The many questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread XXI

[hobbsyoyo]

Hmm, that might be what I'm looking for.

A free teacher.

I suggested youtube and you 'rephrased' the question.

 

[_random_]

If you're a polygamist and your wives sleep with each other, does that count as cheating?

 

[madviking]

Cheating in inherent on having relationships with (a) wom(a/e)n with whom you are not married to.

 

[aronnax]

Cheating in inherent on having relationships with (a) wom(a/e)n with whom you are not married to.

I would also add in a clause on the degree of monogamy involved.

Two people in an open relation can't cheat on each other if they allowed each other.

 

[Farm Boy]

If you're a polygamist and your wives sleep with each other, does that count as cheating?

I don't know. Would it matter if it was group sex and the husband was involved? How is the marriage structured - i.e. if a wife dies does does inheritance pass to the group or to the husband only, if the husband dies, are the wives still in some form of union thus suggesting that they have a form of marriage bond with each other?

 

[Arakhor]

You should smile in your photos more often, VRWC, so that the crushing disappointment of a naked chin doesn’t make you look quite so unhappy!

 

[Grisu]

Do I have a chance of ever bedding Samantha Fox in my lifetime?

maybe if you had a sex change...

 

[shadowplay]

Is eatng canine meat actually a part of Korean culture? I've heard that it isn't historically and that it relates to famine during the war.

 

[Farm Boy]

A starving town owns no dogs?

 

[Tee Kay]

Is eatng canine meat actually a part of Korean culture?

Yes.

Korea is not exceptional in this regard though.

 

[ELITEOFWARMAN8]

The original poster may have put a lot of time and effort into making a thread and is genuinely interested in responses and desires serious discussion. When the thread falls into states rights et al you deviate from what the thread was originally intended for. Or something like that



UKIP. I just want to get out of the EU mah man.

So have I.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Sorry this is probably going to be tl;dr but I'd really like some feedback.

I had a best friend up until recently. He's only 21 and he's pretty mature most of the time. Thing is, when he starts being immature, he goes full on dickwad.

We were really close, he even officiated my wedding (as in read the vows and officially married my wife and I).

Unfortunately, around that same time he was veering off into total jerkhood. I put up with it and didn't really say anything because I thought it would be temporary and to avoid jeopardizing the wedding. Then the wedding happened and all was well, but that night he went off a cliff and just acted a fool.

Again, I deal with it and though I said a few words to him, I let it mostly go. But over the next couple of weeks he got worse and I just couldn't stand it. When he dumped his girlfriend and started leaning on me for support, I lost it. I couldn't stand to talk to him about anything serious or help him in any way when he had spent the last few months being a dickwad.

So I told him off in a series of long texts the day after he broke up with his girlfriend. That was a total jerk move on my part and I feel bad about it. I was just at my breaking point and couldn't hold it in anymore.

That's when he said I was dead to him and completely broke off the friendship. I'd like to reach out to him as I miss him as a friend. But I'm torn because him ending the friendship entirely is another symptom of his immaturity. Obviously, I did a terrible thing, but I had legitimate gripes and I did not intend, nor do I think it is warranted, to end the friendship over. I'm also afraid that he hasn't changed at all.

Is it worth reaching out to him? Like I said, I do miss him as a friend a lot. If anyone is curious I could list some of the awful things he did that sent me over the edge if that makes a difference. I left them out to cut down the length of the post. I also did other jerkish things so I in no way hold him solely responsible for this mess.

 

[Cutlass]

You lose nothing by reaching out. So you may gain, you may gain nothing, but you lose nothing. He may have learned from the experience.

 

[Borachio]

When did this break-up happen? If it's recently I would let him know that he isn't "dead" for you. And that if he ever wants to talk about this, or anything else, then you're always ready to listen.

Apart from that, what else can you do? Give him plenty of space, but always leave the door open.

 

[Quackers]

No offense Hobbs, but your forum personality seems to come out in your real life one too (short fuse, emotional head of steam-building et al). Sorry, can we have a few more details like: what did your dousch-friend do?

 

[hobbsyoyo]

You lose nothing by reaching out. So you may gain, you may gain nothing, but you lose nothing. He may have learned from the experience.

Good point. I've gotten over the "fine, see if I care, I'm not talking to you ever again either" phase.

When did this break-up happen? If it's recently I would let him know that he isn't "dead" for you. And that if he ever wants to talk about this, or anything else, then you're always ready to listen.

Apart from that, what else can you do? Give him plenty of space, but always leave the door open.

It was back in June or early July. We have not spoken since, not even a single text.

He once had a friend who slapped him in the face at a party. He swore up and down he would never talk to that guy again, but a few months later the guy started texted him and they are best buds again. So there is hope that he'd respond to me, though at the time he seemed dead set on not talking to me ever again and has followed through.

I think I will text him and see if he answers or ignores it.

Argh, my wife is still close to his ex-girlfriend so that complicates things a bit.

No offense Hobbs, but your forum personality seems to come out in your real life one too (short fuse, emotional head of steam-building et al). Sorry, can we have a few more details like: what did your dousch-friend do?

At least I'm genuine.

It's a long laundry list and I'm over most of it. Argh I was going to post some of it but it's a moot point.

I texted him and said "Hello, how are you? Do you want to start the friendship over?"
Reply: "hahaha no! I thought I made it clear to you the last time that you were dead to me."

So that's that then. Oh well, I am oddly relieved I tried even with the negative response. It was bugging me to think whether or not it was really a dead friendship and now I have my answer. Odd though a guy can slap him in the face at a party and he can get over that but a few private texts are beyond the pale! It's kind of funny actually, I made him face himself with what I said and apparently that's too much.

Thanks for the advice guys.

Edit: On reflection, he's still pretty mad over it. Why else throw in the hahahaha! part? Children will be children I guess.

 

[Deaths Advocate]

Time to grow both up imo. You conduct it over text rather than face to face? Find your balls, an go and see him


Also, if he really didn't care, he would have ignored the text. The fact he has even replied shows there is emotion.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Time to grow both up imo. You conduct it over text rather than face to face? Find your balls, an go and see him


Also, if he really didn't care, he would have ignored the text. The fact he has even replied shows there is emotion.

He lives 5 hours away.

He couldn't ignore it because he got a new phone and didn't know who I was at first. Ignoring doesn't mean someone is over an issue necessarily; quite the opposite in my experience. But I already noted he was clearly still angry over it.

 

[ace99]

Has anyone tried the pizza hut overstuffed pizza?

 

[W|M]

Yes, it's delicious.