The questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread X

[West 36]

Unfortunately no, otherwise I would.

 

[holy king]

lolfacebook.

 

[Brighteye]

If a parent is going to hit a child and the child doesn't know why and is scared, I'd say there is absolutely nothing wrong with that parent getting hit, by the child or anyone else.

If you're going to bully someone like that you need some proper discipline yourself, and if there's no-one else in the family to teach you, the police need to do it.


And as for the Facebook posts, so far you seem to have acted sensibly (except for the falling in love and getting too attached part).

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I'm not sure why I was spelling badly last night. I went to bed.

Here's the main problems with leaving:
1) There's no place to go; the government thingy for kids ends when you're 16. I'm 17 and a half. All the apartments in the area are higher than what I can afford on my paycheque.
1a) Even if I could leave, the contract law says that except for "necessities", contracts for minors (under 19) are not enforceable. This means for quite a few things, like internet, they probably would not allow me to sign a contract.
1b) I don't know how to even wash my hair by myself.
2) My mom says because I have a disability she can keep me from leaving.
3) Most of my relatives hate me because they hate my mom. The exception is an uncle who doesn't have any room for another person in the apartment. I also literally have no real-life friends.

Do you suppose Tom Petty would come get me...?

 

[holy king]

what's your official grade of disability?

could you live in one of those supervised shared flats for disabled people?

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I don't know about the grade. My mom won't tell me and she hid all the papers.

 

[holy king]

look, you will never be able to lead a fully independent life from what i gather here.

unfortunately i have no idea what the state of canada provides for people like you.
ask that one uncle to find out and beg him to deal with it and get you into whatever programme there might be for you.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I looked it up and found this page:
http://www.gov.ns.ca/coms/disabilities/

 

[Yared]

I'm on the rage train at 3:30 am, excuse this.
So i've been seeing this girl for almost 2 months, she said she loved me this weekend. now...
got on facebook when i got home about a half hour ago, saw these posted to a mutual friend of the girl and mine, who i just sorta met over FB because of her:

lmfao! i like showering with you! you try and make it a competition! bahaha

and

youre neck looks like you were attacked.... what happened???? you bad kid... tsk tsk tsk.... lets watch the young ones again

with

karate chop?!? who would dare such a thing??? and i heard they bit your nips too!! bahaha that just sounds funny... and ok! come and lets watch it! we still have 3 more seasons we didnt get to watch!



So I am PISSED. For the obvious seemingly sexual relations these two have had. Plus that she told me she was baby sitting but later when i talked didnt get any response but 'its going' (a reply to hows it going) blah.

anyway, sent her a text, at 3:15 am saying

hey. was on facebook, saww your posts to _____. what the ____? dont wanna assume things , but what am i supposed to do with that? what is going on? dont wanna be a ____, but i saw this ____. lemme know whats up in the morning ok?

IDK if thats the best way i could of said things but its out there.

rage and heartbroken. what an awful way to end a night.

so what do you think? am i right in feeling this way? did i reply the best i could? what else should i do? obviously i need to hear from her. i better hear something... idk what else to do. GAH.

I'd feel pretty crappy (read:s-word) if that happened. Maybe that's just how their friendship is?

So yes, I think what you're feeling is entirely reasonable, and that your reply was good too: you're conveying that you got hurt while at the
same time giving her some kind of benefit of doubt.

(Btw, what's your facebook? )

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Several questions about this video:

Spoiler :

Link to video.

First, where does the first clip come from? I think tis a TV show.

Then, in the video from Holland (starting 0:30), what exactly is he saying Tom is going to jump over? I can't make it out.

 

[Traitorfish]

I'm on the rage train at 3:30 am, excuse this.
So i've been seeing this girl for almost 2 months, she said she loved me this weekend. now...
got on facebook when i got home about a half hour ago, saw these posted to a mutual friend of the girl and mine, who i just sorta met over FB because of her:

lmfao! i like showering with you! you try and make it a competition! bahaha

and

youre neck looks like you were attacked.... what happened???? you bad kid... tsk tsk tsk.... lets watch the young ones again

with

karate chop?!? who would dare such a thing??? and i heard they bit your nips too!! bahaha that just sounds funny... and ok! come and lets watch it! we still have 3 more seasons we didnt get to watch!



