While We Wait: Writer's Block & Other Lame Excuses

[Terrance888]

Merry day and happy nights!

 

[mayor]

Marry Christmas you Godless heathens

 

[Terrance888]

Insert witty comment here.

 

[Eltain]

Woow.

Didn't even spell it right.

 

[Terrance888]

I think I spelled et correctly.

 

[North King]

Clearly he meant for you to join yourself to a holiday in holy matrimony.

 

[Arrow Gamer]

Terrance, do you need an Indian Ghost writer? I know a guy who knows a guy.

 

[Terrance888]

I AM OBVlOUSLY SELF RELIANT AND I CAN HANDLE UPDATING BY MYSELF, LIKE NK, BUT FASTER, AND NOT AS WELL MADE.

edit: Sorry for the insult NK,

 

[North King]

It's chill, that was sort of the opposite of a backhanded compliment... A fronthanded insult?

 

[Thlayli]

Merry Christmas to all of you.

 

[Daftpanzer]

I ate a lot of food and drank a lot of alcohol.

 

[mayor]

Woow.

Didn't even spell it right.

Yes I did, I want you to marry Christmas.

Spoiler :

I blame autocorrect

 

[Terrance888]

Spoiler unchristmassy stuff :

You know what I am annoyed about at the moment?

Players who quit city busy RL, then I find them starting their own IOT/NES games, Story threads, joining stuff...

If you need to Quit, I really want to know WHY. Loss of interest? Bad rules? No action? Personal problem? Jeez Louise, if you tell me I can change it and you might rejoin. If it really is a Real Life problem, then why did you cut mine over other things- that would be a good reason too. Then I won't feel betrayed every time I browse the Non-NESing forums and find all these former players who started big projects right before, after, or during quiting due to RL pressure.

 

[Lord_Iggy]

Honesty in quitting would be useful. Sometimes you genuinely feel uninterested in a setting, or sometimes you feel that you don't want to write a really significant orderset. Sometimes you would rather put your time into something else, and sometimes you genuinely do face a short-term or long-term free time reduction.

That information can be useful to the moderator, who often suffers from a dearth of meaningful feedback.

 

[spryllino]

Not everyone wants to tell you how much they have come to hate you, how stupid or annoying you are, how they dislike the entire premise of the NES, how they have descended into a sudden depression or illness, how they have acquired a new job, a girlfriend or a computer game, or how their computer has stopped working, because these things are variously rude, private, or, well, self-defeating. I imagine that those causes probably cover quite a lot of quitting. Also, a lot of people quit because they can't be bothered at all, and if that's the only reason then it really doesn't help any mod in the slightest to know that that is the case; you can't amend a NES to cater for players who really can't be arsed.

 

[Angst]

What anybody wants isn't the equivalent of what anybody should just like it is the equivalent of what anybody must. I know there are no contracts here but come on man, ten seconds ain't gonna kill ya.

I know what I've done to Starlife and Iggy in the past, and I'm not particularly proud of it, that's not to say I try to make sure telling people what's going on.

 

[spryllino]

Well, maybe. I do generally like to tell people why I quit if I quit, myself. I don't think one ought to be sanctimonious about it, though, and I don't think mods ought to think they have a right to be told about their players' private lives or for their players to be impolite to them.

 

[Terrance888]

I'd personally love it if people truthfully tell me I'm a f---er and my NES is a s---hole. Or I am hard to understand. Or the NES is overall boring. Or whatever. Gives me perspective and allows for change.

That said, I will take everyone's opinions in consideration, but something bad enough to force an individual to leave weighs pretty heavily. If things are truly boring, I can take action after the 1st leaves and patch the wall before the wolf gets the rest of the sheep. If things are truly f___ed up, then I can promise to change, take greater heed to player suggestions, and overhaul the NES.

As for the moderator side, I personally feel bad if I don't post an update on how I'm doing every couple of days. I've been on the recieving end of that way too often. If I have an excuse, I share. If not, I admit laziness and move on. My personal take is that openness breeds connections. I admit not many will feel as happy as me as being open- a while back I posted personal to-do lists as personal motivation for me to better my real life (it worked!) But some... Just some...

I never asked for personal info whatsoever, but merely actual justification for those specific players who leave for "RL", and then join 3 IOTs and 2 NESes that very afternoon. Or start a story. Or begins role playing a lot suddenly in every other NES than mine. Or start asking around for new NESes to soak up time.

 

[Symphony D.]

Not everyone wants to tell you how much they have come to hate you, how stupid or annoying you are, how they dislike the entire premise of the NES, [...] a lot of people quit because they can't be bothered at all, and if that's the only reason then it really doesn't help any mod in the slightest to know that that is the case; you can't amend a NES to cater for players who really can't be arsed.

Implication: a significant fraction of players don't actually consider very strongly what they're joining or why.

 

[spryllino]

Implication: a significant fraction of players don't actually consider very strongly what they're joining or why.

Isn't that true? But anyway, if players did consider very strongly what they're joining and why, they might never join anything anyway. I'm not sure it's even possible to get a decent impression of what you're joining, in quite a lot of cases, before you do it.