warpus
Sommerswerd asked me to change this
Getting married isn't something you "Just try" its a promise to stay together with someone "Till Death do us part."
I'm sorry baby.. I'm in this for the long haul!

Getting married isn't something you "Just try" its a promise to stay together with someone "Till Death do us part."
I found my current girlfriend by talking about my problems on the Internet....I was a nice guy for a while. Then I became a prick and that is how I got my first, and every girlfriend, since then.
However, I definitely hope that I can spend the rest of my life and have a kid with someone awesome.
My sentiments exactly.If you can't put your trust in your partner, but feel you can in a piece of paper, well that's just weird...and a bit sad, when you think about it.
It's not objecting, it's not seeing the point. I might get married just for the occasion of it. But it would add nothing to my relationship.I don't get where you guys are coming from with this "you can trust a piece of paper but not your spouse" stuff. What does that even mean?? Do you honestly believe that someone would suggest you get married to someone you can't trust? I just... it's like... you can't... but...
Are you objecting to getting married because you think it's like you're selling out or something? Being too traditional? Objecting to people getting married for the wrong reasons? Feeling that you don't need a "piece of paper" to prove you love someone? I'm just guessing... care to elaborate?
It's not objecting, it's not seeing the point. I might get married just for the occasion of it. But it would add nothing to my relationship.
And I simply don't understand why people feel the need to get married. For the reason stated. Unless when said person is a religious person, then I can see the motivation.
You make it sound so romanticWell, there's a whole bunch of legal rights and what not you get when you get married.
I don't get where you guys are coming from with this "you can trust a piece of paper but not your spouse" stuff. What does that even mean?? Do you honestly believe that someone would suggest you get married to someone you can't trust? I just... it's like... you can't... but...![]()
Are you objecting to getting married because you think it's like you're selling out or something? Being too traditional? Objecting to people getting married for the wrong reasons? Feeling that you don't need a "piece of paper" to prove you love someone? I'm just guessing... care to elaborate?
Wouldn't it be simpler to just go by what I said?
I'm not objecting to getting married - simply:
- not doing it
- pointing out it's unnecessary
- suggesting its basis is dubious
If anything, it seems little more than an outdated relic from times when it represented associations of property.
Well SJ, that's a fine long list (and a great reminder why this DOMA business is for the birds, really ... it's like ... damn! ... ok?) but what Bathsheba and I were referring to was with regard to trust. As in the emotional need to get married.
I am speaking from a financial point of view, silly people.![]()
I'm not sure I understand your answer. You are saying the financial matters are the reason never to marry? Are you saying you cannot fully trust a woman and are afraid she's going to take you for all your money?
I actually do believe in marriage. It shows full and complete trust in the other partner. If you don't trust your partner, I can understand not getting married.
I would like to get married eventually, yes. It's one of my "reach" life goals, along with becoming a history professor.
You knew what was coming when you piqued my overactive imagination.
Er, well...I hate to say it, but that's pretty much it. I mean, it's not all about the money - hell, I don't exactly have a lot of that anyway - but let's be realistic here. Half of all marriages end in divorce; it's not exactly a wise move to give someone the power to destroy you and trust them not to do so.
That said, I think a lot of it has to do with the societal assumption that people have to get married to be happy. If kids would just wait a while (maybe til their mid 20's) before marriage, I think we'd see that divorce rate plummet pretty quick. Even I might be amenable to it when I'm that old.
Yeah, that number seems off. The stat I have seen shows that 100% of divorces start in marriage.u haz teh fakts wit dat?