So I am PISSED. For the obvious seemingly sexual relations these two have had. Plus that she told me she was baby sitting but later when i talked didnt get any response but 'its going' (a reply to hows it going) blah.

anyway, sent her a text, at 3:15 am saying

hey. was on facebook, saww your posts to _____. what the ____? dont wanna assume things , but what am i supposed to do with that? what is going on? dont wanna be a ____, but i saw this ____. lemme know whats up in the morning ok?

IDK if thats the best way i could of said things but its out there.

rage and heartbroken. what an awful way to end a night.

so what do you think? am i right in feeling this way? did i reply the best i could? what else should i do? obviously i need to hear from her. i better hear something... idk what else to do. GAH.

Jesus, that's rough. I have to give it you you, you're being pretty damn reasonable about this. A lot of guys would explode at something like that.
The posts certainly sound pretty suspicious, but, assuming that she's not a complete idiot and realises that they are public, it's best to be cautious. If nothing else, you avoid somehow shifting the bad-guy light onto yourself. In the circumstances, at least, your comment was entirely, even admirably well-considered.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Stellar Drift question:

When will Delta Trianguli make its closest approach to our solar system? Or has it already passed its closest approach to Sol?

 

[Takhisis]

Can you please explain the why of your fixation with Delta Trianguli?

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

It's a real life very low eccentricity close binary star. A G0V and a K4V just 0.11 Astronomical Units apart (10.225 million miles).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delta_Trianguli

Having two suns like that fascinates me. That's why.

 

[Takhisis]

Admit that it's where you come from and that you're trying to contact them after exploring this planet and confirming that it's easy to invade through its blogosphere...

 

[Lord Baal]

Unfortunately no, otherwise I would.

You could always spit-roast her.

Seriously, you're handling it pretty well. Better than I would. If my girlfriend cheated on me, I'd likely beat the crap out of her. And I don't hit women, which should give you n idea of how angry and hurt I'd be. Whoever she'd cheated with wouldn't get off that easily.

 

[Cheezy the Wiz]

I'm on the rage train at 3:30 am, excuse this.
So i've been seeing this girl for almost 2 months, she said she loved me this weekend. now...
got on facebook when i got home about a half hour ago, saw these posted to a mutual friend of the girl and mine, who i just sorta met over FB because of her:

lmfao! i like showering with you! you try and make it a competition! bahaha

and

youre neck looks like you were attacked.... what happened???? you bad kid... tsk tsk tsk.... lets watch the young ones again

with

karate chop?!? who would dare such a thing??? and i heard they bit your nips too!! bahaha that just sounds funny... and ok! come and lets watch it! we still have 3 more seasons we didnt get to watch!



So I am PISSED. For the obvious seemingly sexual relations these two have had. Plus that she told me she was baby sitting but later when i talked didnt get any response but 'its going' (a reply to hows it going) blah.

anyway, sent her a text, at 3:15 am saying

hey. was on facebook, saww your posts to _____. what the ____? dont wanna assume things , but what am i supposed to do with that? what is going on? dont wanna be a ____, but i saw this ____. lemme know whats up in the morning ok?

IDK if thats the best way i could of said things but its out there.

rage and heartbroken. what an awful way to end a night.

so what do you think? am i right in feeling this way? did i reply the best i could? what else should i do? obviously i need to hear from her. i better hear something... idk what else to do. GAH.

You're being far to generous. I would speak to her once more and only once more: simply to inform her that you'll not be speaking to her ever again.

Utterly unforgivable.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

I'm not sure why I was spelling badly last night. I went to bed.

Here's the main problems with leaving:
1) There's no place to go; the government thingy for kids ends when you're 16. I'm 17 and a half. All the apartments in the area are higher than what I can afford on my paycheque.
1a) Even if I could leave, the contract law says that except for "necessities", contracts for minors (under 19) are not enforceable. This means for quite a few things, like internet, they probably would not allow me to sign a contract.
1b) I don't know how to even wash my hair by myself.
2) My mom says because I have a disability she can keep me from leaving.
3) Most of my relatives hate me because they hate my mom. The exception is an uncle who doesn't have any room for another person in the apartment. I also literally have no real-life friends.

Do you suppose Tom Petty would come get me...?

I don't know about the grade. My mom won't tell me and she hid all the papers.

This is nuts. Not you, Aimee - the situation. Your mother has no right to keep medical and psychological information from you, especially at your age.

What disability does your mother say you have? Can she prove that in court, with the proper medical records from doctors?

