Tinder?

[Narz]

Anyone here use it? I haven't got laid off it yet, I did have a couple dates with a slightly older woman, she's pretty busy around the holidays, we'll see if anything happens afterward & a couple of dates who flaked on me & then a couple that I didn't see going anywhere I bailed on (I didn't flake, just mentioned I changed my mind).

I'm a cheap guy but I'm tempted to get premium for the 5-super-likes. About half the girls I super-like are flattered enough to write me back.

 

[Kennigit]

I've tried to get coffee dates/meetings on it

The very first person i asked agreed and I had a good <1 hour time. Girl was very receptive to the coffee house. No response after

No results otherwise. I've flaked on one agreement, had a few flakes on me (flakes weren't "no shows" but a heads up wont make it)

I have no idea how people on tinder use it otherwise. Coworkers who have never used it refer to it as exclusively a hookup app. I don't know how to do that. At least not without meeting for a coffee or drink to at least meet the person

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

I've been using it for about a year and so far every girl I've matched with either fizzled out after some message exchanges, or flaked out on me when I asked to meet up for coffee.

 

[MagisterCultuum]

I installed it three weeks ago today, but have not used it much yet.

I have neither sent nor received any messages.

I'm not really sure how to go about starting a conversation based on profiles containing such little information.

The fact that I don't drink either coffee or alcohol also makes suggestions for casual first dates a little harder.

(That PA student from the ER two weeks ago seemed like a better match than any on the app, and having already spoken in person for almost two hours it was easier to think of how to message her.)


It now says that I have 7 matches, which are all profiles that barely qualified for a right swipe. Half of them are younger than I really find comfortable.

There were a couple profiles that I might have wanted to "superlike," but I accidentally swiped up on too many profiles before I had a clue what that did. (On most I was trying to see more details, and a couple I was trying to dismiss.) One of my matches is from a "superlike" that would have been a pass.


I noticed that the number of "likes" I have on OkCupid went up right after installing the other app. I guess it could be a coincidence, but I'm sure one mutual like on that site is someone I know I first saw and liked on Tinder but did not like me back there. (I remember the app saying that we had one mutual Facebook friend, which OkCupid does not do, and was easily able to find her among that friend's friends.)

 

[The_J]

I'd use it, but I don't have facebook, so need to look for some other way.
Some of my coworkers use it, and have some sort of success with it (at least they go on dates via it), so I guess it's working around here.

 

[downtown]

I think it looks like fun, I probably would have used it if it existed before I got married. Many of my co-workers use it, and have either met steady girlfriends that way, or at least had funny stories.

 

[Lord of Elves]

My experience as a college-aged human being has been that meeting people through Tinder is actually negatively correlated with the possibility of you and that person ever boinking. At least where I am, we are trying to cultivate a sexual culture that is so aloof and l'aissez-faire that actually entering into a physical relationship with someone through Tinder is very naive and lame.

Gripe, gripe, gripe.

 

[Kozmos]

I haven't but I don't know why. Laziness to cultivate an online profile, weirdness about swiping on people, unlikelihood of the type I want using Tinder. (smart, ready to murder me, immature humor)

 

[Farm Boy]

My experience as a college-aged human being has been that meeting people through Tinder is actually negatively correlated with the possibility of you and that person ever boinking. At least where I am, we are trying to cultivate a sexual culture that is so aloof and l'aissez-faire that actually entering into a physical relationship with someone through Tinder is very naive and lame.

Gripe, gripe, gripe.

Ooooh! Once you hit that level of sophistication sometimes older remedies start becoming acceptable again. Is your campus edgy enough that you could go to the Newman Center for mass(Catholic or not, everyone loves a potential convert) and as a dating vector? Or perhaps a community(rather than campus) protestant congregation with an elderly parishoners that would eagerly like to set up their granddaughters with the smart and nice young college boy? Maybe Temple if those are more the thing in your area.



If I'm to be honest, while Tinder looks hilarious, Facebook without Tinder gives me heartburn when I think too hard about trying to use it. Tinder looks absolutely terrifying. I don't know how ya'll have the chops for the steady stream of rejection that seems to flow from online interactions. My skin never actually got all that thick even when I was half decent(for me) at the game.

 

[Angst]

I have a girlfriend.

I love her but I feel like I'm missing out on all this new technology.

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

If I'm to be honest, while Tinder looks hilarious, Facebook without Tinder gives me heartburn when I think too hard about trying to use it. Tinder looks absolutely terrifying. I don't know how ya'll have the chops for the steady stream of rejection that seems to flow from online interactions. My skin never actually got all that thick even when I was half decent(for me) at the game.

The worst is how passive-aggressive some of it is, because of how easy and commitment-free online messaging is and how easy to ignore. I've only ever had a straight "no" from someone once, and I thanked them for it, because everyone else does the whole "I'm busy maybe some other day..." or "something just came up..." or "oh I missed your message..." a few times and then I get the point, but seriously, just say no to me if you're not interested, please.

 

[CommonKnowledge]

Ever since seeing how other people use it I've been keeping well away. I walked in on a friend of a friend watching TV and absent mindedly swiping on their phone which, on closer inspection, turned out to be Tinder. When I asked them about it he said "yeah I just swipe right for like twenty minutes a day and then see what matches I get." Surprisingly that mentality seems all too common.

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

I swipe "yes" on every single person too, just fire it up once a week or so and swipe right until I am out of swipes. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I am looking for more social connections and that's the context I am using the app for. Perhaps your friend is the same. I find it more disquieting how the app is mostly entirely based on carefully picked over and mulled over photos.

 

[Kozmos]

I thought you could read people's profile? It's just picture based?

 

[CommonKnowledge]

Just picture unless it was changed recently. You can't even send messages until both parties have swiped to the right.

 

[Hygro]

NETFLIX AND SLAY

 

[Kennigit]

There are profiles

Typically everyone keeps it less than 3 sentences

 

[sophie]

I met my current girlfriend through tinder. I'm quite happy with the product - granted I live the Bay so my experiences are probably fairly different to other areas

It's a great service as long as you:

Have your profile on lock (good, diverse pictures and an interesting, but not overlong or whiney bio)

Have your icebreaking on lock (asking INTERESTING questions relevant to their bios or else something clever or funny)

Have your texting game on lock

Other than that it's just a numbers thing. Over the course of 3 months I swiped through maybe about 6-700 profiles (swiping right far more than left), got matched with around 20 girls, went on face-to-face dates with 5 of them. I don't really think of it as much of a hook-up app. For me it's more of a way to get out and meet new people if you don't have much of a pool available to you.

 

[Hygro]

My buddy (also Berkeley) swears that sending long messages on tinder is a winning strat. I haven't ever used Tinder but I find that highly dubious. Is there something about Tinder that brings out such cretinous men that long texts work better than short?

 

[warpus]

I tried it for the first time on my trip to Norway, and would "like" a couple girls here and there during downtime, but didn't really have much time for it. Spent a small amount of time setting up my profile, and for some reason it got populated with 100s of my "like"s on facebook. There's stuff like E.T. and humour sites on it, Civ, video games, Space Balls, some silly stuff, etc. so I wanted to remove some of that, but.. there's no way. So I figured that hurt my chances if they saw a bunch of video games or whatever, so I didn't put too much effort into it. App feels gimmicky the way it is set up. Anyway, out of all the matches I got, the most positive one ended up being a bot, which tried to send me to a sex site.

I've fixed up my profile since, and got a couple matches here and there, but have been too lazy to do a follow up.