisoning that got my wife, it was the stomach flu. It's going around her school now and lots of kids and teachers are out. Which is really bad because I've now been exposed to it!

If I get sick, I only hope it happens before the semester starts.

I hope it is not the kind I had where I could not move off the toilet because I was simutaneously vomiting and diarrheaing and then had to disinfect all my bedsheets.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

That kind, though slightly less extreme.

I have had the extreme version in the past though and it was insanely bad.

 

[nc-1701]

Well two weeks in I still have no clue what's going on in my Algebraic Topology class, I have literally never been this lost in a class before in my life. I have a ton of reading to do before maybe I understand something, but idk what to do...
I can't even really talk to my professor, because I'll just go up to her and I don't understand enough to even ask questions. I've taught enough myself to know going to office hours and saying "WTH" I don't understand anything, is not productive or helpful to anyone...

There you got then. But I'd like to see the actual figures before making up my mind.

After all there has to be an explanation why USA#1. And if your health service isn't the reason, what is it?

I think it's our military...

 

[salty mud]

While sat in class today someone spoke out, almost as loud as they probably could, "so are you two dating yet or what?" referring to me and someone else. Cue embarrassment and an uncomfortable 45 minute lesson. The cat's out of the bag now I suppose.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Is this the same girl offering to take you on a road trip?

And if other people are already commenting on you two, you obviously have strong chemistry. Get it over with and ask her out already.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Gotta love RL trolling.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I hate my mother so much.

 

[salty mud]

Is this the same girl offering to take you on a road trip?

And if other people are already commenting on you two, you obviously have strong chemistry. Get it over with and ask her out already.

It's more like an airtrip, and then staying at her house of residence before she takes me around her country showing me all she wants to.

Believe me hobbs I'd love to but it ain't all that easy.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Why not? Is it just possible that you are over thinking things and putting to much pressure on yourself?

Really, it can be just as easy as going up to her and saying, 'hey, do you want to do something this weekend?'. If you act* like it's no big deal, it will feel less like a huge crushing internal struggle and you'll come across as cool, confident and more attractive than if you fret about it for 2 months and when you finally get around to asking her treat the question as if you were asking her to hand over all her bank account information and her pants.

*but you better be believable**

**not as hard to do as you might think

 

[Borachio]

I hate my mother so much.

What's she done now, aimee?

 

[Supr49er]

Why not? Is it just possible that you are over thinking things and putting to much pressure on yourself?

Really, it can be just as easy as going up to her and saying, 'hey, do you want to do something this weekend?'. If you act* like it's no big deal, it will feel less like a huge crushing internal struggle and you'll come across as cool, confident and more attractive than if you fret about it for 2 months and when you finally get around to asking her treat the question as if you were asking her to hand over all her bank account information and her pants.

*but you better be believable**

**not as hard to do as you might think

Even more confident if you just ask her to a specific event - show, movie etc. "Hey, let's go to see/do xxxx on Saturday. Especially effective if you planned to do that event anyway.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Agreed.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

What's she done now, aimee?

Mean things. I don't feel like talking about it.

 

[Borachio]

Well, try not to hate her. It can't be good for you.

 

[Camikaze]

Was wondering if I should head outside for a few minutes. Checked the temperature. 43.3C. Perhaps not.

Looks like it's only going to go up for the next hour or two. Hottest it's been in years here (i.e. at my house). I'd reconsider heading out for dinner tonight, if I hadn't already paid with a voucher.