There is another possible way: emancipation. That means elevating an almost-adult to full adult status. This means you could indeed sign your own contracts. Of course, a lot of responsibilities also come with adult status, but you would have help with those, through various social agencies at all three government levels (municipal, provincial, and federal). Mind you, I don't know how that would work in your province. I only know of somebody here who was emancipated at age 16. She had her own apartment and still attended high school (we shared a French class and were in a couple of school clubs together, which is how I got to know about this). You wouldn't be kicked out to fend for yourself - these social agencies (ie. Canadian Mental Health Association and the corresponding one in Nova Scotia) have an incredible variety of programs and subsidies available to help people - everything from money management, apartment hunting, and household and personal matters.

Have you spoken to your uncle about any of the things that go on between you and your mom? Would he be willing to help you, even if just as moral support?

As I said before, I think it would be helpful for you to talk to a school counselor. Of course, I don't know what degree of privacy laws Nova Scotia has, whether they'd be obliged to inform your mother or whether they would have to keep everything confidential.

 

[Traitorfish]

You're being far to generous. I would speak to her once more and only once more: simply to inform her that you'll not be speaking to her ever again.

Utterly unforgivable.

I suppose he wants to make sure his suspicions are right. I mean, the posts, while certainly incriminating, lack context, so it's hard to know what they really mean. I'd be sceptical of anything but the obvious, but, the situation being what it is, I'd say he's making the smart choice by at least trying to figure out what's going on. Her reaction, whether she confirms or denies his suspicions, will probably tell him all he needs to know.

 

[West 36]

I'd feel pretty crappy (read:s-word) if that happened. Maybe that's just how their friendship is?

So yes, I think what you're feeling is entirely reasonable, and that your reply was good too: you're conveying that you got hurt while at the
same time giving her some kind of benefit of doubt.

(Btw, what's your facebook? )

Jesus, that's rough. I have to give it you you, you're being pretty damn reasonable about this. A lot of guys would explode at something like that.
The posts certainly sound pretty suspicious, but, assuming that she's not a complete idiot and realises that they are public, it's best to be cautious. If nothing else, you avoid somehow shifting the bad-guy light onto yourself. In the circumstances, at least, your comment was entirely, even admirably well-considered.

You could always spit-roast her.

Seriously, you're handling it pretty well. Better than I would. If my girlfriend cheated on me, I'd likely beat the crap out of her. And I don't hit women, which should give you n idea of how angry and hurt I'd be. Whoever she'd cheated with wouldn't get off that easily.

You're being far to generous. I would speak to her once more and only once more: simply to inform her that you'll not be speaking to her ever again.

Utterly unforgivable.

I suppose he wants to make sure his suspicions are right. I mean, the posts, while certainly incriminating, lack context, so it's hard to know what they really mean. I'd be sceptical of anything but the obvious, but, the situation being what it is, I'd say he's making the smart choice by at least trying to figure out what's going on. Her reaction, whether she confirms or denies his suspicions, will probably tell him all he needs to know.

First, thanks for all the responses, and I apologize for bringing facebook crap and belittling myself with it here, but I had to say something to someone and 3:30 am is a hard time to rant to anyone.
Here's the situation, got a text from her in the morning as I hoped, saying the shower thing was they both got were texting as they got in the shower, thus that. Still hurts that a joke like that would be played but, thats how it goes.The hickeys were from another girl, she karate chopped them to make them worse. And his ex is crazy or something so she writes like that to try to piss her off.. So jokes, thankfully, and I while I'll believe her I can't just go trust her fully with something like that. I also talked to the guy and he said nothing was going on. Naturally if they were lying how different would the story be? Anyway, I apologized and she accepted, without hesitation, which actually made things seem pretty ok, considering with anyone else I could easily see this exploding. Then went on with the 'I miss you' things and then later she asked if I'd be up for hanging out the hour-hour and a half she had free. We ended up hanging for about 3 hours and it went well. So, that's done with it seems and I'm feeling quite a bit better. Glad I handled it the way I did. Unfortunately she went away for the weekend to hang out with friends but I guess I should be feeling good now. Heh. That pissed-off full of sorrow feeling sucked. Can't say I'm totally happy but all things considered I'm feeling good. Thanks again though guys.

And as for the Facebook posts, so far you seem to have acted sensibly (except for the falling in love and getting too attached part).

Heh, yeah, that does suck. But she says its mutual, so wooot